**The Official Hopeless Romantics Thread**

[il bacio dolce]

:lol awww

[JenLuvsDMB]

Heheheh hey Cassie! I love your avatar!

[il bacio dolce]

oooh thank you. I like the song lyric in your siggy.

[JenLuvsDMB]

Heehee. Thanks. :)

[smeritt]

unnacceptable. page two once more. Whos ready for spring break? Ik I am about 10 more days

[gbs3769]

Did you like the list of musicians I gave you, Sean?

- Primo

[JenLuvsDMB]

I don't get a spring break. What's that? Hmph! Sadness ensues.

[Jessica41]

unnacceptable. page two once more. Whos ready for spring break? Ik I am about 10 more days

i had spring break a month ago. im ready for summer

[smeritt]

Did you like the list of musicians I gave you, Sean?

- PrimoWell I wouldn't know. You see my brother is a selfish asshole and thinks the world revolves around him. Being a drug addict will do that to you. So he signed me off before i could get the list

[handsareme]

Well, I still have the HR in the sig...I guess that means I should pop in here more than once every couple of months?

Anyway, I just thought I'd say that it's nice when a girl gives you a neck/shoulder massage during the ENTIRE movie. I'm so relaxed now...

[Popeye2003]

Well I wouldn't know. You see my brother is a selfish asshole and thinks the world revolves around him. Being a drug addict will do that to you. So he signed me off before i could get the list
That's a lot of hatred for a single heart :p

[smeritt]

No hate...brotherly love

[thelindz]

I'm bored...

This thread seemed appropriate to post in tonight. :p

[Popeye2003]

No hate...brotherly love
I see.

[smeritt]

So I think I'm driving to Saratoga which means I can come find you drunk bastards wherever you are so we can chill.

[Popeye2003]

Who's going to Fenway?

[il bacio dolce]

That depends. Is Arthur going to Fenway?

[rfsved]

I'm bored...

This thread seemed appropriate to post in tonight. :p
I second that! ;)

[smeritt]

Where is everyone lately? What are we looking at for shows? Where is everyone sitting for said shows?

[handsareme]

How do I get her to notice that I like her? I guess the daisies weren't enough.

[smeritt]

Tell her

[handsareme]

I thought I did. We've opened up to each other so much over the past couple of days. I've pretty much been her shoulder to cry on.

[smeritt]

Did she have a breakup or something or a close friend/relative death? Because if you havent outright told her before this event she might be throwing you into the "friend" box, which is no good .

[handsareme]

Did she have a breakup or something or a close friend/relative death? Because if you havent outright told her before this event she might be throwing you into the "friend" box, which is no good .
There has been a breakup. She's also just gotten over mono and is dealing with stress from missing a month of classes. I've been helping her get over that stress. We'll see how time does with this.

[SeanMH]

Who's going to Fenway?

i am

[il bacio dolce]

Did Arthur answer the question?

[smeritt]

I think Arthur is going to Fenway and if so I'm going to fight him because he should be going to SPAC!!!!

[il bacio dolce]

Yeah man, it's 60 miles for me. At least 10 hours.

[Popeye2003]

Did Arthur answer the question?
I did in the other thread. :D

[Popeye2003]

I think Arthur is going to Fenway and if so I'm going to fight him because he should be going to SPAC!!!!
Come on, I'll take you. I didn't want to, but it seems like I'll have to. :p

[Popeye2003]

Yeah man, it's 60 miles for me. At least 10 hours.
6 mph? What sort of speed is that in which you drive? :lol

[Jessica41]

Where is everyone lately? What are we looking at for shows? Where is everyone sitting for said shows?

I'm going to Star Lake, Hershey, and Scranton

[Jessica41]

Where is everyone lately? What are we looking at for shows? Where is everyone sitting for said shows?

I'm going to Star Lake, Hershey, and Scranton

SPAC is now a possibility. Who's going?

[handsareme]

For me it's Dallas and possibly Denver.

[Jessica41]

Well I'd really like to get to C'ville... more so than SPAC

[whiteysax]

I'm going to Star Lake, Hershey, and Scranton

SPAC is now a possibility. Who's going?
I already told Primo that I'm DRAGGING you to SPAC! So count on it ;)

Of course I'll be at Cville too... so that'd be cool :p

[whiteysax]

where's everyone sitting for SPAC and Alpine? lawn, reserved? for which nites?

[newscane]

I'll be at SPAC, inside both nights. WH seats on N1, sec 7 on N2.

[smeritt]

Jess we gotta meet up at Hershey and maybe even SPAC if you go....

[il bacio dolce]

6 mph? What sort of speed is that in which you drive? :lol
Ha. 600 miles dude. ;)

[whiteysax]

Jess we gotta meet up at Hershey and maybe even SPAC if you go....
Oh she's going ;)

[Popeye2003]

Aaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh fuck :BANG

[gbs3769]

Yeah man, it's 60 miles for me. At least 10 hours.
If you drive as fast as I do (85mph) you'll be there in 7.

- Primo

[gbs3769]

Who's going to Fenway?
I am going to night two with my cousin.

- Primo

[gbs3769]

Where is everyone lately? What are we looking at for shows? Where is everyone sitting for said shows?
I was on the road.

I am going to:

SPAC N1: 4 Reserved Tickets
SPAC N2: 4 Lawn Tickets
Fenway N2: 2 Reserved Tickets
Alpine N1: 2 Lawn Tickets
Alpine N2: 2 Reserved Tickets

- Primo

[Jessica41]

Jess we gotta meet up at Hershey and maybe even SPAC if you go....

Sounds good to me. Let me know what your plans are when Hershey gets closer

[il bacio dolce]

I know I probably could get it down to 7. :lol

[smeritt]

So I'm leaving for Charleston South Carolina tommorow for our Varsity baseball team. Just though i'd pop in and say can't wait for this summer and talk to you all in a week

[davehead34]

Where is everyone lately? What are we looking at for shows? Where is everyone sitting for said shows?

I've been moving and changing jobs and the Internet isn't hooked up to my new place yet. As for shows this summer, I'm TRYING to get my ass to Fenway (I do have tickets), but I'm definitely going to the SoCal shows. I'll try for Shoreline, too, but I'm not certain I'll be able to swing it. I'm definitely taking it easy this year for touring. Last year sucked me dry for cash.

[Popeye2003]

I am going to night two with my cousin.

- Primo
I was going too :BANG

[Jessica41]

Happy Birthday to me ;)

I'm old.

[skatcat]

Holy Cow! You are not old at all. You're just getting started.

[skatcat]

Happy Bday by the way.

[DMBfan41]

so, she's been thinking lately about that she never spends time by herself anymore, a lot of is spent with me.

Thus is not good. What am I supposed to do with that?

[Jessica41]

so, she's been thinking lately about that she never spends time by herself anymore, a lot of is spent with me.

Thus is not good. What am I supposed to do with that?

let her have alone time. everyone needs it.

[Jessica41]

Happy Bday by the way.

thanks:)

[whiteysax]

I wanted to post this yesterday... but didn't have my DMB hard drive with me... so here...

Happy Belated Birthday Jess!!!
hxxp://download.yousendit.com/1C00856D3FC86A51

PS. You must be at SPAC! I will buy you a tshirt... and Primo told me to tell you that he'd buy you a Limerick thong!

[gbs3769]

PS. You must be at SPAC! I will buy you a tshirt... and Primo told me to tell you that he'd buy you a Limerick thong!
It's true. I have to get one for Kristen first, though.

- Primo

[gbs3769]

so, she's been thinking lately about that she never spends time by herself anymore, a lot of is spent with me.
Give her some space. Or rather, take a night or two out of the week where the two of you do your own thing and then end up seeing each other before bedtime.

- Primo

[Jessica41]

I wanted to post this yesterday... but didn't have my DMB hard drive with me... so here...

Happy Belated Birthday Jess!!!
hxxp://download.yousendit.com/1C00856D3FC86A51

PS. You must be at SPAC! I will buy you a tshirt... and Primo told me to tell you that he'd buy you a Limerick thong!

thanks! I'll go to SPAC if I can find good tickets and a place to stay for cheap.

[whiteysax]

thanks! I'll go to SPAC if I can find good tickets and a place to stay for cheap.
I've already got a room for me and Primo.. there's 2 beds and a pull out (much like PSU)... and I still get the cheap employee rate even though i quit :D

[DMBfan41]

and im single again

[whiteysax]

what happened dude!?

