**The Official Hopeless Romantics Thread**

[taphntm]

yes indeed "it is better to be in the middle of a desert than be with a contentious woman." Even though that is apparently not your situation
I can contend with that statement.

[Jessica41]

I just can't handle it. I think most of it comes from the fact that for three years while in college I never slept alone and then when I finished school and went home I was always sleeping alone. Now that I am out on my own, with a really comfortable and large bed, I feel the need to have someone in my bed again like in college.

- Matt

I was with someone for 3 yrs and 2yrs. Sleeping alone was a new concept to me. I'm used to it now though. it still sucks :thumbsdow

[gbs3769]

Ok. Serendipity is a go, and since Limewire won't load for me to download some August Project with I am off to bed.

- Matt

[jfolden]

that's a good sign, unless she's sleeping with multiple people. unless you like that kind of thing.
No, I'm not into that kinda thing at all. Believe me, I've been hanging with another girl for the past few weeks and even though I've done nothing with her but sleep in the same bed, I feel bad that I've been hangin' with this other girl a few times. My friends keep giving me shit about having girlriend #1 and #2 but the girl I've been in the same bed with is just a friend imo and I hope she feels the same way cause damn i'd hate to lead her on and hurt her, but I told her that about two months ago that I thought she and I both wanted to be only friends. Sorry, that's off the subject. When I'm drunk, I tend to ramble. I don't think she's sleeping with anybody. If she is, it's none of my business. I just think she is amazing and, well, even though I think she's outta my league, I'd at least like to know for sure if she only wants my friendship or something more.

[Jessica41]

No, I'm not into that kinda thing at all. Believe me, I've been hanging with another girl for the past few weeks and even though I've done nothing with her but sleep in the same bed, I feel bad that I've been hangin' with this other girl a few times. My friends keep giving me shit about having girlriend #1 and #2 but the girl I've been in the same bed with is just a friend imo and I hope she feels the same way cause damn i'd hate to lead her on and hurt her, but I told her that about two months ago that I thought she and I both wanted to be only friends. Sorry, that's off the subject. When I'm drunk, I tend to ramble. I don't think she's sleeping with anybody. If she is, it's none of my business. I just think she is amazing and, well, even though I think she's outta my league, I'd at least like to know for sure if she only wants my friendship or something more.

Best way to find out is to ask :)

[jfolden]

Best way to find out is to ask :)

Exactly, that's what tomorrow night is for when we're out at the same capacity. That is assuming things are going well. :)

[jfolden]

Ok. Serendipity is a go, and since Limewire won't load for me to download some August Project with I am off to bed.

- Matt
So, I don't wanna overstep my bounds here, but did anything ever get decided with the intern? Just curious if you came up with a resolution?

[Jessica41]

Exactly, that's what tomorrow night is for when we're out at the same capacity. That is assuming things are going well. :)

:thumbsup :thumbsup good luck.

[jfolden]

:thumbsup :thumbsup good luck.
Thanks!!!! I'm gonna need it!!! :)

[gbs3769]

Exactly, that's what tomorrow night is for when we're out at the same capacity. That is assuming things are going well. :)

Good luck. I hope all goes well.

So, I don't wanna overstep my bounds here, but did anything ever get decided with the intern? Just curious if you came up with a resolution?

I think I'm going to take things as they come with her. I think her and one of my other friends are taking me out to dinner for my birthday this week. I'm going to bo gone the following week and then two weeks after that. I think she is gone the week after that so there isn't going to be a lot of time to be together. We'll just see how it goes, it could just end up being some small summer fling. Which wouldn't necessarily be a bad thing.

- Matt

[davehead34]

I met this chick from MySpace last night for the first time...It went...OK...It was fun, but wierd. Difficult to explain...I pretty much gave her no love whatsoever all night and ended up sleeping with her. Strange. Dumb broads. Oh well. Just thought I'd drop in and say what's up :) I'm gonna go blaze now :) Vacation rocks :cool

[gbs3769]

Nice Chase. Nice.

- Matt

[ethaxton]

I met this chick from MySpace last night for the first time...It went...OK...It was fun, but wierd. Difficult to explain...I pretty much gave her no love whatsoever all night and ended up sleeping with her. Strange. Dumb broads. Oh well. Just thought I'd drop in and say what's up :) I'm gonna go blaze now :) Vacation rocks :cool

:thumbsup :hump

The girl I randomly hooked up with a couple weeks ago ran into me at the bar Thurday night. Hadn't called her or anything since then and she asks if she can come home with me that night, so of course I said yes :) I feel bad because I know she wants more than random sex, but at the same time I dont feel bad because I dont want more and she initiated this second rendez-vous.

[davehead34]

Will someone please tell me why the wrong chicks are always attracted to me (i.e.: the crazy ones who are about four years younger than me)? My youngest brother's friend won't stop text messaging me and calling me! I can't stand this stuff! I told her there's nothing there, and that I live in Cali, she lives in RI. There's no possible way this is going to happen. Frustrating. Very frustrating.

[gbs3769]

Sorry Chase. I don't have much that I can tell you. They are just too immature to understand.

- Matt

[Jessica41]

I met this chick from MySpace last night for the first time...It went...OK...It was fun, but wierd. Difficult to explain...I pretty much gave her no love whatsoever all night and ended up sleeping with her. Strange. Dumb broads. Oh well. Just thought I'd drop in and say what's up :) I'm gonna go blaze now :) Vacation rocks :cool

So are you going to see her again?

[davehead34]

So are you going to see her again?

First, thanks, Matt. She is extremely immature and indecipherable, like most of the floosies that happen to fall into my lap. Did I mention she was 17?...

Second, no, I hadn't planned on seeing her a second time; however, I was at Providence Place Mall yesterday and I (no bullshit) ran into her. I couldn't believe it. The second time in my life I run into this girl happens to be at the largest mall in RI during lunchtime, no less. Of course, I made the smallest small talk, and, as politely as humanly possible, ducked the hell out of there as quickly as possible. I had no plans on talking to this lady ever again, yet I ran into her at the mall, which isn't even in the same state that she resides. She lives in MA! In fact, she came down from Cape Cod to go shopping that day at Providence Place! How the hell does this happen? I suppose it's some glitch in the already twisted system god has implemented.

On somewhat of a random note, vacation's going pretty sweet. I don't know for the life of me why I vacation at my parents' house in RI when I could easily rent out a beach house in San Diego. Oh well. I have my two DMB shows this weekend. I suppose that accounts for my reason for being here :) I can't wait to get back to SD, though. Speaking of SD, Matt - when are you going to SD, again? I believe I'm flying back on Tuesday. I believe you're leaving on Thursday? Or is it Wednesday? Either way, let me know because it'd be cool to go drinking with you.

[Jessica41]

That's crazy Chase, but if you run into her again, I would say you need to maybe re-evaluate the situation. That kind of stuff just doesn't happen everyday.

[davehead34]

That's crazy Chase, but if you run into her again, I would say you need to maybe re-evaluate the situation. That kind of stuff just doesn't happen everyday.

I would normally agree with you, Jess, but this girl is quite different than I had previously anticipated. To save a bit of time and space on the Ants server, I'll refer you to the most recent MySpace.com blog entitled, "Yeah...Warning" or something like that. It sums up the experience with her rather quickly, except I don't mention that I slept with one of those chicks. Essentially, I have no desire to meet back up with those chicks ever. Again. They're a bunch of prick-teasing, immature bitches that give cool chicks like you, and others, bad names. IMHO, seeing her again was not a hint of luck; rather, an awkward twist of shitty fate.

[gbs3769]

Speaking of SD, Matt - when are you going to SD, again? I believe I'm flying back on Tuesday. I believe you're leaving on Thursday? Or is it Wednesday? Either way, let me know because it'd be cool to go drinking with you.

I leave on Friday night. I know that I have plans on Wednesday night to see some DMB cover band with my boy Darren who lives in SD. If you are back you should come out. You've got a PM with my number...

- Matt

[Jessica41]

I would normally agree with you, Jess, but this girl is quite different than I had previously anticipated. To save a bit of time and space on the Ants server, I'll refer you to the most recent MySpace.com blog entitled, "Yeah...Warning" or something like that. It sums up the experience with her rather quickly, except I don't mention that I slept with one of those chicks. Essentially, I have no desire to meet back up with those chicks ever. Again. They're a bunch of prick-teasing, immature bitches that give cool chicks like you, and others, bad names. IMHO, seeing her again was not a hint of luck; rather, an awkward twist of shitty fate.

