Is finding someone special that difficult???

[WHO DEY!!!]

I am a 27 year old male. I have a college degree, GREAT job, and I dont think I am the ugliest dude on the planet. But this dating thing is the most difficult task in my life. I cannot seem to find anyone that has the combination of intelligence and fun!! I can find an intelligent one, but then she has no common sense. I can find a fun one , that has no ambition in life. What is so hard about finding someone with the same goals and aspirations as you??? I am beginning to think that it isnt possible and people actually jsut settle for the person who is LEAST annoying. I used to kind of blame myself for being too picky. I def have a favorite look to my women. I like long legs and nice stomachs. Not sure ...but tits and ass are not high on my priority list. Most women find that inrtriuging alone. Since this enlightenment I have decided even to date girls that may have a little cushion and even slacked off on my criteria in the looks department. But it hasnt really gotten any better. Its easy to find someone who shares the same likes and dislikes. You know ...going out to eat, sports, camping, concerts, music...shit like that. But the problem is, the sport they like is soccer (=gay) and the music they like is hip hop...or country. I am fed up with all of it!!


So I have decided to take a new approach. I figured that if I can find a girl who loves the DMB as much as I do, maybe she will have some potential. I say this because almost every year the most fun thing i do is go to DMB. The people there are always about the nicest group of people in the world. Its like for one weekend (in my case) the whole world jsut decides to chill the fuck out and let loose! Some even do things that they normally wouldnt do b/c its a mini vacation or something. But then they (me included) go back to their normal lives and work towards their goals and aspirations. All i know is since college, the numebr of girls has definitley decreased...hahaha. And its the same thing with the quality too. (man i wish i could go back to the days when that shit doenst matter. getting old and responsible sucks sometimes.)

Does anyone else feel like this?? Women bitch about this shit all the time about how there were no good men out there. Well I got news for them....good women are few and far between too. Why is the dating game soooooo much work??

So for the last few weeks I have been trying to find someone to go to Deer creek with me this weekend. Got a few possibilities, but I am not sure I want to take them and have them ruin one of my favorit summer events. Any suggestions??

[Number41QT]

Huge problem for females looking for guys too - trust me.....I'm literally at the point of talking to my ex again and handing out the second chance card - JUST for the simple fact that I know he's not nuts, married or dumb......

[sunshower]

Any suggestions??I suggest to stop looking. You will find the right person when you least expect it and when it's completely inconvenient.

My other suggestion is to stop having so much criteria. Just take people at face value and appreciate the things that do have rather than obsessing over the things they don't. And, above all else, make sure you end up spending your time with a lady who makes you laugh.

[Tomriddle]

Occam's Razor says the problem is at your end. Good work.

[defcon]

Here is what I would recommend and here is what works for me.

You want a perfect fit, someone who likes the same things as you, but would that really be a perfectmatch? No person will ever be the same as you, like and dislike everything that you like or dislike. You need to meet in the middle, and reconcile your differences.

All of us DMB guys would like DMB girls, but chances are they aren't going to be into DMB. You can ALWAYS convert them...trust me on that. If you can't, then maybe it's time to move on or make the decision depending on who is, or becomes, more important - DMB or the Girl.

I feel the same way as you, I have a lot going for me, but so does every other guy out there. Just be happy with who you are, realize that you can't please everyone, and keep on truckin'.

[WHO DEY!!!]

I suggest to stop looking. You will find the right person when you least expect it and when it's completely inconvenient.

My other suggestion is to stop having so much criteria. Just take people at face value and appreciate the things that do have rather than obsessing over the things they don't. And, above all else, make sure you end up spending your time with a lady who makes you laugh.


Oh....TRUST me!! I have stopped looking before. But I am 27. I feel like I ma getting old and all the good ones are going fast. I mean it started with friends getting engaged, then married. Now some of them got kids an shit!! Iam sooooo far behind. I have good things too offer and am a very dtermined person. I find my criteria are not really criteria of mine. But for someone to like me they should probably have the same approach to life, work, responsiblity, financial capability, and family as I do. Dont you think??


Laughing!! Yeah it would be great if i could laugh with them ..instead of at them tho... :) JK....

[AlpineValley804]

Nope. It's being able to hold onto them that's the problem. At least from personal experience.

[chevman]

Why do you care so much what music someone listens to?

What if their musical preferences change? You going to dump them?