[Jessica41]

I've already got a room for me and Primo.. there's 2 beds and a pull out (much like PSU)... and I still get the cheap employee rate even though i quit :D

Ok. Well it would be me and Justin. So if I see decent tix, or either of you do, please let me know. I've never been there so I don't know how views are.

[Jessica41]

and im single again

Hope you're okay... what happened, Jar?

[DMBfan41]

DMBeatles41 (8:30:24 AM): she's not ready for a relationship
DMBeatles41 (8:31:44 AM): she's got issues
DMBeatles41 (8:34:56 AM): she's not ready, she lied to me about her past relationships, apparently she was really hurt by one, never told me anything, never will, she wasn't happy with who she became, she believes her family hates her, her friends hate her because she doesn't spend much time with them anymore because its always with me
DMBeatles41 (8:36:26 AM): she grew really attached to me, and relied on me a lot, but she also did not trust me at all times and became jealous, she became a liar and she hates liars
DMBeatles41 (8:36:39 AM): and she really lied
DMBeatles41 (8:37:23 AM): she's only a freshmen, her best friend is still in high school, she's still immature
DMBeatles41 (8:38:24 AM): it all came out of nowhere which is the best part of all
DMBeatles41 (8:38:43 AM): yeah, she's been thinking about it lately
DMBeatles41 (8:38:54 AM): i kinda noticed something was up since friday
DMBeatles41 (8:39:19 AM): not really calling anymore, not returning, not really talking all that much
DMBeatles41 (8:40:11 AM): she chose the route of just breaking it off instead of talking about it

[Popeye2003]

:shrug :(

[gbs3769]

I've already got a room for me and Primo.. there's 2 beds and a pull out (much like PSU)... and I still get the cheap employee rate even though i quit :D
Don't forget Kristen...

- Primo

[gbs3769]

Balls man. Balls.

- Primo

[whiteysax]

Ok. Well it would be me and Justin. So if I see decent tix, or either of you do, please let me know. I've never been there so I don't know how views are.
3 beds is enough for 3 pairs... i'll take the pull out. I don't think my gf will be there. I don't have tix either... so I'll keep an eye out for a few tix

[whiteysax]

DMBeatles41 (8:30:24 AM): she's not ready for a relationship
DMBeatles41 (8:31:44 AM): she's got issues
DMBeatles41 (8:34:56 AM): she's not ready, she lied to me about her past relationships, apparently she was really hurt by one, never told me anything, never will, she wasn't happy with who she became, she believes her family hates her, her friends hate her because she doesn't spend much time with them anymore because its always with me
DMBeatles41 (8:36:26 AM): she grew really attached to me, and relied on me a lot, but she also did not trust me at all times and became jealous, she became a liar and she hates liars
DMBeatles41 (8:36:39 AM): and she really lied
DMBeatles41 (8:37:23 AM): she's only a freshmen, her best friend is still in high school, she's still immature
DMBeatles41 (8:38:24 AM): it all came out of nowhere which is the best part of all
DMBeatles41 (8:38:43 AM): yeah, she's been thinking about it lately
DMBeatles41 (8:38:54 AM): i kinda noticed something was up since friday
DMBeatles41 (8:39:19 AM): not really calling anymore, not returning, not really talking all that much
DMBeatles41 (8:40:11 AM): she chose the route of just breaking it off instead of talking about it
Sorry to hear, Jar. Sounds a little like my gf except that we talk through everything and she does trust me. I hope things go well for you and it's all for the best. We're here for ya

[Popeye2003]

Don't forget Kristen...

- Primo
Whitey always has to forget things.

[gbs3769]

I have an extra pair for both nights...

- Primo

[whiteysax]

I have an extra pair for both nights...

- Primo
*raises hand with obnoxious vigor :monkey
:multi:multi:multi

(honestly, i was just looking at spac tix in the ticket forums)

[whiteysax]

Whitey always has to forget things.
:(
*hangs head in shame*

[Popeye2003]

I have an extra pair for both nights...

- Primo
SPAC?

[gbs3769]

SPAC?
Yes.

- Primo

[whiteysax]

Yes.

- Primo
how much? thought they were for Jess

[Popeye2003]

There is a very small chance I make it to Alpine. I'm not counting on it though.

[whiteysax]

There is a very small chance I make it to Alpine. I'm not counting on it though.
:thumbsup:thumbsup let us know if we can help

[Popeye2003]

Does anyone here live close to Alpine? Or someone who's driving there...

[Jessica41]

I'm sorry Jar. It sounds like immaturity to me as well. She should have enough respect to talk through things with you, and if not, it can't possibly be called love.

[DMBfan41]

it couldn't have been love which is why i'm so dissapointed today.

The whole thing has made me sick to my stomach. Literally, i threw up this morning

[Popeye2003]

New Tool CD = album of the year, so far. And it'll be hard to take if off that place.

[Popeye2003]

it couldn't have been love which is why i'm so dissapointed today.

The whole thing has made me sick to my stomach. Literally, i threw up this morning
Man, it'll go before you think. Just don't let it eat you. Move on.

[Franchize41]

New Tool CD = album of the year, so far. And it'll be hard to take if off that place.

Is it really better then David Gilmour's album, I didnt think that would be surpassed

[Popeye2003]

Is it really better then David Gilmour's album, I didnt think that would be surpassed
I liked it better. But then again, David Gilmour is #5 on my list, so far.

[Jessica41]

it couldn't have been love which is why i'm so dissapointed today.

The whole thing has made me sick to my stomach. Literally, i threw up this morning

Only time...

I can't wait to see you at Scranton
xoxox

[JTR&PIG]

New Tool CD = album of the year, so far. And it'll be hard to take if off that place.
god do I hate tool they absoultely are the worst band in today's music

[davehead34]

Is it really better then David Gilmour's album, I didnt think that would be surpassed

I wouldn't say it's better than Gilmour's new album. That's one helluva album. Preference, though.

So, it doesn't sound like much has changed. Relationships suck and are doomed the day they start and people's hearts are still being broken. :shrug At least the Sox are 11-4 :thumbsup

[Popeye2003]

god do I hate tool they absoultely are the worst band in today's music
Maybe you don't like them, but by no means they are a bad band.

[davehead34]

Maybe you don't like them, but by no means they are a bad band.

:thumbsup Agreed. One cannot deny their talent even if one doesn't like their music.

[JTR&PIG]

Maybe you don't like them, but by no means they are a bad band.
deny talent I believe they have nothing honestly I hate there sound and I don't believe they have any good.

[gbs3769]

At least the Sox are 11-4 :thumbsup
The Sox are often strong in the begining. It's October that they can't handle.

- Primo

[DMBfan41]

so she texts one of my friends on campus to ask how i'm handling, and tells him not to tell me she's asking.

[davehead34]

The Sox are often strong in the begining. It's October that they can't handle.

- Primo

Baaazingggg!

Funny you should say that, Primo. I was thinking the same thing about the Yanks. I just realized that the Yanks haven't won a WS this century. That has a nice ring to it.

[gbs3769]

Baaazingggg!

Funny you should say that, Primo. I was thinking the same thing about the Yanks. I just realized that the Yanks haven't won a WS this century. That has a nice ring to it.
:lol

That depends on if you count the year 2000 as part of this century or not. But if you don't, I'll still take our 26 titles from last century to your five.

I'm noticing a trend with this win early but not late thing...

You guys win championships early in the century and then don't win any after that (Evidenced by your win in 1903 and final win in 1918). Whereas with the Yankees, it takes us a little bit to gather steam and then we just win for the rest of the century.

- Primo

[davehead34]

:lol

That depends on if you count the year 2000 as part of this century or not. But if you don't, I'll still take our 26 titles from last century to your five.

I'm noticing a trend with this win early but not late thing...

You guys win championships early in the century and then don't win any after that (Evidenced by your win in 1903 and final win in 1918). Whereas with the Yankees, it takes us a little bit to gather steam and then we just win for the rest of the century.

- Primo

How about this - you worry about the Yanks winning (I'm sure you guys will come around :rolleyes) and I'll keep letting you know that we're in first place :lol

[Jessica41]

so she texts one of my friends on campus to ask how i'm handling, and tells him not to tell me she's asking.

wow that's immaturity at it's finest, how old is this girl?

[Popeye2003]

wow that's immaturity at it's finest, how old is this girl?
:lol

[davehead34]

wow that's immaturity at it's finest, how old is this girl?