Apparently you don't care if she sees it :lol

That is odd though.
When my ex still was in my town for school, I never ran into him once in the whole year after we broke up, and I live in a SMALL town. Maybe you just have bad luck ;)

[Dancing Ants]

ok. i was with this girl tonight, and we've had a very rockyish relationship. we dated back last summer, then i got made at her for stupid stuff back in march, and she came back from college, so we've been hanging out lately. So today she says call her if I want to hang out with her (which i ALWAYS do). so i call her at 8, we go eat (Jason's Deli..nothing too fancy), and then we drive around for a while. As we get back to town, we're trying to figure out something to do, and I thought she wanted to go home, because she was kinda acting like she was. so I take her home, and then I, not wanting to be alone, head out to my friend's house to blow off massive firecrackers. So i get home, check her blog, and she says how she drove around for another hour or so cause she didn't want to be alone at her house. ???? I realllllyyy wanted to keep hanging out, but she was giving me the "take me home" signals, or so i thought. what are your thoughts, ladies?

[Jessica41]

ok. i was with this girl tonight, and we've had a very rockyish relationship. we dated back last summer, then i got made at her for stupid stuff back in march, and she came back from college, so we've been hanging out lately. So today she says call her if I want to hang out with her (which i ALWAYS do). so i call her at 8, we go eat (Jason's Deli..nothing too fancy), and then we drive around for a while. As we get back to town, we're trying to figure out something to do, and I thought she wanted to go home, because she was kinda acting like she was. so I take her home, and then I, not wanting to be alone, head out to my friend's house to blow off massive firecrackers. So i get home, check her blog, and she says how she drove around for another hour or so cause she didn't want to be alone at her house. ???? I realllllyyy wanted to keep hanging out, but she was giving me the "take me home" signals, or so i thought. what are your thoughts, ladies?

She's probably playing the "hard to get/act like you don't care/want to hang out as much as you do" game. Call her up and ask her out for dinner or something... if she keeps doing it, ask her what's up.

[gbs3769]

So surprisingly, I got a card from my ex today. She had sent me a birthday card on my birthday.

The full text reads:

"one year ago I would never hae anticipated where out lives were to go or where we would end up today. I won't lie and say I guess its all for the best because im still undecided and there is a lot i feel like I, or we, never got to say but I understand people react differently. I'm not goint to Charleston til August so I'm still in Saratog. So if you are ever in the area my cell number is still the same. I know this card won't get to you by your actual bday because that's when I'm mailing it, but I hope ou birthday was/is fun filled with good fun and good people. And I wish you luck and happiness in yyour next year. I don't know what you're looking for, if you have it or if you are happy but i hope you get what yyou want whether it is in Syracuse, Nebraska, San Diego or whereever your life takes you with whoever you choose to take along for the ride. Best wishes for your birthday and good luck. You can always call if you need something or if you just want to say hi. Happy Birthday Matt. Take care of yourself. -Becca"

I am not really sure what to think of the message.

- Matt

[Dancing Ants]

She's probably playing the "hard to get/act like you don't care/want to hang out as much as you do" game. Call her up and ask her out for dinner or something... if she keeps doing it, ask her what's up.

maybe so. she broke up with this guy about a month ago. and she didn't really wanna be alone tonight (not in a sexual way), but i wish she'd've just told me to keep driving.

[Jessica41]

So surprisingly, I got a card from my ex today. She had sent me a birthday card on my birthday.

The full text reads:

"one year ago I would never hae anticipated where out lives were to go or where we would end up today. I won't lie and say I guess its all for the best because im still undecided and there is a lot i feel like I, or we, never got to say but I understand people react differently. I'm not goint to Charleston til August so I'm still in Saratog. So if you are ever in the area my cell number is still the same. I know this card won't get to you by your actual bday because that's when I'm mailing it, but I hope ou birthday was/is fun filled with good fun and good people. And I wish you luck and happiness in yyour next year. I don't know what you're looking for, if you have it or if you are happy but i hope you get what yyou want whether it is in Syracuse, Nebraska, San Diego or whereever your life takes you with whoever you choose to take along for the ride. Best wishes for your birthday and good luck. You can always call if you need something or if you just want to say hi. Happy Birthday Matt. Take care of yourself. -Becca"

I am not really sure what to think of the message.

- Matt

She definitely cares about you and wants you to get in touch.

[Jessica41]

maybe so. she broke up with this guy about a month ago. and she didn't really wanna be alone tonight (not in a sexual way), but i wish she'd've just told me to keep driving.

Sometimes girls don't want to have to say it. It's weird I know, but we sometimes just want you to "just know."

[Dancing Ants]

Sometimes girls don't want to have to say it. It's weird I know, but we sometimes just want you to "just know."

i feel like a real retard. cause i know they just "want you to know". but with her i just overanalyze EVERYTHING cause i want it to be perfect. and looking back i can see where i messed up tonight, but at the time, i was positive she wanted to go home. :lol i'm a dunce.

[gbs3769]

She definitely cares about you and wants you to get in touch.

I'm just not sure what I think about that. She really hurt me and I'm at a great point in my life right now. I don't know if I want to bring her back into it because I honestly don't know what I would tell her. I'm sure it would go over well if I told her I was basically dating the intern.

- Matt

[Jessica41]

I'm just not sure what I think about that. She really hurt me and I'm at a great point in my life right now. I don't know if I want to bring her back into it because I honestly don't know what I would tell her. I'm sure it would go over well if I told her I was basically dating the intern.

- Matt

It shouldn't be any of her concern though who you're dating. If you feel up to being in touch, just let her know you are doing well... of course I don't know the circumstances of your breakup though so I can't say whether you should or not... only you know that.

[Jessica41]

i feel like a real retard. cause i know they just "want you to know". but with her i just overanalyze EVERYTHING cause i want it to be perfect. and looking back i can see where i messed up tonight, but at the time, i was positive she wanted to go home. :lol i'm a dunce.

If at first you don't succeed, try try again. ;)

[gbs3769]

I'm sure I explained it somewhere. I don't feel like searching. Part of me wants to keep in touch, and then the other part of me (partially fueled by my sister's advice) tells me to stay away from her for good.

Either way, I'm off to bed by myself since someone is out of town.

- Matt

[LB40]

Sometimes girls don't want to have to say it. It's weird I know, but we sometimes just want you to "just know."

Unbelievably true. Thank God I'm not the only one who thinks this. Sometimes we just want guys to take control of the situation at hand. If we object, we'll say something.

[Dancing Ants]

If at first you don't succeed, try try again. ;)

yeah. we're going to a friend's concert sunday. may hang out tomorrow. who knows?

as always, thanks for your help. and to think you don't get paid for this!

[Dancing Ants]

Unbelievably true. Thank God I'm not the only one who thinks this. Sometimes we just want guys to take control of the situation at hand. If we object, we'll say something.

ok. i'm just going to go by this rule from now on. cause i want to include her in the decision, and i think that usually makes it worse instead of better. thanks. +1!

[rebubula07]

Unbelievably true. Thank God I'm not the only one who thinks this. Sometimes we just want guys to take control of the situation at hand. If we object, we'll say something.

ill second the +1

[davehead34]

...Maybe you just have bad luck ;)

Exactly ;)

Matt, I'll definitely give you a call. I didn't know that Stepping Feet was playing on the 15th! At Canes?...No matter what, I'm there.

[il bacio dolce]

Girls: The guys in the picture never take things as seriously as you think. 75% of drama is in OUR heads. :lol


That's my contribution to the HR thread for today. Gotta backread.

[davehead34]

Girls: The guys in the picture never take things as seriously as you think. 75% of drama is in OUR heads. :lol


That's my contribution to the HR thread for today. Gotta backread.

:thumbsup Nice contribution! :lol I just noticed that you have one of Matt's quotes in you sig block. Classic. The Limerick Pub is famed throughout Ants now.

[il bacio dolce]

Seriously. I stressed out over this thing for months when nobody else was making an issue of it at all, and it was just a pointless waste of energy. They didn't care. :rolleyes

It made me laugh when I saw him say that! :lol

[chels012002]

I am not really sure what to think of the message.

- Matt
When I do stuff like that its cause I still have feelings for the guy and i am trying to sort them out.

[LB40]

ok. i'm just going to go by this rule from now on. cause i want to include her in the decision, and i think that usually makes it worse instead of better. thanks. +1!

thanks! glad I could be of some help.:D

[LB40]

ill second the +1

and thank you to you too. (sorry I haven't figured out how to quote more than one person in a reply yet.):D

[gbs3769]

When I do stuff like that its cause I still have feelings for the guy and i am trying to sort them out.

So I was talking to my friend Darren last night about my ex and the letter she wrote me. He said that when he talked to her she was basically upset at how things ended between us. I guess she was expecting it to be more of a drawn out processess of us arguing over things for a week instead of me just saying that things were over one night. I was always of the opinion that the whole month before that where she wouldn't return my phone calls was the period where I figured everything out.