[WHO DEY!!!]

Huge problem for females looking for guys too - trust me.....I'm literally at the point of talking to my ex again and handing out the second chance card - JUST for the simple fact that I know he's not nuts, married or dumb......


I dont want to hear that femal bable about good guys are hard to find. A lot of us are standing right in front of you and you just dont see it. at least that is what i think.

[defcon]

I suggest to stop looking. You will find the right person when you least expect it and when it's completely inconvenient.

My other suggestion is to stop having so much criteria. Just take people at face value and appreciate the things that do have rather than obsessing over the things they don't. And, above all else, make sure you end up spending your time with a lady who makes you laugh.


Point 1- Exactly! I know it has been said that nothing worth having in life comes easy. While that is right to an extent, I find that this isn't true with regard to relationships. Looking online, going out too much, all this has been fruitless for me or has led to something I regret.

[Heavy As Stone]

Stop looking and focus on being comfortable alone. Your future sig-o will thank you for it.

[UCFish]

Converting definitely works if you can't find a good DMB girl.

[scrock25]

I dont want to hear that femal bable about good guys are hard to find. A lot of us are standing right in front of you and you just dont see it. at least that is what i think.

She's retarded, just leave it alone. Trust me.

[MistreatedLewis]

I suggest to stop looking. You will find the right person when you least expect it and when it's completely inconvenient.

My other suggestion is to stop having so much criteria. Just take people at face value and appreciate the things that do have rather than obsessing over the things they don't. And, above all else, make sure you end up spending your time with a lady who makes you laugh.

:lol That totally happened to me, for real.

The thing is I had picked her out like three years before that, but it took a little while for her to throw herself at me.

Salgood now though. :)

[pkpro1]

You think it's hard? Try being Indian/Chinese/Jewish, we make it even harder.

ugh.

[WHO DEY!!!]

Why do you care so much what music someone listens to?

What if their musical preferences change? You going to dump them?


Whoa...I didnt say that at all. I am jsut saying liking the band is just my new way of trying to figure out what kind of person they are....mainly b/c everything else isnt working! DMB fans are unique in my opinion. Especially us older ones that remember the days when dave was fucked up and singing about drugs...while we were rolling our nuts off. Just saying I've grown up and evolved out of most of that....a true DMB girl maybe has too. Just saying its a new starting point. I mena it used to be things like sports and long walks on the beach. That shit jsut isnt working man!! LOL

[Heavy As Stone]

You think it's hard? Try being Indian/Chinese/Jewish, we make it even harder.

ugh.

On a sidenote, my wife and I had a Blasian waitor this weekend at a sushi joint. Very interesting.

[defcon]

Oh....TRUST me!! I have stopped looking before. But I am 27. I feel like I ma getting old and all the good ones are going fast. I mean it started with friends getting engaged, then married. Now some of them got kids an shit!! Iam sooooo far behind. I have good things too offer and am a very dtermined person. I find my criteria are not really criteria of mine. But for someone to like me they should probably have the same approach to life, work, responsiblity, financial capability, and family as I do. Dont you think??


Laughing!! Yeah it would be great if i could laugh with them ..instead of at them tho... :) JK....

I have stopped listening to my friends. They are all more successful and attractive than me, and right now they have their own problems that I'd rather not deal with, like how to keep a marriage together, how to raise the kids, what wedding dates to set. Life is a journey, not a destination. Don't feel the pressure from other people. If they are true friends then hopefully they're not pushing you toward anything. How about this - ask them if they know someone, or if their significant others know someone. Date casually. Only you control your life. I know that my friends had great childhoods and did well in life because their parents waited until, in some cases, their late 30s. They are all still married because they spent what we would consider our good years waiting for someone right.

Don't rush anything. Keep working, keep plodding away at life, and good things will happen.

[WHO DEY!!!]

Point 1- Exactly! I know it has been said that nothing worth having in life comes easy. While that is right to an extent, I find that this isn't true with regard to relationships. Looking online, going out too much, all this has been fruitless for me or has led to something I regret.


I agree...it is something you should work towards. Its not easy...if it was easy everyone would be banging madonna like arod!! BUt man....I been working a looooong time it seems like. (Not working...jsut looking, dating, haning out...living life ya know)

[BehindBlueyes16]

I dont want to hear that femal bable about good guys are hard to find. A lot of us are standing right in front of you and you just dont see it. at least that is what i think.