Sometimes I think it doesn't matter. I know 18 year old chicks far more mature than 25 year old chicks. I hate to say it, but age is just a number. This doesn't mean, however, that I'm down with dating 13 year olds. That's just wrong. I mean really - I have to draw the line somewhere.

[handsareme]

I enjoy walks at 1 am under a starry night with a nice girl.

[DMBfan41]

wow that's immaturity at it's finest, how old is this girl?

19, only a year younger then me. But still immature.

I don't know how to feel really. I mean, I feel like i miss her but how she treated all of this without even talking to me really makes me feel like shit. So, like, i don't even know.

It doens't really help that I've had a few drinks tonight so I don't even know how i feel.

But woo for places in NYC that don't card!

[whiteysax]

Olive Garden didn't card me or my gf last weekend. (which is weird, cause i don't feel like i look 21, and my gf DEFEINITELY looks like she's 16 or 17 to most people) made me feel quite adult.

[Popeye2003]

Sometimes I think it doesn't matter. I know 18 year old chicks far more mature than 25 year old chicks. I hate to say it, but age is just a number. This doesn't mean, however, that I'm down with dating 13 year olds. That's just wrong. I mean really - I have to draw the line somewhere.
:thumbsup

[davehead34]

But woo for places in NYC that don't card!

:thumbsup When I went to NYC this past winter for the MSG shows, I went to more bars than I care to count and none of them carded. Well, one did, but it was cool. We were all 21 (or older) at that place. God that was one of the best four days of my life!

:thumbsup

Thanks, Art. :)

[handsareme]

:thumbsup When I went to NYC this past winter for the MSG shows, I went to more bars than I care to count and none of them carded. Well, one did, but it was cool. We were all 21 (or older) at that place. God that was one of the best four days of my life!
Damn me for living in a small town...

[davehead34]

Damn me for living in a small town...

Hey what's going on dude? Yeah, you seriously need to move to a big beach city. There's really nothing else like it.

[whiteysax]

Hey what's going on dude? Yeah, you seriously need to move to a big beach city. There's really nothing else like it.
weren't you the one talking about moving back to connecticut? well, i guess they have a beach there, too...

[DMBfan41]

i've been in deep thought all morning. Never good right?

I want to tell her so much, i dunno if its for closure reasons or hopes that she takes me back, i have no idea what i want anymore.

Nice week here.
Monday - the breakup, felt angry and upset
Tuesday - felt upset, but hopeful, and thoughts that I could do better entered my head
Wednesday - felt upset, hopeful that i could do better, still miss her
Thursday - drunk, excited about a night out, at the end of the night, just drunk and missing her
Today - stuck in deep thought and I REALLY miss her

I don't know if I want to swallow my dignity and pride and tell her all this, or make her thing that i've moved on. I don't know what to do.

[davehead34]

weren't you the one talking about moving back to connecticut? well, i guess they have a beach there, too...

I was originally going to move back home to RI, which might as well be Connecticut (or Massachussetts for that matter), but I decided to stay out here about a month ago. I've already applied and got into some local colleges, got my FAFSA and all that good stuff. Plus, me and two of my really good friends just got a two story townhouse on the beach for one year :D Needless to say, I couldn't really find a reason to leave San Diego. I do, however, believe that it's important for most people to get the hell out of their hometown/area where they grew up and try something new. It's never easy, but it's worth it even if you end up going back to where you came from at least you can say you did something else. It seems like too many people can't say that these days.

[dmb1spe]

Jared,

I know you and I have went back on forth on here a few times, and I'm sure I've probably pissed you off on numerous occasions. But I feel for you man. There is nothing in the world worse than putting faith and trust in someone and having them betray it.

On the bad side, there's all those feelings of loss and anger and hurt and resentment. And that's ok. That means you're human. If you didn't feel those sorts of things I'd be worried.

The good is that you find out now what kind of character she has. It's better to know that only after a short time than years down the road, where you are too entrenched to even consider walking away. So many people fall into that trap where they have invested too much to start over, but are too frustrated to continue. And their existence, relationship, and life just goes spiraling out of control.

I, as well as others I assume, are here for you man if you need an ear.

[DMBfan41]

thanks alan, but hey, that's what makes the boards fun, going back and forth!

I need an ear, I need help, I don't know what to do

[whiteysax]

i've always been one to not leave anything on the table. if she knows everything and you know everything then you have the greatest probability of not having any regrets. telling her will make you feel better and clue her in. not telling her would avoid possible extra emotional aggravation. it can be a tough call... but i usually spill everything before i feel i can really move on. sometimes it backfires and makes you both question what you want... sometimes it does serve as closure and you both feel better and move on. but those are the risks with any relationship, i think. you take the good with the bad.
i've been with my gf for 2 months now and i've been in more (1 sided) fights with her than i've been in with any other ex... and my last two gf's were a year or more relationships. it's a learning experience and frustrating a lot of nites... but you take the good with the bad, learn a little, and keep going. i'm sure you've felt like you do before... and you know that eventually it passes and somoene else comes along and makes you just as happy if not happier. or maybe she has a revelation and sees you for the great guy you are and comes back... you never know

[davehead34]

I don't know if I want to swallow my dignity and pride and tell her all this, or make her thing that i've moved on. I don't know what to do.

I would distract myself for the time being if I were in your shoes. I have a difficult time getting over chicks sometimes (almost always), but I'm always able to pull through by making more time for myself (i.e.: grab my acoustic and chill on the beach for a weekend) and also by talking to a few very close friends about how I feel deep down. It's always important to express exactly how you feel, but she would probably be the last person that you'd need to tell how you truly feel. I wouldn't even talk to her. There's no sense in teasing yourself by talking to her.

[davehead34]

... you never know

:thumbsup That's pretty much all anything comes down to.

[whiteysax]

I was originally going to move back home to RI, which might as well be Connecticut (or Massachussetts for that matter), but I decided to stay out here about a month ago. I've already applied and got into some local colleges, got my FAFSA and all that good stuff. Plus, me and two of my really good friends just got a two story townhouse on the beach for one year :D Needless to say, I couldn't really find a reason to leave San Diego. I do, however, believe that it's important for most people to get the hell out of their hometown/area where they grew up and try something new. It's never easy, but it's worth it even if you end up going back to where you came from at least you can say you did something else. It seems like too many people can't say that these days.
I hear ya! I can't believe I still have friends in Reading (where i grew up). Reading has climbed the charts to become something like the #3 worse city for crime on the east coast or in pennsylvania or something like that. It's gotten so bad. Jobs suck, living sucks... and i still have friends there working at the movie theatre. get the hell out! see something! live life!! I only moved an hour down the road... but it's so nice here and i love it. Especially after my year in Texas... I really grew to appreciate what I had inherited when I moved to central PA from Reading.

[gbs3769]

I don't know if I want to swallow my dignity and pride and tell her all this, or make her thing that i've moved on. I don't know what to do.
When Becca and I broke up last year, I often would make the stupid 2am phone call to her. Most of the time she wouldn't answer but a few times she would and we would talk. At the time that I was doing it, I always thought that it was a good idea to call her and talk about things. However, I don't think that it is a good thing to do. I know that it is going to be difficult for you to decide not to call her, but it is what you have to do.

- Primo

[dmb1spe]

The thing to remember is this Jar...

If you sit her down and tell all of this, one of two things is going to happen. Either 1.) she'll realize what she has and get back with you. But is that really what you want knowing her personality? If she's immature and using you, that's not going to change just because you tell her you really care about her. A leopard really never changes. or 2) she ignores it and hurts you even more.

Were I in your shoes, I would say maintain some distance and get back to being you. Figure out what it is that makes you happy and be happy without someone else in the picture. If in a couple of months/years when you both are in different places emotionally and mentally, then give it another shot if it's what you want.

Speaking from my own experiences, even when awful people broke up with me, I was still hurt. Simply because I couldn't have what it was I thought I wanted. After some time, some healing, etc. I realized how much better off I could be without them.

[whiteysax]

:thumbsup That's pretty much all anything comes down to.
you ever notice how events in your life or someone else's give new meaning to some songs you've heard a hundred times... or help you finally realize the meaning of some song...

Funny when you’re small
The moon follows the car
There’s no one but you see
Hey, the moon is chasing me

I worried if I looked away she’d be gone
Don’t lose the dreams inside your head
They’ll only be there til you’re dead
Dream

[DMBfan41]

after seeing her yesterday and running away and thinking about it today. It's just pathetic. This girl went from being so much of my life to someone that i felt the need to run away from.