- Matt

[il bacio dolce]

Don't worry. She's just overthinking. She did what she did and its her fault you left. She'll deal. :p

[gbs3769]

Yeah I am not too concerned over it. I just found it interesting to hear where she was coming from since I haven't really talked to her.

I told her when we broke up that she could call me when she figures herself out. Now I think she wants me to call her. I'm sorry, but I don't think that she has figured herself out yet.

- Matt

[Underscore]

I would just like to say that if any of you or people in general start relying on stupid metaphors (like the ones placed on the first page) to ease your lack of a love life or to try and talk to a girl, i feel no pity for you when you do not succeed. Using incredibly stupid hints or comparing women to buses is probably why a good chunk of you are alone...A 21 year old without a significant other isnt exactly an old maid, either.

oh, and even though it was made out of sarcam- comparing cancer to being a hopeless romantic is just tacky.

[il bacio dolce]

Piss off.

[chels012002]

Yeah I am not too concerned over it. I just found it interesting to hear where she was coming from since I haven't really talked to her.

I told her when we broke up that she could call me when she figures herself out. Now I think she wants me to call her. I'm sorry, but I don't think that she has figured herself out yet.

- MattYeah if you dont want to be with her again then I would say dont call or talk to her, it might send the wrong message to her and I don't think you would want to do that.

[JumpLittleChild]

I would just like to say that if any of you or people in general start relying on stupid metaphors (like the ones placed on the first page) to ease your lack of a love life or to try and talk to a girl, i feel no pity for you when you do not succeed. Using incredibly stupid hints or comparing women to buses is probably why a good chunk of you are alone...A 21 year old without a significant other isnt exactly an old maid, either.

oh, and even though it was made out of sarcam- comparing cancer to being a hopeless romantic is just tacky. I am in no way a hopeless romantic, but I think you raise a few valid points. People should have enough confidence to just live and not categorize themselves.

[gbs3769]

I am in no way a hopeless romantic, but I think you raise a few valid points. People should have enough confidence to just live and not categorize themselves.

I don't think it's that anyone isn't living, it's that some of us have some very similar beliefs that lump us into this Hopeless Romantic category. I don't think any of us are not out there living our lives, we are just living it a certain way that we share a common bond.

- Matt

[UNC41]

I don't think it's that anyone isn't living, it's that some of us have some very similar beliefs that lump us into this Hopeless Romantic category. I don't think any of us are not out there living our lives, we are just living it a certain way that we share a common bond.

- Matt

:thumbsup
+1

[il bacio dolce]

I thought I saw him standing outside a building smoking today... :confused

[|UAY| |)(V)|3]

girlfriend and i split up last night :lorraine

[jfolden]

I don't think it's that anyone isn't living, it's that some of us have some very similar beliefs that lump us into this Hopeless Romantic category. I don't think any of us are not out there living our lives, we are just living it a certain way that we share a common bond.

- Matt

I think everyone is out living their lives. I know I am out there trying. I think we, like all people, are trying to figure out what and who we are looking for in the opposite sex and this is one place we come to discuss these issues. I discuss these issues with my friends I hang out with, but I believe sometimes it's much better to have a non-biased opinion from people who really do not know me or anyone involved in whatever my situation is. That way it's much easier to get honest advice. Just my 2 cents. :)

[gbs3769]

I thought I saw him standing outside a building smoking today... :confused

Randomly the girl working the front desk of the hotel I am staying at looked strikingly like the girl Jessica that I was hung up on before.

- Matt

[Jessica41]

I don't think it's that anyone isn't living, it's that some of us have some very similar beliefs that lump us into this Hopeless Romantic category. I don't think any of us are not out there living our lives, we are just living it a certain way that we share a common bond.

- Matt

:thumbsup

[chels012002]

girlfriend and i split up last night :lorraineWas it mutual?

[il bacio dolce]

Randomly the girl working the front desk of the hotel I am staying at looked strikingly like the girl Jessica that I was hung up on before.

- Matt
I also could've sworn I saw him at the grocery store two days ago. I think I imagine things.

[davehead34]

...I have some serious back-reading to do...

On a separate note, hey!

[Jessica41]

...I have some serious back-reading to do...

On a separate note, hey!

Hey, how's vacation going?

[davehead34]

Hey, how's vacation going?

Hey Jess! It's going pretty well. I'm back in good ol San Diego :whew The humidity in RI was absolutely murder. It must've been 100% everyday. Anyways, I was supposed to see Stepping Feet (DMB cover band) today with Matt and I just got his message! He's in SD right now, too, but I fell asleep early on because I drank waaaaay too much earlier on and I'm too drunk to drive to meet him right now so I'm stuck here :lol Oh well! I'm gonna try my best to see him later tonite, sobriety permitting, of course ;) Sorry, Matt! :lol

Anyways, yeah, it's going well. I've been running into some lovely ladies lately, so I do feel less lonely. This is truly redeeming. I love female company. Just being able to sleep (not have sex) with a girl is the most extraordinary thing in the world. Nothing tops it. Except a Guiness after a nice sauce (not gravy ;)). But yeah, I should probably call Matt now and let him know what's up :lol

[|UAY| |)(V)|3]

Was it mutual?
no...well....no...but it was kind of shitty for me for a while but i would have rather tried to make it better than just end it....
:( <-- depressed face

[davehead34]

no...well....no...but it was kind of shitty for me for a while but i would have rather tried to make it better than just end it....
:( <-- depressed face

I am truly sad to hear this. Sometimes it just gets worse before it gets better. That's all I can honestly say. Life is seldom fair, especially when it comes to loving someone. As Jack Johnson says, "Loving someone don't make someone love you." So true. So true.

[|UAY| |)(V)|3]

I am truly sad to hear this. Sometimes it just gets worse before it gets better. That's all I can honestly say. Life is seldom fair, especially when it comes to loving someone. As Jack Johnson says, "Loving someone don't make someone love you." So true. So true.
you get flare for kind words.

[davehead34]

you get flare for kind words.

Thanks man. I have all kinds of Hopeless Romantic quotes. Sometimes, they're the only thing that get me through the day. That, and a few pints of Guiness.

[Jessica41]

Wednesday, July 13th, 2005.

Dear fellow HR's,

Just checking in for the day. Still hopeless.
Have a great night.

Love,
Jess

[davehead34]

Wednesday, July 13th, 2005.

Dear fellow HR's,

Just checking in for the day. Still hopeless.
Have a great night.

Love,
Jess

:( Sorry to hear that, Jess. I'll try to send some positive vibes to you first thing in the morning. It's amazing what 16 days vacation can do to your sex life and your mindset.

[Jessica41]

:( Sorry to hear that, Jess. I'll try to send some positive vibes to you first thing in the morning. It's amazing what 16 days vacation can do to your sex life and your mindset.

Eh I'm ok. I'm not sad at all lately. I'm a happy HR this week. :p

[gbs3769]

Oh well! I'm gonna try my best to see him later tonite, sobriety permitting, of course ;) Sorry, Matt! :lol

No problems Chase...

Hopefully we will finish early again today. I think we were going to head down to PB because a friend of mine lives there and they are playing poker tonight. You are more than welcome to join. I'll call when I leave.

- Matt

[davehead34]

No problems Chase...

Hopefully we will finish early again today. I think we were going to head down to PB because a friend of mine lives there and they are playing poker tonight. You are more than welcome to join. I'll call when I leave.

- Matt

Right on. I'll stop drinking right now so that I may be able to drive later tonight. I was in PB (Longboard's Bar & Grille) earlier today.

[chels012002]

no...well....no...but it was kind of shitty for me for a while but i would have rather tried to make it better than just end it....
:( <-- depressed faceI am sorry man. I am sure you will come out on top. +1 for you

[chels012002]

I cant wait till my bf comes over so I wont be all alone and scared in my house anymore

[Jessica41]

What are you scared of?

[chels012002]

When I was 18 and 19 I had some really freaky bf's and come to find out that these different guys were stalking me at different times but it was back to back bf's.

[|UAY| |)(V)|3]

wow...just smoked a lotta weed then saw charlie and the chocolate factory...amazing movie for all ages...this night was just what i needed to get off problems mentionsed earlier off the mind...
woot1!
-_-

[Jessica41]

wow...just smoked a lotta weed then saw charlie and the chocolate factory...amazing movie for all ages...this night was just what i needed to get off problems mentionsed earlier off the mind...
woot1!
-_-

Glad you're feeling better. I have to go see that.

[handsareme]

let's see. met a girl at a mennonite convention. talking with her via email and msn and she loves cake (the band) and OAR. i like her.

[il bacio dolce]

Might have been talking about before but I've been thinking a lot about it...

Any thoughts on soul mates?