We feel exactly the same way, trust me. Like you, I feel like I'm a decent catch, yet I've been single for about 5 years. I can't figure it out either.

[scrock25]

We feel exactly the same way, trust me. Like you, I feel like I'm a decent catch, yet I've been single for about 5 years. I can't figure it out either.

Stop smoking a pipe and wearing retarded hats and you may have a chance with somebody normal my friend.

[pkpro1]

We feel exactly the same way, trust me. Like you, I feel like I'm a decent catch, yet I've been single for about 5 years. I can't figure it out either.

Perhaps it's time for you and WHO_DEY to exchange PM's...

:o

[gregory311]

To the OP: you don't date girls because they like soccer and hip hop?

You need to grow up.

[scrock25]

Perhaps it's time for you and WHO_DEY to exchange PM's...

:o

Problem solved.

Mod's, lock it up.

[WHO DEY!!!]

I have stopped listening to my friends. They are all more successful and attractive than me, and right now they have their own problems that I'd rather not deal with, like how to keep a marriage together, how to raise the kids, what wedding dates to set. Life is a journey, not a destination. Don't feel the pressure from other people. If they are true friends then hopefully they're not pushing you toward anything. How about this - ask them if they know someone, or if their significant others know someone. Date casually. Only you control your life. I know that my friends had great childhoods and did well in life because their parents waited until, in some cases, their late 30s. They are all still married because they spent what we would consider our good years waiting for someone right.

Don't rush anything. Keep working, keep plodding away at life, and good things will happen.


I have tried that whole thing with my friends. They dont push me but they are concerned about my happiness and are always trying to intorduce me to new people. I dont like that b/c for one...its very akward that first meeting with all your friends around and 2...if it doenst work out, someone is usually pissed about something you know

[il bacio dolce]

Huge problem for females looking for guys too - trust me.....I'm literally at the point of talking to my ex again and handing out the second chance card - JUST for the simple fact that I know he's not nuts, married or dumb......

Don't do it. I'm in that same boat right now. They are our exes for good reason!

[pkpro1]

Problem solved.

Mod's, lock it up.

:thumbsup

[crew355]

You think it's hard? Try being Indian/Chinese/Jewish, we make it even harder.

ugh.

well said - see my infamous thread: http://www.antsmarching.org/forum/showthread.php?t=217757

and glad the trip with your parents went well!

[Nick@Night]

Time to top the "Girls love assholes" thread.

[BehindBlueyes16]

Stop smoking a pipe and wearing retarded hats and you may have a chance with somebody normal my friend.

:lol:lol The lovely Audrey Hepburn can wear whatever kind of hats she chooses. And she's actually got sunglasses in her mouth in that picture....

[WHO DEY!!!]

To the OP: you don't date girls because they like soccer and hip hop?

You need to grow up.


Man some people always miss the boat. I m just saying that is just my luck. I do hate soccer and I cant really stand people rapping about their cars and money! That is jsut me. I ma allowed to dislike certain things. Would that prevent me from dating them, no....but would it work out in the long run...probably not. Plus its more about the other life goals that that. You know securing my future, establishing a great professional life. YOu need to read more!

[AlpineValley804]

While music is a good starting point, if you want anything real, you have to realize that relationships go way beyond your musical likeness. Don't close yourself off from having a natural connection with someone if you didn't happen to meet them at a DMB concert.

[il bacio dolce]

People fall in love with you when you're not trying to impress them. You have to stop trying and instead just start enjoying life. People want to be with people who enjoy life. Furthermore, the quickest way to drive someone away is to go after them. You have to sit back and let people come your way. Most important, be confident and positive all the time. People can sense when you seem insecure and cynical.

[defcon]

Yeah, I hate it when I'm the obligatory 5th or 7th...etc, wheel, so someone has to join us under more than platonic pretenses, as if something should develop out of dinner and a movie. There's too much pressure there, so I'd say if anything don't double or go out in a group...or you could always meet up, but you definitely need alone time to get to know someone.

[WHO DEY!!!]

Perhaps it's time for you and WHO_DEY to exchange PM's...

:o


I like your style bro!! hahahhaahahah :)

[pkpro1]

well said - see my infamous thread: http://www.antsmarching.org/forum/showthread.php?t=217757

and glad the trip with your parents went well!

sucks man, i feel for ya.

unfortunately religion/culture and familial relationships play TOO big a role in some areas of the world... makes finding someone even tougher.