And thinking today, now, I just want to talk to her. It's something that eventually has to happen. Small school....it's hard to get away, you know? Either it will get closure, or maybe something happens. But, Whitey, i tend to agree with you. It usually takes me a little to get over someone, but i've never been like an emotional wreck like i have been this week

[dmb1spe]

Everyday should be a good day to die.


Kind of helps you make the most of the moment I guess.

[DMBfan41]

and I really don't think that she meant to hurt me. I think she's been under a lot of stress lately, and she felt she had to get something out of her life, and that was me.

I know it still doesn't sound good, but I don't know

[whiteysax]

after seeing her yesterday and running away and thinking about it today. It's just pathetic. This girl went from being so much of my life to someone that i felt the need to run away from.

And thinking today, now, I just want to talk to her. It's something that eventually has to happen. Small school....it's hard to get away, you know? Either it will get closure, or maybe something happens. But, Whitey, i tend to agree with you. It usually takes me a little to get over someone, but i've never been like an emotional wreck like i have been this week
There's alot to what Alan said too... it can be risky. But it really depends on your personality and coping devices. I've always personally needed that last emotional dump of spilling as much as i felt I could handle. I never cared what she'd think or how she'd react... it was just something I would do to know I dind't leave anything behind and that it really could be a clean break. A lot of times it helped (thats just the way i am)... sometimes it blows up and makes me feel more like shit... but in time, i feel that much better about it.

[whiteysax]

and I really don't think that she meant to hurt me. I think she's been under a lot of stress lately, and she felt she had to get something out of her life, and that was me.

I know it still doesn't sound good, but I don't know
we all have our moments... and at our age, alot of shit changes and it effects a lot of different areas of our lives at the same time. its not to make excuses for anyone... but sheds a little light

[DMBfan41]

i do feel like if i keep avoiding it, i won't get better

[davehead34]

When Becca and I broke up last year, I often would make the stupid 2am phone call to her. Most of the time she wouldn't answer but a few times she would and we would talk. At the time that I was doing it, I always thought that it was a good idea to call her and talk about things. However, I don't think that it is a good thing to do. I know that it is going to be difficult for you to decide not to call her, but it is what you have to do.

- Primo

Here are some of Chase Fuller's "Rules of Life:"

67. If you are imbibing alcohol, either turn your cell phone off or lock it in your car and give your friend the keys. Never under any occasion drunk dial.

68. Never call ex-girlfriends. The only time this rule is not true is if you guys remained friends after the breakup. If you're anything like me, you'll experience a bad breakup more often than not, so you'll rarely speak with ex's.

69. Don't be the douche bag that substitutes your cell phone for a lighter at a concert when the lights go out.

[whiteysax]

Here are some of Chase Fuller's "Rules of Life:"

67. If you are imbibing alcohol, either turn your cell phone off or lock it in your car and give your friend the keys. Never under any occasion drunk dial.

68. Never call ex-girlfriends. The only time this rule is not true is if you guys remained friends after the breakup. If you're anything like me, you'll experience a bad breakup more often than not, so you'll rarely speak with ex's.

69. Don't be the douche bag that substitutes your cell phone for a lighter at a concert when the lights go out.
68. i always seem to be friends with my ex's... only 2 i don't talk to anymore. one is a cheating bitch and the other i never fully got over and just couldn't take it anymore when she got engaged to a guy 11 yrs older than her. that was my only voluntary complete cut off.

69. I don't smoke... but the only time i ever carry a lighter with me is at a dave show :thumbsup damn teenie boppers and their cell phones... CRASH!!! *squeals and screams* *dial dial dial* "they're playing it!!! listen!!!" blue and green glow all over the stadium...

[handsareme]

Hey what's going on dude? Yeah, you seriously need to move to a big beach city. There's really nothing else like it.
It has been awhile Chase...I've been busy getting my pilot's stuff, got my Private in February and am working on my Instrument Rating. Should have it in July. Got news a couple weeks ago that I'm going to be an RA so I'll be pretty busy next year as well. And because of the RA, I think I'll be trying to find asses for my seats in Dallas.

[davehead34]

you ever notice how events in your life or someone else's give new meaning to some songs you've heard a hundred times... or help you finally realize the meaning of some song...

Funny when you’re small
The moon follows the car
There’s no one but you see
Hey, the moon is chasing me

I worried if I looked away she’d be gone
Don’t lose the dreams inside your head
They’ll only be there til you’re dead
Dream

:thumbsup It's a great thing when that happens. I can't remember the last time that happened to me, but it's always a good thing.

[whiteysax]

:thumbsup It's a great thing when that happens. I can't remember the last time that happened to me, but it's always a good thing.
indeed :D:monkey

[gbs3769]

Still a little bit of your taste in my mouth
Still a little bit of you laced with my doubt
Still a little hard to say what's going on

Still a little bit of your ghost, your witness
Still a little bit of your face I haven't kissed
You step a little closer each day
That I can’t say what's going on

Stones taught me to fly
Love,it taught me to lie
Life, it taught me to dive
So it's not hard to fall
When you float like a cannonball

Still a little bit of your song in my ear
Still a little bit of your words I long to hear
You step a little closer to me
So close that I can't see what's going on

Stones taught me to fly
Love, it taught me to lie
Life taught me to dive
So it's not hard to fall
When you float like a cannon..
Stones taught me to fly
Love, it taught me to cry
So come on courage
Teach me to be shy
'Cause it's not hard to fall
And I don't wanna scare her
It's not hard to fall
And I don't wanna lose
It's not hard to grow
When you know that you just don't know

- Primo

[davehead34]

69. I don't smoke... but the only time i ever carry a lighter with me is at a dave show :thumbsup damn teenie boppers and their cell phones... CRASH!!! *squeals and screams* *dial dial dial* "they're playing it!!! listen!!!" blue and green glow all over the stadium...

:lol You had me laughing pretty hard with that one :lol

It has been awhile Chase...I've been busy getting my pilot's stuff, got my Private in February and am working on my Instrument Rating. Should have it in July. Got news a couple weeks ago that I'm going to be an RA so I'll be pretty busy next year as well. And because of the RA, I think I'll be trying to find asses for my seats in Dallas.

:thumbsup I'm glad you're following through with your piloting goals. My friend Leigh is doing the same thing, but I think he's procrastinating about getting really serious about it. He did just get his private license, though. What's an RA if you don't mind me asking?

[handsareme]

:thumbsup I'm glad you're following through with your piloting goals. My friend Leigh is doing the same thing, but I think he's procrastinating about getting really serious about it. He did just get his private license, though. What's an RA if you don't mind me asking?
An RA is a resident assistant. We're 'in charge' of 6-10 students. Lunch time.

[davehead34]

What song was that, Primo?

[davehead34]

An RA is a resident assistant. We're 'in charge' of 6-10 students. Lunch time.

Ahhh... I thought you were talking about a different RA.. something relative to pilots and stuff. Please excuse me for being a dull bulb right now. I haven't had my coffee, yet.

[gbs3769]

What song was that, Primo?
Cannonball by Damien Rice. Who, if you haven't already, you really to buy all of his albums.

- Primo

[davehead34]

Cannonball by Damien Rice. Who, if you haven't already, you really to buy all of his albums.

- Primo

It's funny you bring it up. He's one of those artists that I've always heard so much about, and everyone I know seems to love his work, but I've not heard much, if any, of his material. Same thing goes for Ryan Adams. I'll check him out.

[gbs3769]

It's funny you bring it up. He's one of those artists that I've always heard so much about, and everyone I know seems to love his work, but I've not heard much, if any, of his material. Same thing goes for Ryan Adams. I'll check him out.
Get his CD, "O". Burn some naga champa. Turn his CD on. Lie on your floor. Be blown away.

- Primo

[davehead34]

Get his CD, "O". Burn some naga champa. Turn his CD on. Lie on your floor. Be blown away.

- Primo

It sounds like you read my day planner for this evening. I do that everyday after work (save for listening to Damien).

[gbs3769]

A friend of mine told me that I had to listen to the CD while lying on the floor. I understand why, but I didn't have a decent floor to do it on when I got the CD. I used my queen size bed instead.

- Primo

[davehead34]

A friend of mine told me that I had to listen to the CD while lying on the floor. I understand why, but I didn't have a decent floor to do it on when I got the CD. I used my queen size bed instead.