[Jessica41]

Might have been talking about before but I've been thinking a lot about it...

Any thoughts on soul mates?

I don't believe there's only one person for everyone. It's too farfetched. People can be happy with several different types of other people. The idea that there's only ONE person out there for you is a little discouraging, and I don't buy it.

[gbs3769]

Any thoughts on soul mates?

I'm too tired to go into any sort of explanation of things right now, but my first question is what do you mean by soul mates?

Are you refering to the typical definition of one person meant for another person? Or, are you talking about someone that knows you so completely that half of the time you don't even have to say anything because they know exactly what you are thinking?

If it is the latter, then yes, I believe in them and I would consider one of my best friends from grade school my soul mate. He and I connect on a very deep level.

- Matt

[handsareme]

If there would be just one person for each person, there'd be a lot of lonely people.

[il bacio dolce]

I'm too tired to go into any sort of explanation of things right now, but my first question is what do you mean by soul mates?

Are you refering to the typical definition of one person meant for another person? Or, are you talking about someone that knows you so completely that half of the time you don't even have to say anything because they know exactly what you are thinking?

If it is the latter, then yes, I believe in them and I would consider one of my best friends from grade school my soul mate. He and I connect on a very deep level.

- Matt

That.

[il bacio dolce]

If there would be just one person for each person, there'd be a lot of lonely people.
That isn't what I'm talking about. I can't even label it "soul mates" because I don't believe in fate or souls. Just what Matt described.

[Jessica41]

That isn't what I'm talking about. I can't even label it "soul mates" because I don't believe in fate or souls. Just what Matt described.

Yeah I definitely believe that. I had that experience with an ex. We knew eachother so well that we didn't even have to talk half the time, we just knew what the other was thinking.

I have it with my best friend of 13 years also. I've known her since we were 10, and we know what makes the other tick, what makes the other happy, sad, etc. Story: a month ago, I got home from a dmb show and her sis had imed me, just saying hey. As soon as I saw it I got a gut feeling that Andrea (my friend) was pregnant. So I called her, and sure enough, she was getting ready to call me and tell me the news. And this is weird, because nothing was planned and it just happened. Then last week, she lost the baby (***may be TMI for some....*** :( and I was in bed that night after she called me with a horrible stomachache. She called the next day saying she had horrible cramping and such the night before. I'm not saying this was def. related, but over the years, these things have happened often.

[davehead34]

Well, I went to the bar last night, and I don't remember anything after half an hour of being there. Except for the guy in the bathroom who gives you soap (he was burning Nag Champa incense and gave him a high five every time I walked past him). Anyways, this is bad. This is bad because I went with a bunch of smokin hot chicks and I may have been insanely rude and obnoxious. Conversely, I may have been in rare form and the funniest guy in the club. True, I was there as moral support for my friends (I'm spoken for at the moment :)), but I hope to god that I did mess up their chances with them. I checked my bar tab and ran up about $60 bucks. That's all Guiness and Irish Car Bombs right there. Plus, I had six pints of Guiness prior to even going there. Well, now I'm ranting and need to stop. I need to get some asprin.

[UNC41]

Went to a really fun party last night, passed out in a bed, and woke up with a pretty hot girl next to me. Good stuff.

[davehead34]

Went to a really fun party last night, passed out in a bed, and woke up with a pretty hot girl next to me. Good stuff.

:thumbsup It's amazing how that affects your ego :)

[UNC41]

:thumbsup It's amazing how that affects your ego :)

Yep, and there's another party at the same place tonight. We also found a bar last night where a buddy of mine knows a bar tender and we get 8 shots at a time of whatever for $8.75.

[jfolden]

Went to a really fun party last night, passed out in a bed, and woke up with a pretty hot girl next to me. Good stuff.

Had a similar night last Saturday. Blacked out and woke up next to a pretty cute girl. Although, that's been happening pretty regularly for the last month and a half (well, minus the blackout).

[chels012002]

I don't believe there's only one person for everyone. It's too farfetched. People can be happy with several different types of other people. The idea that there's only ONE person out there for you is a little discouraging, and I don't buy it.My thoughts exactly +1 for ya

[gbs3769]

I checked my bar tab and ran up about $60 bucks. That's all Guiness and Irish Car Bombs right there. Plus, I had six pints of Guiness prior to even going there.

Sure, have all the fun after I leave...

I had a good night last night but I'm still not sure where things are headed. I'm happy right now, but I still don't know if this is something that is going to continue once she goes back to school or not. While Ithaca is only 45 minutes away, half of me feels like that is too far for me right now. That is strange, seeing as how I was doing 4 hours for so long with Becca. Life is good, but confusing.

- Matt

[Jessica41]

Matt did you and Chase get to meet?

[il bacio dolce]

This is my favorite thread. :hugs all around!

[davehead34]

Matt did you and Chase get to meet?

Unfortunately, no. Matt spend all of his time in Mexican jail, so I wasn't able to take him out drinking :lol Well, that may be a bit of a lie, but we never met up. We came close a few times, but shitty timing and planning on my part prevented us from doing so.

This is my favorite thread. s all around!

:thumbsup Agreed. This is definitely my favorite thread, too! I always try to check up on what's goin on with you guys once a day :)

On a HR-related note...I'm moving in with a girl very soon. We're getting a six month lease in PB, effective sometime in September/October timeframe. I'm really excited about this. She's amazingly amazing (how's that for descriptive?), gorgeous, loves the same music I do, and we get along extremely well. She's a little older than me (she's 24 - I'm 21), but that's a plus in my book. She's mature and goal-oriented - just an all around good person. Anyways, I just hope it works out well. I'll be SURE to keep you guys posted on everything :)

[il bacio dolce]

How long have you known eachother, Chase? :)

[davehead34]

How long have you known eachother, Chase? :)

Well, it's strange...I've known her for about six months or so, but she's been back east in NH the entire time. I met her once in San Diego at a club, completely by accident. My friend was relentlessly hitting on her friend, so I was near her and decided to just talk to her to keep my sanity (I was sober at a club). I was like "So, where you from." Turns out she's from the north east. "Cool..." I just lost interest for a few mintues. I was tired of being at the club and wanted out of there - bad. Anyways, my friend and her friend were still talking (after another five minutes passed), so I forced myself to make more conversation. I knew she was from the NE, so I just asked her "Hey, do you listen to Phish?" I don't know why I asked it. I usually talk about DMB, the Red Sox, Patiots, anything else. The odds of this chick liking Phish, let alone knowing about Phish was slim, but I said it anyways. She freaked. Apparantly, she LOVES Phish and had been at IT the summer before, which is the last Phish show I attended. We just hit it off after that. I mean, she was literally freaking out. She thought that was the coolest thing! She doesn't know anyone at all back home who listens to Phish, let alone knows who they are (which suprises me becauses it's NH)! So we stay in touch and now she's coming out here! I saw her a bunch when I went home and had some of the best times in my life with her. It was great.

I know I'm taking a risk, but I don't care. I think it's cool that I'm going all in on something like this. This could be very rewarding, and just what I'm looking for :) I refuse to be pessimistic, and so does she.

[Jessica41]

On a HR-related note...I'm moving in with a girl very soon. We're getting a six month lease in PB, effective sometime in September/October timeframe. I'm really excited about this. She's amazingly amazing (how's that for descriptive?), gorgeous, loves the same music I do, and we get along extremely well. She's a little older than me (she's 24 - I'm 21), but that's a plus in my book. She's mature and goal-oriented - just an all around good person. Anyways, I just hope it works out well. I'll be SURE to keep you guys posted on everything :)

:lol well this is sudden. weren't you just sleeping w/ other girls last week? :confused

[il bacio dolce]

People are weird. My friend breaks up with his girlfriend - breaks up with HER - then spends the next month dreading her inevitable return... She always came back in a month, her "magic number". After a month, she doesn't come back and he suddenly misses her like crazy. For a little while. Then he's sort of content being single and is sure it's going to stay that way, and starts finding other dates. Then one day, his ex wants to get back together with him and so he takes her back. And their friends wonder why and how the fuck that happened. :rolleyes

[chels012002]

I know I'm taking a risk, but I don't care. I think it's cool that I'm going all in on something like this. This could be very rewarding, and just what I'm looking for :) I refuse to be pessimistic, and so does she.I think without Risk life is boring, I mean personally. Just do things day to day and confront everything as it comes and in 6 months if it isnt working out go your seperate ways as friends.

[davehead34]

:lol well this is sudden. weren't you just sleeping w/ other girls last week? :confused

Yeah, but that was before we even talked about being together and that was waaaaaay before we talked about moving in together. Besides, I was on leave and I hadn't gotten any in...long enough... :o

[gbs3769]

Matt did you and Chase get to meet?

Someone got too drunk to drive. And then he decided to leave the Pub that we were going to meet at. :twak

Next time we'll make sure and have a pint or ten of Guinness.

On a HR-related note...I'm moving in with a girl very soon. We're getting a six month lease in PB, effective sometime in September/October timeframe.

Where the hell in PB are you getting your place? My buddy lives on Felspar near Fanuel.

- Matt

[ryguy178]

Hello chat forum neighbors.



I'm still hopeless.

[Jessica41]

^^

me too.

[gbs3769]

Well I'm still a Hopeless Romantic, although I am not particularly hopeless these days. And that is a very good thing. Although tonight, it will be just me and my teddy bear.

- Matt

[davehead34]

Someone got too drunk to drive. And then he decided to leave the Pub that we were going to meet at. :twak

Next time we'll make sure and have a pint or ten of Guinness.

:lol The first ten'll be on me.


Where the hell in PB are you getting your place? My buddy lives on Felspar near Fanuel.

- Matt

I haven't quite decided, yet. Preferably, somewhere either near Garnet, or perhaps a nice little second story place on/near the boardwalk. You're buddy's definitely lucky to be living near Felspar/Fanuel! That's some serious prime reality. I just might end up over there. You never know...As of now, I'm just looking at apartments and getting a feel for the market. I'm going to wait until late August/early September until the price drops a bit to sign the lease. We're planning on signing a six month lease, and if we get along, we'll either stay there and extend for another six months or move somewhere else in PB. Either way, if you're going to be in San Deezee in the next year, you'll be more than welcome to stop on in, hit up the bars and crash there. That goes for all you guys, too :) I'll let you guys know every few weeks how that pans out.

[davehead34]

Although tonight, it will be just me and my teddy bear.

- Matt

:lol hehehehe Sissy...I'll pretend like I didn't hear that one, Matt ;)

EDIT: Fuck your Yankees, too.

[gbs3769]

EDIT: Fuck your Yankees, too.

You missed your opportunity to gloat the other day when I was in San Diego...

And my teddy bear loves me.

- Matt

[davehead34]

You missed your opportunity to gloat the other day when I was in San Diego...

And my teddy bear loves me.

- Matt

I know. I went to almost every pub in the Gas Lamp and asked if the Sox/Yankees game was on. I still can't believe no one was even airing it. Pathetic. I wish dearly that the game had been aired at the pub. I would have stayed there, met and harrassed you about the Yankees, and probably would have consumed $60.00 of Guiness in the evening vice late night, which would have saved me a Saturday and one hell of a hang over. I was entirely incapacitated all of Saturday.

And yes, I'm quite certain Teddy does love you, Matt. Quite certain.

[UNC41]

Still hopeless as ever. As much fun as the physical part of a relationship is, it is amazing how much more I miss intimacy and affection.

[davehead34]

Still hopeless as ever. As much fun as the physical part of a relationship is, it is amazing how much more I miss intimacy and affection.

:thumbsup Agreed.

Strange, isn't it? I know many people who date attractive individuals, yet there isn't any romanticism. It's strictly physical. I don't understand how a relationship can exist without romaticism. Intimacy and affection are, unfortunately, dreadfully under rated in modern American society. Especially when you compare past generations to ours.

[handsareme]

This is as close as I've gotten to some pussy (http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y223/handsareme/Trip%202005/IMG_1240.jpg
) lately.

[davehead34]

This is as close as I've gotten to some pussy (http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y223/handsareme/Trip%202005/IMG_1240.jpg
) lately.

Hmmm...It says the link cannot be found.

[Jessica41]

^^ what he said

[handsareme]

Sorry, try this:
pussy (http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y223/handsareme/Trip%202005/IMG_1240.jpg)

[Jessica41]

awww

[handsareme]

that's the only thing i've gotten close to licking or kissing in awhile

[davehead34]

Sorry, try this:
pussy (http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y223/handsareme/Trip%202005/IMG_1240.jpg)

No wonder you're not getting laid - you're wearing a Styx t-shirt! :lol

[handsareme]

No wonder you're not getting laid - you're wearing a Styx t-shirt! :lol
Hey, if they can't enjoy a good power ballad, they're not worth my time.
:lol

[davehead34]

Hey, if they can't enjoy a good power ballad, they're not worth my time.
:lol

:lol True. True.

[handsareme]

It's funny. I've met girls who like DMB, OAR, YMSB, and/or Wilco, but few who enjoy a lot of the older music I listen to: Styx, Tom petty, reo speedwagon, yadda...

I just love going down the highway blasting Blue Collar Man or Lady with the windows down and singing/screaming the words as loud as you can.

[davehead34]

It's funny. I've met girls who like DMB, OAR, YMSB, and/or Wilco, but few who enjoy a lot of the older music I listen to: Styx, Tom petty, reo speedwagon, yadda...

I just love going down the highway blasting Blue Collar Man or Lady with the windows down and singing/screaming the words as loud as you can.

:thumbsup Rollin down the highway screaming anything is always cool. On a separate note, I just downloaded some YMSB yesterday from 7.07.05 (Big Summer Classic). It's pretty good stuff. Oh yeah, how can people not like Tom Petty? That blows my mind.

[Jessica41]

:thumbsup Rollin down the highway screaming anything is always cool. On a separate note, I just downloaded some YMSB yesterday from 7.07.05 (Big Summer Classic). It's pretty good stuff. Oh yeah, how can people not like Tom Petty? That blows my mind.

My parents are going to see Tom this week. I'm trying to convince them to come to a dmb show with me next summer.

[davehead34]

My parents are going to see Tom this week. I'm trying to convince them to come to a dmb show with me next summer.

I got my parents hooked on DMB. It wasn't that hard. They were into Tom, Zeppelin, and all that great stuff. I'd imagine that your parents would be down for a show or two. Now, I frequent DMB shows with my entire family! I just went to both Mansfield shows with my Mom :)

[Jessica41]

I got my parents hooked on DMB. It wasn't that hard. They were into Tom, Zeppelin, and all that great stuff. I'd imagine that your parents would be down for a show or two. Now, I frequent DMB shows with my entire family! I just went to both Mansfield shows with my Mom :)

I hope they go, if just for the fact that they can finally calm down and see why I go to so many shows in a one month period.

[handsareme]

My dad digs DMB pretty good. I got him past that "it all sounds the same BS" and he likes Too Much. I think I heard him singing along with Crush earlier today en route to somewhere. My mom doesn't really enjoy them, but she likes The Christmas Song.

[il bacio dolce]

Am I a hopeless romantic if I'm in love and satisfied? :lol
This state comes and goes, but I'm in it now. It's all in realizing what you have is the best thing for you. What works works, and to constantly wonder if something different could work better is more destructive than constructive.

[jfolden]

Am I a hopeless romantic if I'm in love and satisfied? :lol
This state comes and goes, but I'm in it now. It's all in realizing what you have is the best thing for you. What works works, and to constantly wonder if something different could work better is more destructive than constructive.
That's a tough question. I guess that depends on what you consider a "hopeless romantic". Since the dictionary definition of hopeless means having no possibility of solution, that would mean a "hopeless romantic" believes he/she can never find love. So, going by that definition, no you can't be.

But, I always think of a "hopeless romantic" as a person who believes in the ideal of true love and keeps looking for it and believes that they will find it eventually. Using that definition, then I'd say you could be a hopeless romantic. It's just that you have found the true love you're looking for even though the state comes and goes. IMO, part of being a hopeless romantic is not looking for something different, but I think it does involve an idealism that that what you have, although great, could be even better.

OK, truthfully I have no idea, but maybe you can find one coherent idea from this post.

[il bacio dolce]

I agree!!! :lol

Here's my thing: I've been studying this theory that we all look for a partner that embodies all the qualities we lack in ourselves. This actually gives a lot of credibility to cliched phrases like "You complete me", because that person who is your exact opposite really does complete you! They complement you perfectly. I think that dynamic is particularly important if you plan on becoming parents. If you are the same person mentally and emotionally, you're going to have the same strengths, but you'll also make the same mistakes, and neither of you will know how to fix them, because you only know how to act according to your nature. You need someone who can show you what you aren't thinking more than you need someone to reinforce what you already know. But there is some allure in a person who is a mirror image of you mentally and emotionally. They make you feel understood and they boost your ego. But they probably won't even make a good friend, let alone a partner. You don't complement eachother, you crowd eachother's space. It's sort of unnerving to know your partner knows what you're thinking because they think the same way you do! And perhaps an argument can be made that two people who opposite eachother don't understand eachother because they are so different. Well, that's what communication is for! And if you are the female version of him he knows what you're thinking so he won't ask and you won't tell him because you'll assume he knows! And then you don't learn anything knew or grow any closer and you eventually become bored with eachother. Actually, you knew all there was to know about them before you even met them!