- Primo

Yeah, my floor's pretty solid. Not very ergonomic, either. I'll probably lay on my leather couch instead.

[dmb1spe]

You know that feeling of newness when you start hanging out with someone and you know there's sparks? That's such a cool feeling. The whole self doubt of whether they're interested versus excitement that they might be. Thinking about all the things you want to do with them. All the places you want to take them. As soon as they leave you want to time to just hurry up so you can hang out with them again. I wish that feeling came in a bottle. It's a nice feeling to have. And one you definitely miss when you haven't had it in a while.

[davehead34]

You know that feeling of newness when you start hanging out with someone and you know there's sparks? That's such a cool feeling. The whole self doubt of whether they're interested versus excitement that they might be. Thinking about all the things you want to do with them. All the places you want to take them. As soon as they leave you want to time to just hurry up so you can hang out with them again. I wish that feeling came in a bottle. It's a nice feeling to have. And one you definitely miss when you haven't had it in a while.

It doesn't come in a bottle, unfortunately, but it does come in a pill. Ecstacy.

Seriously though, I hear you man. I'm at a point in my life where I'm not meeting tons of new people all the time. Especially females.

[dmb1spe]

Everyone I meet either isn't interested or has a significant other. It's like fishing for bass with bluegill bait. Kind of disheartening.

[davehead34]

Everyone I meet either isn't interested or has a significant other. It's like fishing for bass with bluegill bait. Kind of disheartening.

My philosophy/approach to women has changed greatly over the years. It's very simple now. When I go out and meet people, I only expect to take them on and keep them as friends. That's it. I do everything in my power to not expect anything more than that. Yes, I still get disappointed from time to time, but I find that I'm generally happier and more stress-free.

[whiteysax]

Everyone I meet either isn't interested or has a significant other. It's like fishing for bass with bluegill bait. Kind of disheartening.
this is always the case... and you know as soon as you finally find someone, there's will be a dozen knocking down your door to take them out... damn karma

[Popeye2003]

What song was that, Primo?
You should be ashamed to ask that question.

[Popeye2003]

and I really don't think that she meant to hurt me. I think she's been under a lot of stress lately, and she felt she had to get something out of her life, and that was me.

I know it still doesn't sound good, but I don't know
She still made you miserable.

Seriously, if she thought so highly of you as you want to think she did, she wouldn't have left you in the first place. She's not the girl for you. Stay away.

[Popeye2003]

It's funny you bring it up. He's one of those artists that I've always heard so much about, and everyone I know seems to love his work, but I've not heard much, if any, of his material. Same thing goes for Ryan Adams. I'll check him out.
Damien Rice >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> Ryan Adams

Seriously.

[Popeye2003]

Cannonball by Damien Rice. Who, if you haven't already, you really to buy all of his albums.

- Primo
He only has one album out :p

[il bacio dolce]

A nice guy doesn't take advantage of a girl and then ignore her. A nice guy isn't too busy to talk to the girl after hooking up with her. A nice guy always has the time to fix the problems you are having. A nice guy doesn't jump from one girl to the next like he was changing his underwear. A nice guy apologizes when he hurts you especially when it is unintentional. A nice guy explains his actions and makes it up to you. A nice guy actually says hello when he sees you.

Shit, I could go on about all the things this self-proclaimed "nice guy" did wrong.

[Popeye2003]

A nice guy doesn't take advantage of a girl and then ignore her. A nice guy isn't too busy to talk to the girl after hooking up with her. A nice guy always has the time to fix the problems you are having. A nice guy doesn't jump from one girl to the next like he was changing his underwear. A nice guy apologizes when he hurts you especially when it is unintentional. A nice guy explains his actions and makes it up to you. A nice guy actually says hello when he sees you.

Shit, I could go on about all the things this self-proclaimed "nice guy" did wrong.
#1 was the worst of all. I say we track him down and torture him. :D

[Jessica41]

Sometimes I think it doesn't matter. I know 18 year old chicks far more mature than 25 year old chicks. I hate to say it, but age is just a number. This doesn't mean, however, that I'm down with dating 13 year olds. That's just wrong. I mean really - I have to draw the line somewhere.

Age doesn't matter. But I was asking because there tends to be a difference between 15 & 25. Also if the girl is 17 and immature she may have hope for the future. If she's 25 and immature, things don't really look too good for her changing.

[Jessica41]

I don't know if I want to swallow my dignity and pride and tell her all this, or make her thing that i've moved on. I don't know what to do.

Have time for yourself. Go do things YOU want to do, immerse yourself in hobbies and in your friends. If she wants to talk, she'll come to you. You don't need to "make her think" anything. Live your life and if she wants to be in it, she'll figure out a way to grow up and learn what it takes to be in it.

[Jessica41]

I, as well as others I assume, are here for you man if you need an ear.

:thumbsup

[smeritt]

O my do I love South Carolina

[DMBfan41]

I was at walk, and she called me. So....I called her back later that night.

We talked for two hours about everything in the past week and how stupid everything was.

And i knew it, she was under a lot of stress. It hurts what she did, but I can forgive her.

And after talking, we are ok, everything is ok. 5 days of being single was too much for both of us, ha. But, everything is alright

[smeritt]

After backreading I'm glad everything is alright Jar and I hope all is well with my HR's. I just got home from Isle of Palms,South Carolina. Dear god I didn't want to leave. But, then I got home and saw my girlfriend,who was in Myrtle Beach all week, and was immediately satisfied. I'm kinda confused with her though. I'm most likely spending all day with her tommorow and I don't know what I'm going to say to her but I got alot on my mind. Would rather not discuss it on the boards but if anyone is willing to lend an ear or an opinion that'd be splendid

[Jessica41]

I was at walk, and she called me. So....I called her back later that night.

We talked for two hours about everything in the past week and how stupid everything was.

And i knew it, she was under a lot of stress. It hurts what she did, but I can forgive her.

And after talking, we are ok, everything is ok. 5 days of being single was too much for both of us, ha. But, everything is alright

She has to know she can't break up with you everytime she is stressed. It shows that when things get rough she is going to run away rather than seek her partner for help. It's not healthy for the relationship Jar, and it certainly doesn't build trust.

[DMBfan41]

She has to know she can't break up with you everytime she is stressed. It shows that when things get rough she is going to run away rather than seek her partner for help. It's not healthy for the relationship Jar, and it certainly doesn't build trust.

i know that, she knows that. First relationship with her, you know. I mean we didn't have any problems until now, i think everything will be alright now

[whiteysax]

Glad you're happy Jar... but just be careful. Jess is right. And it's very 'high school' and immature to "break things off" everytime things get rough. part of a relationship is working through the stress and your probelms. I'd say you're ok for now... but should things happen again... start to ask questions, man.

[DMBfan41]

i know, thanks for the concern guys. I think she learned her lesson.

I still love her, and by coming back to me first, i know that she still loves me.

I can forgive her for what she did, but things will be different now. I do still trust her with my heart. I know she didn't mean to hurt me.

I believe everything happens for a reason, and it goes for this as well. A lesson had to be learned

[Jessica41]

Glad you're happy Jar... but just be careful. Jess is right. And it's very 'high school' and immature to "break things off" everytime things get rough. part of a relationship is working through the stress and your probelms. I'd say you're ok for now... but should things happen again... start to ask questions, man.

exactly... stress and problems bring you closer if you have the strength to work through them as a couple.

[dmb1spe]

Or they tear you irrevocably apart.

[davehead34]

exactly... stress and problems bring you closer if you have the strength to work through them as a couple.

That's if you survive the heart attack :lol

[davehead34]

Question: Where do you guys (including chicks) usually find the people you date? Do you date friends, pick them up at bars, concerts, classes?...

[dmb1spe]

I usually date people I'm already friends with. Which creates a unique set of challenges.

[PaigeDMB22]

Question: Where do you guys (including chicks) usually find the people you date? Do you date friends, pick them up at bars, concerts, classes?...

What's up stranger? I tend not to date guys that I'm already friends with, creates problems if/when it doesn't work out. I usually end up dating guys I go to school/work with, or guys that I've met through being an athlete i.e at the gym, hockey rink whatever.

[dmb1spe]

Which leads us to the eternal question....

Is it ever possible to exit the friend zone?

And if someone brings up ladder theory I'm going to stab them in the face with a paper clip.

[Popeye2003]

What is the ladder theory?