[il bacio dolce]

Something else I thought of to expand on that: If you are alike, their self-esteem is likely to be reflected in how they treat you, and vice versa. If they are very conceited, they will think you are the best thing ever - second to them of course! If they are really down on themselves all the time, or even if they are just having a down day where they feel insecure and nothing about them is good enough, they don't want to be around themself let alone another person who is exactly like them. Like I said, instead of complementing eachother, you reinforce all of eachother's qualities, good and bad. They'll avoid you because they can't stomach any more of themself, while the person with the big ego will cling to you. Either way, you grow tired of eachother. And god forbid one of you is bi-polar.

I'm going to stop talking now. :lol

[jfolden]

and to constantly wonder if something different could work better is more destructive than constructive.

I think this is my problem in life. I think I'm this way all the time. I mean the situation I'm in right now is that I met a girl a couple month ago and we started out as friends. Recently, more may be developing between us. Haven't really explored it much since between work and weekends away we've only seen each other a few times in the past few weeks. No big deal, but then I went with this other girl to a concert and after was like she's amazing and now am kinda interested in her even though there is this other girl. She seemed a little interested in me because she was like call me next weekend if you want to hang out which I did, but she was out with her girls. Then the next night, she texted me to see where I was going and and came and met me.

Not 100% sure how either feel so I decided to not initiate communication with either to see what would happen. The first girl did send me a text last Saturday after a week. She was out of town with her firends celebrating one of her friends b'days and said she "just wanted to share" and see what I was up to. The second girl emailed me after a few days last week, basically about nothing. I did send her an email yesterday about a HH this w/e and she emailed back. Then, I asked how she was and her w/e and she told me and was like I'll see ya Friday.

Anyway, I have no idea what I'm doing, but that's normal for me. My friends are like you should get with girl one since you've been putting in work and then get with girl 2 when/if the chance arises. I'm like that's just not me. Cause no matter what, I still like hanging with both and want to remain friends so the last thing I would do is something that may hurt them.

Not really sure what I'm saying, but I felt like sharing. If you have any comments, feel free...

[gbs3769]

Cassie, I had this long response typed out, but it didn't pertain to what you had said at all...

- Matt

[il bacio dolce]

:confused Then how was it a response?

[gbs3769]

I thought it was going to be a response, and then it just got completely off topic that it made no sense what so ever when comparaed to what you had posted.

- Matt

[il bacio dolce]

You, mister, are twisting my words to fit your purpose! (Re: your post quote) :lol :lol

[gbs3769]

That's not a bad thing...

- Matt

[il bacio dolce]

:lol

The Law of Attraction of Opposites thing works in any type of relationship, although the author of the book I'm reading isn't giving instructions on how to find love and maintain a lasting relationship. It is actually more along the lines of: To appeal to a man, you must act as his opposite, and then you can get what you want from him. :D

[davehead34]

That's a tough question. I guess that depends on what you consider a "hopeless romantic". Since the dictionary definition of hopeless means having no possibility of solution, that would mean a "hopeless romantic" believes he/she can never find love.

I suppose it's a bit of an oxymoron if you look at it like that. I prefer to interpret it as two separate words that describe me equally. I am both hopeless and romantic.

[il bacio dolce]

Or you're hopelessly romantic, which is to say you're a romantic and there's no hope for you to stop being one! :rolleyes Or something.

[davehead34]

Or you're hopelessly romantic, which is to say you're a romantic and there's no hope for you to stop being one! :rolleyes Or something.

:lol I think "hopelessly romantic" accurately describes me.

[PrettyPenelope]

I always thought of hopeless romantic as someone who thrives off all the sappy stuff about love and who is hopeful and positive and always believes love will bring happiness. Basically, an idealist whose vision is a tad clouded I guess...

I'd much rather be a hopeless romantic thought than somebody who is repeatedly disappointed by what love doesn't grant them.

[davehead34]

I'd much rather be a hopeless romantic thought than somebody who is repeatedly disappointed by what love doesn't grant them.

What's the difference? Haven't seen you in a while, Laura. What's up?

[|UAY| |)(V)|3]

damn..now my ex is fucking with my head...someone please explain women to me....

[Jessica41]

Don't group her inthe same category as us normal ones. ;)

[davehead34]

Don't group her inthe same category as us normal ones. ;)

Normal ones? :ugh No such thing!

And Taylor, if I could explain them to you, I would. But I can't, so just find you a chick who's young, attractive, and dumb. It's absolutely imperative that you find a woman dumber than you. You need to be able to outsmart and outthink them at every move. It's a sick game, really.

[|UAY| |)(V)|3]

Normal ones? :ugh No such thing!

And Taylor, if I could explain them to you, I would. But I can't, so just find you a chick who's young, attractive, and dumb. It's absolutely imperative that you find a woman dumber than you. You need to be able to outsmart and outthink them at every move. It's a sick game, really.
if still had rep around you would have just stolen all of mine.
a much needed :D

[davehead34]

if still had rep around you would have just stolen all of mine.
a much needed :D

:cool I know what you mean Taylor. Once a chick gets in your head, it's hard to get them out. I usually drink about eight pints of Guiness - that's a good start.

On a serious note, though, I'm realizing that most people are wierd, and you don't really know someone until you live with them for two years.

[Jessica41]

Normal ones? :ugh No such thing!

And Taylor, if I could explain them to you, I would. But I can't, so just find you a chick who's young, attractive, and dumb. It's absolutely imperative that you find a woman dumber than you. You need to be able to outsmart and outthink them at every move. It's a sick game, really.

:twak

[il bacio dolce]

You can't handle an intelligent woman, can you? :rolleyes You must be insecure.

[davehead34]

You can't handle an intelligent woman, can you? :rolleyes You must be insecure.

Wrong - I've learned that I need to be smarter than them so I can see through their horde of LIES! :lol

[il bacio dolce]

Is it bad that I saw someone's car parked and want to go walk by ti again?

[gbs3769]

Wrong - I've learned that I need to be smarter than them so I can see through their horde of LIES! :lol

My ex was smarter than me. Maybe that was our problem. She's a nuclear engineer with the Navy/Lockheed Martin.

Is it bad that I saw someone's car parked and want to go walk by ti again?

No. I used to drive by a certain house all the time, even going out of my way to do it. I also used to go to a certain store every day because I thought someone might be working. I also used to go to a certain bar often because I thought someone would be there. Yeah, I'm practically a stalker.

- Matt

[il bacio dolce]

It is dumb. :rolleyes

[gbs3769]

It might be dumb, but it isn't bad. At least that is the way that I look at it.

- Matt

[il bacio dolce]

Well, I stopped texting and emailing... he just wasn't responding. :lol Next time I have to potentially meet him is in MARCH, which I am esctatic is so far from now.

[davehead34]

There's nothing wrong with frequenting a store just to stare at the hot cashier :rolleyes

[jfolden]

Or going to a bar cause a hot girl may be there. ;)

This is starting to sound like "The Official Stalkers Thread"

[il bacio dolce]

Avoiding his favorite bars is actually going to be harder for me, I guess. Although I'll be at RH with my boyfriend anyhow. :rolleyes

[Jessica41]

Or going to a bar cause a hot girl may be there. ;)

This is starting to sound like "The Official Stalkers Thread"

Or going to a certain bar because the bartender is amazing

[gbs3769]

Or going to a certain bar simply because it is The Limerick Pub...

- Matt

[jfolden]

Or going to a bar cause a hot girl may be there. ;)


Or going to a certain bar because the bartender is amazing

Or they could be one and the same person. :D

But, it's not stalking if you're asked to come, right? ;)

Damn, I didn't think anyone paid attention to me around here. :rolleyes

[davehead34]

Or going to a certain bar simply because it is The Limerick Pub...

- Matt

I think we all saw that one coming from a mile away.

[gbs3769]

Either way, it had to be said.

- Matt

[Jessica41]

I think we all saw that one coming from a mile away.

:thumbsup I definitely have to visit that place someday.

[il bacio dolce]

:lol I saw a car with his company's logo on the side... here, it could be any one of about 60 employees who have company cars. :rolleyes

[Jessica41]

Does your boyfriend know you have this huge crush on another guy?

[il bacio dolce]

I did have a crush, and yes he knew. Now I'm kind of like... he wasn't worth it, but whatever we had going on was fun at times and then it just ended abruptly. So...

[winterscold]

haha

I thought this said Homeless Romantics Thread

[il bacio dolce]

Oh, he also couldn't have been in Pittsburgh because he is Vegas right now. :lol

[Jessica41]

:) :)

[|UAY| |)(V)|3]

I like chinese food.