[dmb1spe]

It's some ridiculous opinion about how to determine whether or not some chick will give it up. If you google ladder theory it's one of the first ones that pops up.

[davehead34]

... Which creates a unique set of challenges.

:thumbsup Agreed. I don't date my friends anymore. Well, usually.

What's up stranger? I tend not to date guys that I'm already friends with, creates problems if/when it doesn't work out. I usually end up dating guys I go to school/work with, or guys that I've met through being an athlete i.e at the gym, hockey rink whatever.

Hey Paige! How're things? I heard rumors that you're coming out here sometime this summer?... You have to check out our new house! It's on the beach :D

[Popeye2003]

Question: Where do you guys (including chicks) usually find the people you date? Do you date friends, pick them up at bars, concerts, classes?...
Mostly school. Which is now college :D

[davehead34]

Mostly school. Which is now college :D

I can't wait to start taking classes again.

[Jessica41]

Question: Where do you guys (including chicks) usually find the people you date? Do you date friends, pick them up at bars, concerts, classes?...

I met Justin through school (facebook) and other friends.

[davehead34]

I met Justin through school (facebook) and other friends.

Gotta love the Internet. Isn't today his birthday?

[Popeye2003]

Gotta love the Internet. Isn't today his birthday?
How would you know? :confused

[davehead34]

How would you know? :confused

Jess sent out an awfully sweet MySpace bulletin telling everyone :lol

[gbs3769]

Jess sent out an awfully sweet MySpace bulletin telling everyone :lol
And by awfully sweet, he meant that it made him gag.

- Primo

[Popeye2003]

Jess sent out an awfully sweet MySpace bulletin telling everyone :lol
Oh, I haven't logged into MySpace in a while.

[davehead34]

And by awfully sweet, he meant that it made him gag.

- Primo

:lol When you're right, you're right.

[davehead34]

Oh, I haven't logged into MySpace in a while.

You're not missing anything. Try to get addicted to something fun.

[gbs3769]

You're not missing anything. Try to get addicted to something fun.
Like me.

- Primo

[dmb1spe]

Or crack.

[gbs3769]

Or my crack.

- Primo

[Koreelove]

I have a question for you guys. I didn't think it was thread worthy, so I hope you guys can help me out.

Why do people burn their bridges? Even over small shit? I just don't get it.

[davehead34]

Or my crack.

- Primo

:shudders

Primo, I've been thinking about how to tell you this, but I MySpaced your mom.:eek

I have a question for you guys. I didn't think it was thread worthy, so I hope you guys can help me out.

Why do people burn their bridges? Even over small shit? I just don't get it.

I think, for the most part, it's something done completely unintentionally. Most people don't know what they're doing is wrong in that circumstance. BTW, I have my phone off this week until next week. Just thought I'd let you know :) How're things?

[Koreelove]

I'm good Chase. Hanging in there. I have finals this week (as you can see I'm studying hard). I just had that cosmic question, because I've noticed in the last few weeks that people are so quick to burn bridges rather then figuring out what the problem is. I know that mis communications can lead to this kind of stuff, but seriously, is it always a resolution?

[gbs3769]

Why do people burn their bridges? Even over small shit? I just don't get it.
I don't know why. Often, I do.

- Primo

[gbs3769]

Primo, I've been thinking about how to tell you this, but I MySpaced your mom.:eek
Pretty soon you'll actually be able to Facebook her.

- Primo

[Koreelove]

I don't know why. Often, I do.

- Primo

at least you can admit it.

[davehead34]

I'm good Chase. Hanging in there. I have finals this week (as you can see I'm studying hard). I just had that cosmic question, because I've noticed in the last few weeks that people are so quick to burn bridges rather then figuring out what the problem is. I know that mis communications can lead to this kind of stuff, but seriously, is it always a resolution?

Ew...finals. Not cool dude. Is this kind of about what we talked about before or is this something completely different?

[davehead34]

Pretty soon you'll actually be able to Facebook her.

- Primo

Sweet :D

[Popeye2003]

You're not missing anything. Try to get addicted to something fun.
Oh, I am already.

[Popeye2003]

Pretty soon you'll actually be able to Facebook her.

- Primo
Your mom's going to college?

[DMBfan41]

your mom goes to college

[whiteysax]

your mom goes to college
LMAO!!! I was going to... but decided to leave it for someone else... you get two :thumbsup:thumbsup

[gbs3769]

your mom goes to college
+1

- Primo

[gbs3769]

Your mom's going to college?
No. She's well past her college years.

I have an "I facebooked your mom" t-shirt. And since Chase is going back to school, it's sort of a joke. Obviously it turned out crappy.

- Primo

[Koreelove]

Ew...finals. Not cool dude. Is this kind of about what we talked about before or is this something completely different?

um...pretty much the same thing, but I've separated the people invovled and I'm just looking that pure principal behind it.

[Koreelove]

your mom goes to college

:lol nice

[whiteysax]

+1

- Primo
awww.... flare


*tear

[davehead34]

No. She's well past her college years.

I have an "I facebooked your mom" t-shirt. And since Chase is going back to school, it's sort of a joke. Obviously it turned out crappy.

- Primo

:lol I got the joke man. I can see how everyone else was confused, though :lol

[davehead34]

um...pretty much the same thing, but I've separated the people invovled and I'm just looking that pure principal behind it.

I'm really sorry to hear that dude. Really. That really frustrates me. I was thinking about the other day for a while, actually. It was one of those times when you're lying awake before bed and you're like "What the fuck? That's so messed."

On an unrelated note, it's almost Friday. This is great for a multitude of reasons:

1. It's Friday. Who doesn't like Friday?

2. I get to wear civilian attire on Fridays (no cammies for me :cool).

3. Payday :D

4. I get to work on my biggest hangover of the week, which always go on Saturday mornings.

[davehead34]

awww.... flare


*tear

Wow. I really do not miss those days. The more I thought about it, the more I hated flare.

[Koreelove]

On an unrelated note, it's almost Friday. This is great for a multitude of reasons:

1. It's Friday. Who doesn't like Friday?

2. I get to wear civilian attire on Fridays (no cammies for me :cool).

3. Payday :D

4. I get to work on my biggest hangover of the week, which always go on Saturday mornings.

5. I got exempt from my final that was going to be on Friday.

6. I'll be working on my Saturday hangover also.

7. I only a have a half day of work, so I'll be at the beach.

8. Send me a pic of you in those cammies :)

[whiteysax]

Wow. I really do not miss those days. The more I thought about it, the more I hated flare.
i guess... but who doesn't like a good flarer?

[il bacio dolce]

Sooo. My high school sweetheart, or at least the closest thing I ever had to one, found me on MySpace.. even though he kind of hurt me, we were 16, so our actions are pretty much dismissible five years after the fact! :lol So I'm gonna chat with him, probably meet for a drink next week and catch up. I'm geeked.

[davehead34]

5. I got exempt from my final that was going to be on Friday.

6. I'll be working on my Saturday hangover also.

7. I only a have a half day of work, so I'll be at the beach.

:thumbsup Sweet dude! I will also be at the beach early on Friday. :cool Maybe I'll give you a call when we're both on the beach?...

8. Send me a pic of you in those cammies :)

We'll see about that one ;) While I do take pride in my uniform, I don't like wearing or flaunting it.

[davehead34]

Sooo. My high school sweetheart, or at least the closest thing I ever had to one, found me on MySpace.. even though he kind of hurt me, we were 16, so our actions are pretty much dismissible five years after the fact! :lol So I'm gonna chat with him, probably meet for a drink next week and catch up. I'm geeked.

Dude. You have MySpace? Be careful - Meeting people on MySpace may lead to rekindling failed relationships, awkward sexual experiences, or death. Anyways, have fun with it :)

[davehead34]

i guess... but who doesn't like a good flarer?

I'm not going to sit here and say my ego didn't inflate when I got a few pieces :lol

[DMBfan41]

:lol nice

nice like your mom?


........ok, i'll stop now

[whiteysax]

nice like your mom?


........ok, i'll stop now
I caught you a delicious bass...

[Koreelove]

nice like your mom?




my mom will crush you :twak

;)

[whiteysax]

yo momma so fat... etc etc

[il bacio dolce]

Awww. talking with him was so nice. :D

[gbs3769]

I'm not going to sit here and say my ego didn't inflate when I got a few pieces :lol
I just wanted to break into the top 5.

- Primo

[gbs3769]

Dude. You have MySpace? Be careful - Meeting people on MySpace may lead to rekindling failed relationships, awkward sexual experiences, or death. Anyways, have fun with it :)
In your case...

- Primo

[davehead34]

In your case...

- Primo

True. However, in all fairness to MySpace, it did get me laid by a wicked hot chick that I met on there.

[davehead34]

Awww. talking with him was so nice. :D

Did you guys go out for drinks?

[handsareme]

If you look at the radar for Kansas about now, you'll notice that it's such a great day to listen to Jack.

Next year because I'm an RA, I've got a whole room to myself. This means that music can be played at any time. I plan on finding a turntable to add to my already sweet stereo and stocking up on the Jack Johnson albums on vinyl. At $13 a piece, you can't go wrong.

[Popeye2003]

Awww. talking with him was so nice. :D
Falling for the old crush? :p

[davehead34]

If you look at the radar for Kansas about now, you'll notice that it's such a great day to listen to Jack.

Next year because I'm an RA, I've got a whole room to myself. This means that music can be played at any time. I plan on finding a turntable to add to my already sweet stereo and stocking up on the Jack Johnson albums on vinyl. At $13 a piece, you can't go wrong.

:thumbsup Dude that's sweet! Just make sure you're a cool RA :cool Today's a good day to play Jack over here, too. Then again, everyday is a good day to play Jack over here ;)

[handsareme]

:thumbsup Dude that's sweet! Just make sure you're a cool RA :cool Today's a good day to play Jack over here, too. Then again, everyday is a good day to play Jack over here ;)
I've got a friend this year who played the 'cool' RA part and nobody fucked with her, so I plan on doing the same...except I'm a dude.

[smeritt]

I had an awesome weekend , I don't know about you guys. I'm becoming crazier about this girl as the days go on

[giantsfan]

sorry to be a downer, but in terms of relationships i had a terrible weekend. so after i finally get over that old girl, i find a new one and shes been growin me just to find out last night she has a boyfriend. well, i got another one to get over

[PerfectStorm]

I used to just be a hopeless romantic. I put everything in every relationship I'd ever had and they all had ended badly. Then, last year, I met someone and now I'm just a romantic. Every day that we're together is amazing and every moment I fall for him more. And let me tell you, if I can find love, anyone can. :)

[whiteysax]

Disclaimer: this post contains venting

I just needed to put this out there and get it off my chest, even though I've done what I consider a very good job with not keeping anything from my gf. She came up for the weekend again this past weekend. We had a "nice weekend" for the most part. A little fight Saturday nite but nothing that wasn't solved before we went to bed. My aunt called Sunday morning and invited me to the country club for Mother's Day. We don't normally do big family get togethers for mothers day. Well my gf is going to be up that weekend and has just met my grandparents this weekend. She was very up front with me about the fact that she gets upset if she doesn't feel included or thinks my family doesn't like her. Well my aunt didn't invite her. She never invites my gfs... never has. Even my last gf whom I dated for 1 1/2 yrs was never formally invited to a family get together. She got rather upset that she wasn't invited and more upset that I was going to take time out of "our" weekend to go to Mother's Day lunch with my family. Mainly because she only comes up on weekends and I only live 1 hr from my family. When I tried to explain that it's probably because they've only met her once and in their eyes we've "only been dating for 2 months"... she got mad. She heard, "We've ONLY been dating 2 months." So I got the whole "Then I guess 2 months is nothing to you... I guess we wasted two months... etc etc". Mind you, we're arguing at 1am and I have to get up at 5:45. I just couldn't believe she'd make me choose between her and my family. Although in her mind, it should all be one in the same. We were most definitely brought up in different families. If the tables were turned, I wouldn't even be expected to be invited much less make her choose between the two. But on her side, as soon as her family meets the bf, he gets invited to things like that. Even explaining this didnt' help. I just don't know what to do... there are other issues (probably bigger ones) that I won't go into... I care for her, I do. I love her... but there are things about her and about the relationship that I don't know I could stand long term. I have it in the back of my head that most of the "drama" and problems will subside when she moves up this way. A lot of it is she hates her life in Virginia and wants to be closer to me... so that could turn out for the best or worse. At least if it doesn't work with her up here... I know she's a LITTLE happier not being down in VA. it just really sucks.. literally being stuck between a rock and hard place...

[dmb1spe]

Just bring her. Who gives a shit if she got a formal invite

[DMBand520]

Disclaimer: this post contains venting
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Did you try calling your aunt and saying "Hey, my g/f is going to be visiting me that weekend do you mind if I bring her to lunch with me?"

There was no reason to have an argument. If she said she wanted to go you should've said I'll find out if it's a problem and let you know this week sometime. If your aunt says no, you can just tell the g/f you're sorry but your aunt said she can't come (make up an excuse about a reservation for a set number of people or something). I kind of doubt that anyone is going to have a major problem with you bringing your g/f to lunch though.

[whiteysax]

Just bring her. Who gives a shit if she got a formal invite
it's a country club... there needs to be a reservation and a seat saved for her... and my aunt pays for everything.

[whiteysax]

Did you try calling your aunt and saying "Hey, my g/f is going to be visiting me that weekend do you mind if I bring her to lunch with me?"

There was no reason to have an argument. If she said she wanted to go you should've said I'll find out if it's a problem and let you know this week sometime. If your aunt says no, you can just tell the g/f you're sorry but your aunt said she can't come (make up an excuse about a reservation for a set number of people or something). I kind of doubt that anyone is going to have a major problem with you bringing your g/f to lunch though.
I kinda killed that avenue before i had a chance. My gf was in the room when my aunt called and heard me say she might be up that weekend (which i said on purpose looking for an invite and got none)... then said to put me down, i'll check with my gf about plans. When we had no plans but she'd be here anyway, I alluded to the idea that I should go see my family and she got mad. But I opened up the door for me to tell my aunt she'll definitely be here but has no plans. Then maybe I'll ask if I can bring her and if I can, sidestep my gf by saying when I mentioned we had no plans, she invited her along as well... i just hate this shit. Its my family... there's no need to assume you're now part of the family after meeting them once. I don't expect to be invited to their reunions and stuff... it just annoyed me

[dmb1spe]

Tell your aunt it's a package deal. Either she comes or you don't.

[DMBand520]

I kinda killed that avenue before i had a chance. My gf was in the room when my aunt called and heard me say she might be up that weekend (which i said on purpose looking for an invite and got none)... then said to put me down, i'll check with my gf about plans. When we had no plans but she'd be here anyway, I alluded to the idea that I should go see my family and she got mad. But I opened up the door for me to tell my aunt she'll definitely be here but has no plans. Then maybe I'll ask if I can bring her and if I can, sidestep my gf by saying when I mentioned we had no plans, she invited her along as well... i just hate this shit. Its my family... there's no need to assume you're now part of the family after meeting them once. I don't expect to be invited to their reunions and stuff... it just annoyed me

She shouldn't expect to be invited. Everyone's family is different about stuff like that (which i guess it sounds like she doesn't understand). BUT if it's important to her you should at least ask your aunt about it (and don't hint at it, come right out and say "Would it be ok if I brought my g/f with me to lunch?"). Since a reservation is needed and it will cost extra it's understandable if she says no (although if it's just b/c it costs money if it's not that much you should offer to pay for her seat if it's that important to her).

[gbs3769]

That's a tough situation.

With my family, my girlfriend is always invited to anything. It's just the difference in the way that some families are.

However, at this point I feel like anything you do is going to be completely wrong. If it means a lot to your girlfriend about going, and your Aunt is being a little flaky about the cost and all of that, offer to pay for your girlfriend. It's something that could at least tip the scales in your favor.

What I ran into a lot with Kristen was that my parents would always invite us over and she never wanted to go. So basically the exact opposite. Kristen would get upset that I would tell my parents that I would check with her as to whether or not we would be coming over for dinner because quite frankly if it had been up to me I would have been there in a heartbeat, but she just didn't want to.

That, at least, is something I don't have to worry about anymore. I already told Chris, but I'm single again. I've determined that April is the worst month for me, relationship-wise.

- Primo

[whiteysax]

ugh... this shouldn't even be a big deal... it's friggin' mother's day... not christmas... not easter... not thanksgiving.