[Jessica41]

^ me too. taco bell is better, though. so is italian.

[il bacio dolce]

Taco Bell is worse than any fast food. :lol I can do KFC, as far as fast food goes, that's it.

[davehead34]

so is italian.

:thumbsup :cool

[il bacio dolce]

:lol Italian is always better. :hump

[gbs3769]

That must be why all the girls like me.

- Matt

[Jessica41]

That must be why all the girls like me.

- Matt

:thumbsup

[jfolden]

That must be why all the girls like me.

- Matt

I thought it was for your nunchuck skills, bowhunting skills, and computer hacking skills.

[davehead34]

I thought it was for your nunchuck skills, bowhunting skills, and computer hacking skills.

:lol

[Jessica41]

This is on the second page. Is everyone doing okay?

[jfolden]

I'm doing amazing. :lol I think that's my favorite word anymore. I'm stuck in the same drama I've been in for the last four weeks. Two women confusing the shit out of me.

[il bacio dolce]

I'm doing okay! :bounce

[davehead34]

I'm doing pretty well, too. I noticed that this thread's been a little slow lately, as well. Right now, I'm just hanging in limbo, waiting for this girl to come out here for a few days.

[gbs3769]

Meh.

No, I take that back. I'm doing wonderful right now. Sitting outside and getting ready to head to the beach as soon as my iPod finishes transfering songs. Yes, life is good.

- Matt

[chels012002]

I hope you all are having a good day. I have a few things to do and napping sounds like one of em.

[davehead34]

Meh.

No, I take that back. I'm doing wonderful right now. Sitting outside and getting ready to head to the beach as soon as my iPod finishes transfering songs. Yes, life is good.

- Matt

Sweet. I'm charging my iPod, too. I'm transferring Medeski, Martin and Wood right now. I love those guys. Then I'm off to PB. Good times. Napping is almost a certainty in today's schedule.

[gbs3769]

Enjoy PB. There are at least a lot of hotties there to look at. The problem I am finding with Sea Isle is that all of the girls are either taken or they looke like they are 17.

- Matt

[davehead34]

Enjoy PB. There are at least a lot of hotties there to look at. The problem I am finding with Sea Isle is that all of the girls are either taken or they looke like they are 17.

- Matt

Hmmm...That's rough, indeed. Just another reason to move to San Diego, I suppose. BTW, how does second place feel ;)

Go Sox.

[gbs3769]

BTW, how does second place feel ;)

I'll tell you once Chicago wins today... But yeah, 3 straight is a problem.

- Matt

[davehead34]

I'll tell you once Chicago wins today... But yeah, 3 straight is a problem.

- Matt

...

They haven't won...yet...

[gbs3769]

I've got to Shower and then I am off to see The Waifs with Ben Weaver in NYC.

- Matt

[davehead34]

I've got to Shower and then I am off to see The Waifs with Ben Weaver in NYC.

- Matt

Sounds like a good time. Enjoy the show, Matt.

[gbs3769]

The show was great... Images are here: http://thegbs.com/photos/displayimage.php?album=30&pos=0

- Matt

[davehead34]

The show was great... Images are here: http://thegbs.com/photos/displayimage.php?album=30&pos=0

- Matt

:thumbsup Those're some pretty bitchin photos. I wish more good bands came through SD, let alone good bands that play in small venues.

[Jessica41]

Chase, do you have aim?

[davehead34]

Chase, do you have aim?

Good morning, friends. No, I don't have AIM. I have Yahoo and MSN, but no AIM. I'm doing my best to boycott:

-Clear Channel
-AOL/Time Warner
-Walmart
-Ticketmaster (that's a tough one...)

[jfolden]

Hope everyone is having a good day today! This is my 1000th post and since I'm now a posting-whore, I figured I put it in my favorite thread.

[handsareme]

So the girl I'm interested in told me early this morning/late last night that I was in a dream. I was ecstatic to hear that. Then she told me about the dream...a semi-local Christian rock band was performing their last show and afterwards about seven of us went to a truck stop for breakfast. She said that it was during an ice storm (kind of rare for the middle of August in KS) and we all got into a big wreck. Those were all the details she had. Should I be glad or worried that that was how she remembered me?

[il bacio dolce]

It probably doesn't have any deep meaning. It was just a dream. The sequence of events and cast of characters are just a random mixture of memories in her head... :)

Congrats Jeff. :p

[davehead34]

Hope everyone is having a good day today! This is my 1000th post and since I'm now a posting-whore, I figured I put it in my favorite thread.

:thumbsup You are a whore for posts, indeed.

[davehead34]

So the girl I'm interested in told me early this morning/late last night that I was in a dream. I was ecstatic to hear that. Then she told me about the dream...a semi-local Christian rock band was performing their last show and afterwards about seven of us went to a truck stop for breakfast. She said that it was during an ice storm (kind of rare for the middle of August in KS) and we all got into a big wreck. Those were all the details she had. Should I be glad or worried that that was how she remembered me?

I think it's cool that she remembered you man. That's good stuff.

[Jessica41]

Good morning, friends. No, I don't have AIM. I have Yahoo and MSN, but no AIM. I'm doing my best to boycott:

-Clear Channel
-AOL/Time Warner
-Walmart
-Ticketmaster (that's a tough one...)

What's your msn? I want to talk to you about something.

[BadPenny]

Actually, I hate to sound like a damn commercial, but may I pass along the name of a program I recently discovered from a dedicated user and it works like a charm. TRILLIAN is an IM pgm that consolidates AIM, MSN, Yahoo, ICQ and IRC all into one interface. You can end up having a relatively small vertical box up on your desktop just like with all the others, and all within it, it combines the names of your buddies from each different IM pgm (if you're like me and have different names thru a few of the pgms). The interface is pretty easy to navigate thru, and you can be signed on to either one, some or all of your IM names all at the same time (and -- at least with the skin I have -- each of your buddies' screen names will have icons next to them indicating which service they're with, as they're all displayed in one shot).

Another kinda cool benefit if you're into using them is the smiley faces, that type of thing - there's WAY more available than any of the other pgms. Goddamn I do sound like a friggin commercial :lol :lol Alright well I swear I'm not getting paid. Anyway, you can go here and DL the pgm if you want:
http://www.ceruleanstudios.com/

[BadPenny]

So the girl I'm interested in told me early this morning/late last night that I was in a dream. I was ecstatic to hear that. Then she told me about the dream...a semi-local Christian rock band was performing their last show and afterwards about seven of us went to a truck stop for breakfast. She said that it was during an ice storm (kind of rare for the middle of August in KS) and we all got into a big wreck. Those were all the details she had. Should I be glad or worried that that was how she remembered me?

Dreams are almost never literal, always symbolic. There's lots of different interpretations for that dream, though if you do some proper research on dream analysis, you can probably whittle that list down some. However, I do NOT think it's a good idea for you to dwell on it and try to figure out what any underlying meaning is, simply be happy that you were deep enough into her subconscious that you were included in her dream :)

Though on the other side of the coin, don't start thinking the "deep enough into her subconscious" may mean she's in love with you either, so... :p :lol

[davehead34]

You know what I think, Jon? I think you just straight up need to bang that chick. That's what I honestly think.

[Jessica41]

Thanks again Chase :hug

[davehead34]

Thanks again Chase :hug

No problem :)

[gbs3769]

So my mom's best friend, who we are here at the shore with, is trying to hook me and her niece up. Her niece lives in Hoboken and I'm going to be in New York on Saturday for a concert so I think she is going to try and have her niece meet me there. The funny thing is that I had such a crush on her niece when I met her at my mom's best friend's wedding like 10 years ago.

- Matt

[UNC41]

When does it get easier? Its been almost a month and a half and I haven't talked to her for a week and a half but the past couple days it has felt like she broke up me yesterday.

[gbs3769]

In time. There is no definite answer to that question.

- Matt

[UNC41]

I suppose I already knew the answer to that, but I asked anyways. I don't know if its been so bad lately because of how lonely I'm getting. I can't wait to get back to school where I don't have to worry about taking a girl home and at least temporairly healing the lonliness.

[gbs3769]

Just keep on getting out there and meeting people. That is what made the pain go away rather quickly for me. Sure I have times when I think back on it and say what if, but for the most part I am doing wonderful.

- Matt

[purplehaze18]

I feel like im gonna have a place in this thread real soon...

[davehead34]

When does it get easier? Its been almost a month and a half and I haven't talked to her for a week and a half but the past couple days it has felt like she broke up me yesterday.

Totally sorry to hear that you're still bummin man. I know that it took me MONTHS to get over the chick that "inspired" me to create this thread. I was just talking to my roommate yesterday and said, "I'm finally totally over her." Thing is, I have no idea how it happened. It was a very gradual process, which involved lots of Guinness, DMB, playing guitar, and listening to Jack Johnson on the beach. Truth be told my good man, talking about your problem to people who actually care about your feelings helps greatly, too.