[whiteysax]

She knows I'm a big family guy. I know she'd like to be a big family person as well... but just with the way things have been going... i know for a fact that she wants to be "part of my family" asap. And I mean that in the literal sense. But I get the feeling from her that if I decide to go and she isn't invited I'm in the doghouse with her even though it has nothing to do with her personally... my family just doesn't know her yet and sees us as a very early-on relationship. If she's not invited and I don't go, I may get the "your gf isn't the only person in the world" lecture from my great-aunt (always an awkward moment).
With the money, that's no the issue... my aunt is loaded. But I always hate inviting someone else along... I feel as though I'm saying, "oh, btw... can you reserve an extra seat and add another $50 to that bill?"
I've just felt very cornered lately with things... and that everything I do is touchy cause I have to be careful not to tip the scale and piss off the wrong person. The balance between my roommates, my family, my job, my plans, and girlfriend is more touchy than I'm usually comfortable with. I know my one roomate gets a little annoyed at the time I spend on the phone and with her. I don't want to rearrange my family plans just cause she comes up on weekends. I've already questioned my grad school plans for her. And now and then I feel that she thinks I can drop whatever i'm doing when I'm teaching to call her if she's "having a breakdown".
But will it get better if she moves closer?
The marriage conversation is getting old too. It was a nice starting place with where we see ourselves right now as far as not wanted just a fling or to date for a while and move on... something in the back of our minds... well its quite evidently in the front of hers as she already has plans 4 yrs down the road apparently. I'm all for working toward a stable relationship with marriage possibilities and i told her that i could see her being that person. but she wants to hear that I'm definitely going to do that in a year and I keep side stepping that cause I'm very aware that in 12 months time, things can drastically change... and i'm starting to feel that they already are.

[whiteysax]

where's that drama thread i created? :rolleyes

[gbs3769]

Dude. You need a beer.

- Primo

[DMBand520]

The marriage conversation is getting old too. It was a nice starting place with where we see ourselves right now as far as not wanted just a fling or to date for a while and move on... something in the back of our minds... well its quite evidently in the front of hers as she already has plans 4 yrs down the road apparently. I'm all for working toward a stable relationship with marriage possibilities and i told her that i could see her being that person. but she wants to hear that I'm definitely going to do that in a year and I keep side stepping that cause I'm very aware that in 12 months time, things can drastically change... and i'm starting to feel that they already are.

This sounds like it's waiting to blow up. Some people are all about meeting someone and diving right into a super serious relationship and seriously considering marriage in the first few months (I don't understand it but I've seen lots of friends get engaged after less than a year ... some actually made it to the wedding some didn't). Other people prefer to take things slower. It doesn't sound like your expectations are on par with hers and you shouldn't expect to change her expectations at least not drastically. So you either need to decide if it's worth changing what you want to be with her otherwise this is going to be a problem in a few months when she's asking for a ring and you're still "side stepping" the issue.

Maybe it's premature to worry about this, but it sounds like she's pretty high maintenance (making a big deal about the family thing, having breakdowns that you have to deal with while you're working, other stuff i don't know from just reading this post...) so if you are saying she is talking about marriage after 2 months and you think within 12 she wants serious plans I see no reason why this isn't going to become a major issue for you to deal with in the next few months.

[whiteysax]

Dude... I need a SPAC
but mark my words... assuming we're still together come that weekend, just count how many times my phone rings. My only hope is that she's living in PA by then and isn't in a shitty job that I have to hear about day in and day out. I'm gonna give it some time once she moves up here... but something has to change... and it's so hard to talk about these things with her cause she takes offense right away and makes me out to be the bad guy. I want to follow through in getting her out of her parents house and into a better job and on the track to her ed degree at PSU... if i do anything drastic before then, I could really screw her up... so i'll give it some time. But there's a reason I was being picky before I met her. It was so I might avoid some of this drama... I really hit a home run there!

[gbs3769]

Dude... I need a SPAC
SPAC will be a nice break from life. That is for certain.

- Primo

[whiteysax]

This sounds like it's waiting to blow up. Some people are all about meeting someone and diving right into a super serious relationship and seriously considering marriage in the first few months (I don't understand it but I've seen lots of friends get engaged after less than a year ... some actually made it to the wedding some didn't). Other people prefer to take things slower. It doesn't sound like your expectations are on par with hers and you shouldn't expect to change her expectations at least not drastically. So you either need to decide if it's worth changing what you want to be with her otherwise this is going to be a problem in a few months when she's asking for a ring and you're still "side stepping" the issue.

Maybe it's premature to worry about this, but it sounds like she's pretty high maintenance (making a big deal about the family thing, having breakdowns that you have to deal with while you're working, other stuff i don't know from just reading this post...) so if you are saying she is talking about marriage after 2 months and you think within 12 she wants serious plans I see no reason why this isn't going to become a major issue for you to deal with in the next few months.
you got it man... nail on the head. The problem stems from our first conversation when we met. She was fresh out of a 3 yr relationship and felt she wasted 3 yrs for nothing. She doens't want to do that again. And I'm quite openly looking for someone to settle down with. Well those 2 things match up for us. But whats starting to come to the surface now is that I still leave open that margin of error that something could change those plans... you never know what's going to happen. It's very possible for things to change in 12 months... hell, in 2 months! especially when (at the time) we had only been together for a month or so. I admit, I felt very strong connections to her, connections and attractions I hadn't felt with past gfs. maybe it was the 3 yr hiatus.. but they were there. But the drama and the high maintainence... right up there with ignorance on my list of pet peeves. not what i want ot live with for the rest of my life. But I have the idea in the back of my head that it will get a lot better when it isn't long distance, she isn't in a shitty job, and she isn't living with her parents. Which is why I put up with it right now. I just hope I don't end up an asshole doormat... get walked all over and end up screwing HER over in the long run...

[whiteysax]

SPAC will be a nice break from life. That is for certain.

- Primo
For damn sure!
-Bartender please... I know its late, i know last call is coming...
HOOK me up... bartender HOOK me up...

[DMBand520]

you got it man... nail on the head. The problem stems from our first conversation when we met. She was fresh out of a 3 yr relationship and felt she wasted 3 yrs for nothing. She doens't want to do that again. And I'm quite openly looking for someone to settle down with. Well those 2 things match up for us. But whats starting to come to the surface now is that I still leave open that margin of error that something could change those plans... you never know what's going to happen. It's very possible for things to change in 12 months... hell, in 2 months! especially when (at the time) we had only been together for a month or so. I admit, I felt very strong connections to her, connections and attractions I hadn't felt with past gfs. maybe it was the 3 yr hiatus.. but they were there. But the drama and the high maintainence... right up there with ignorance on my list of pet peeves. not what i want ot live with for the rest of my life. But I have the idea in the back of my head that it will get a lot better when it isn't long distance, she isn't in a shitty job, and she isn't living with her parents. Which is why I put up with it right now. I just hope I don't end up an asshole doormat... get walked all over and end up screwing HER over in the long run...

Yeah well it sounds like you two are on the same page long term, and it doesn't hurt to think about things like that upfront, but you need to make it clear that even though you don't want a wasted relationship that you have a slightly different time frame for things than her and that you want to see how things change as your situation changes over the next year (which it sounds like it will be changing a lot). She just needs to be aware of what you're thinking.

I'm in a situation where I have to consider long term stuff b/c I'm not looking to just date someone for a few months and move on, but just b/c you're considering stuff doesn't mean you need to act on it very soon (ie you can consider marriage but not plan on it in the next year). I love the girl that I'm dating right now, but I live in NJ and wasn't really thinking about moving anytime soon. She goes to school in FL and is probably going to want to live there (or someplace else warm) after she's done. It's only been a few months but I have at least thought about moving to FL. I don't plan on doing it even within the next year but I had to make sure in my own mind I was at least open to the possibility. It would be dumb of me to think that if we're together two years from now that I'm gonna get her to change her plans and move to NJ with me. Also if she expected that I'd move to FL within the next few months I'd have to sit down and have a convo with her now and explain that while I'm open to it down the road I need to do it on my own schedule that I feel comfortable with.

[Popeye2003]

I'm sorry, Primo. :hug


But wait... is the old Primo back? :p

[davehead34]

Dude. You need a beer.

- Primo

I need a beer just from reading the past 10 posts.

[Popeye2003]

I need a beer just from reading the past 10 posts.
I didn't even read all of them. I'm so lazy.

[davehead34]

I didn't even read all of them. I'm so lazy.

Yeah, I can't believe I even made it through all of them. I haven't even had my morning coffee yet.:eek