And Matt, go for it. That sounds like a once in a lifetime opportunity - to have the girl, who you've crushed on for years, be set up with you by her close family member. That's rare. Take advantage of that.

[davehead34]

I feel like im gonna have a place in this thread real soon...

Let me pre-emptively welcome you then :) We're all equally pathetic here, so don't feel embarrased when you're speaking of love lost.

[UNC41]

That's why I really want to get back to school. I just signed a lease for an apartment with a pool and have already made a plan to let any ladies come to my week long pool party the weekend before school starts. It'll also be really nice not to be living a block and a half away from her. What really was no fun was this past weekend when I was making out with this girl and she tells me she doesn't want to be a "rebound" girl. Meanwhile, I'm thinking that's exactly what you need to be.

[davehead34]

Matt, this may be a bit of a dumb question, but what does the "[HR]" in your sig block represent?

[purplehaze18]

Not lost just a weird bad feeling, probably nothing I worry way too much. Still if anything im going to be worrying in here every once and awhile.

[davehead34]

Very few people want to be rebounds (I know I sure don't - it sucks), but they're an important part of getting over past relationships. It's nice to hook up with a chick after I've been out of "the game" for a long time. It proves to myself that I've still got "it."

[UNC41]

I'm still trying to remember everything that goes with meeting and picking up girls after two years away from anything like that.

[saintjohnsriver]

The so called "girl of my dreams" is married and she has told me that I am the only guy who understands her. That I am the guy of her dreams...

and to hang tight...

Yeah, right!

[saintjohnsriver]

I should add that I draw the line at unfaithfulness and told her that she is off limits to me...

[davehead34]

I should add that I draw the line at unfaithfulness and told her that she is off limits to me...

:thumbsup No one should ever be down with cheating with a married person. That's just not cool. That totally violates the Golden Rule. And that's significantly fucked up that she would say that stuff to you man. Really screwy.

[UNC41]

I should add that I draw the line at unfaithfulness and told her that she is off limits to me...

:thumbsup

I agree 100%.

[purplehaze18]

Would anyone else in here be a lot happier with a pet monkey with a giraffe sidekick named pablo and jerry? i know i would.

[watchtwrwildcat]

The so called "girl of my dreams" is married and she has told me that I am the only guy who understands her. That I am the guy of her dreams...

and to hang tight...

Yeah, right!you should ask her how that cake tastes.

[UNC41]

Would anyone else in here be a lot happier with a pet monkey with a giraffe sidekick named pablo and jerry? i know i would.

Throw in a neverending keg, a jukebox, Rachel McAdams and I'm set for life.

[davehead34]

I wish I had cake right now. I'm so hungry.

[saintjohnsriver]

you should ask her how that cake tastes.

You ever met someone you had immediate chemistry with. That's us. When we're around there is this mutual attraction that cannot be denied. When I met her we went on what I thought were three lunch dates until she told me she was married.

We are very close friends but likes to visit me when her husband is out of town. I have never made a move, but boy I am tempted.

She wants kids, he does not. They should have got that straight before they got married.

I have a feeling that I'll find the right gal before she gets her shit straight.

[purplehaze18]

Oh and the worlds largest peice of cheescake followed by an endless supply of fruit loops ice cream and tom and jerry cartoons.

[watchtwrwildcat]

You ever met someone you had immediate chemistry with. yes--recently, in fact.

I have a feeling that I'll find the right gal before she gets her shit straight.why the rush?

[handsareme]

You know what I think, Jon? I think you just straight up need to bang that chick. That's what I honestly think.
Thanks Chase. :thumbsup I needed a laugh like that after the day I had today.

How I met this girl:
I was in Charlotte, NC, for the North American Mennonite Conference. I kinda live in a Mennonite hotspot here in KS and have met a few others from the surrounding communities, specifically the town where I'm going to college. Anyways, a pretty tight Christian band called Thirstborne (the only Christian band that I listen to, mainly because they cover Van Halen's Jump, Boston's More Than a Feeling, and Kansas' Carry On Wayward Son) was playing two shows at this conference. They'd formed the band a few years ago at the college where I'll be at in August. Of course, being tight with the band, I attended both shows.

So the second of the two shows I'm standing partway back and just groovin' to myself. Suddenly this girl, Jenna, walks up to me and asks me where she should know me from. I recognized her but couldn't put my finger on where I'd seen her. She went to high school in the town where I'm going to college. My brother married a girl from her church so I said his wife's name and she knew her. Keep in mind, this interaction between us took almost a minute and I didn't ask her name, but rather her email address.

So now we chat almost nightly on MSN and I was about to hang out with her until the extenuating circumstances that occurred this morning.

It may sound (kind of) like an episode of Seinfeld, without all the pre-emptive sex.:lol

[handsareme]

Dreams are almost never literal, always symbolic. There's lots of different interpretations for that dream, though if you do some proper research on dream analysis, you can probably whittle that list down some. However, I do NOT think it's a good idea for you to dwell on it and try to figure out what any underlying meaning is, simply be happy that you were deep enough into her subconscious that you were included in her dream :)

Though on the other side of the coin, don't start thinking the "deep enough into her subconscious" may mean she's in love with you either, so... :p :lol
I'm just amazed that I appeared in one of her mind televisions shows.

[saintjohnsriver]

yes--recently, in fact.

Well just because there is chemistry does not justify the relationship...

why the rush?

No rush, I wish she was single, but she isn't. She wants to come over and see me this weekend.

I said no, I need to be looking for single gals! No sense in wanting what you cannot have!!!

But if I were to pick the perfect single gal, I would pick her, but with one major improvement...

I would need to trust her.

[davehead34]

:lol That's a crazy way of meeting a chick dude! How funny would it be if you've never actually met her before and she was just using that as a pick up line and it actually worked. You would've gotten picked up by the cheesiest pick up line in dating history! :lol

[davehead34]

I would need to trust her.

:thumbsup Right on bro. Trust is so important these days. It's hard enough finding friends you can trust, let alone a significant other.

[handsareme]

:lol That's a crazy way of meeting a chick dude! How funny would it be if you've never actually met her before and she was just using that as a pick up line and it actually worked. You would've gotten picked up by the cheesiest pick up line in dating history! :lol
:lol
Funny thing is that we met 20 hours away when we live about 40 minutes apart from each other.

[UNC41]

:thumbsup Right on bro. Trust is so important these days. It's hard enough finding friends you can trust, let alone a significant other.

Ahh trust, or as I like to call it, the glue that holds a relationship together.

[davehead34]

:lol
Funny thing is that we met 20 hours away when we live about 40 minutes apart from each other.

Want to hear something strange? I live in San Diego now (duh) and this kid who lives in the same barracks as me grew up right down the street from me when I used to live in RI. He's only four years older, but knows all the people I know. He knows all of my friend's older bros and sisters. Small world huh?

[gbs3769]

Matt, this may be a bit of a dumb question, but what does the "[HR]" in your sig block represent?

Hopeless Romantic.

- Matt

[handsareme]

Want to hear something strange? I live in San Diego now (duh) and this kid who lives in the same barracks as me grew up right down the street from me when I used to live in RI. He's only four years older, but knows all the people I know. He knows all of my friend's older bros and sisters. Small world huh?
Sometimes fate or destiny (or whatever it is people call it) works in funny ways.

[gbs3769]

So I'm really interested in seeing if my mom's best friend (who I call my Aunt as it is) actually calls her niece to have her meet me this weekend. That would be really cool.

- Matt

[saintjohnsriver]

Oh, and if I could pick the perfect girl, I would pick Diana Krall. Damn you Elvis!!

I am gonna go listen to some Diana and go to sleep now...

[purplehaze18]

i still want fruit loops and tom and jerry

[davehead34]

Hopeless Romantic.

- Matt

:thumbsup That's sweet dude. I think I'm gonna put something in my sig to solidify my abounding love for you guys ;) Mind if I copy/borrow/steal you idea, Matt?

[davehead34]

Oh, and if I could pick the perfect girl, I would pick Diana Krall. Damn you Elvis!!

I am gonna go listen to some Diana and go to sleep now...

Take it easy, Anthony. See you on the boards bro.

[gbs3769]

And not at all. I figured it was something easy enough that anyone is more than welcome to include in their sig.

- Matt

[purplehaze18]

I just got sane again, just letting everyone know. That was close.

[davehead34]

And not at all. I figured it was something easy enough that anyone is more than welcome to include in their sig.

- Matt

Right on bro. Done and done.

[gbs3769]

I love it.

- Matt