I'm not saying that they shouldn't play a role at all- statistically, I think those relationships last- but you can't let your family/religion decide everything about your significant other.

[WHO DEY!!!]

While music is a good starting point, if you want anything real, you have to realize that relationships go way beyond your musical likeness. Don't close yourself off from having a natural connection with someone if you didn't happen to meet them at a DMB concert.


I never said that !! Geez!

[AlpineValley804]

:lol That totally happened to me, for real.

The thing is I had picked her out like three years before that, but it took a little while for her to throw herself at me.

Salgood now though. :)

For my sake, that couldn't have possibly been posted at a better time than now. I needed that. Thank you. :thumbsup

[Nick@Night]

"I don't think people are meant to be by themselves. That's why if you actually find someone you care about it's important to let go of the little things, even if you can't let go all the way. Because nothing sucks more than feeling all alone, no matter how many people are around."

[GinaNMU]

I suggest to stop looking. You will find the right person when you least expect it and when it's completely inconvenient.

My other suggestion is to stop having so much criteria. Just take people at face value and appreciate the things that do have rather than obsessing over the things they don't. And, above all else, make sure you end up spending your time with a lady who makes you laugh.

:thumbsup I agree w/ all of this. You're trying way too hard and being way too picky. Just relax, stop hunting, and don't judge people right off the bat by little details. You don't want someone who is exactly like you...having things NOT in common is a good thing.

[crew355]

^^ you have quotes around that nick@night - source? (i like it)

[WHO DEY!!!]

People fall in love with you when you're not trying to impress them. You have to stop trying and instead just start enjoying life. People want to be with people who enjoy life. Furthermore, the quickest way to drive someone away is to go after them. You have to sit back and let people come your way. Most important, be confident and positive all the time. People can sense when you seem insecure and cynical.


Far from insecure dude!! I think I am very secure in my own skin!! I have accomplished everything that I was supposed to...you know...got to college, dont flunk out, get a good job, secured myself financially (for now anyways) I have laid low before ...took it easy. BUT I FEEL LIKE I AM GETTING OLD MAN!!

[il bacio dolce]

Another option is to consider that you don't need a girlfriend to be happy... Do your own thing for a while and learn how to enjoy life independently.

[gregory311]

Man some people always miss the boat. I m just saying that is just my luck. I do hate soccer and I cant really stand people rapping about their cars and money! That is jsut me. I ma allowed to dislike certain things. Would that prevent me from dating them, no....but would it work out in the long run...probably not. Plus its more about the other life goals that that. You know securing my future, establishing a great professional life. YOu need to read more!

You seem to hold yourself in high regard, and I hope you are everything that you think you are. But maybe you're not. Maybe it's YOU that comes off as a complete jackass that no one wants to be around. Maybe all of the 'good' women out there are turned off by you.

Just saying. I wish you good luck on your search, but it sounds like you are looking for someone in the wrong place.

[WHO DEY!!!]

The point is ...where are all the good girls at??? You know ...the ones that dont just wnat to hook up (but that God for them tho :)) the ones that have some substance!!!!!

[crew355]

OP - trust me, i know the feeling about "everyone being taken" - but it just seems that way. it's a big world out there. relationships develop from proximity (work, school, social group). if those sources are "dried up" for you, find other groups...

[mp3ray]

I suggest to stop looking. You will find the right person when you least expect it and when it's completely inconvenient.

My other suggestion is to stop having so much criteria. Just take people at face value and appreciate the things that do have rather than obsessing over the things they don't. And, above all else, make sure you end up spending your time with a lady who makes you laugh.

I totally agree with this post. I use to *look* in my mid twenties, and I didn't "give up" but I did just change my mind set, if it's meant to be then I will find them when I least expect it, and if I don't then I'll focus on my career and travel the world. Now in my 30's I met the man I'm going to marry and it was just when I wasn't looking.

[il bacio dolce]

Far from insecure dude!! I think I am very secure in my own skin!! I have accomplished everything that I was supposed to...you know...got to college, dont flunk out, get a good job, secured myself financially (for now anyways) I have laid low before ...took it easy. BUT I FEEL LIKE I AM GETTING OLD MAN!!
You're not secure if you're giving up hope of finding someone special and ranting to strangers and feeling like you're old at 27. A couple of the doctors I work with just got married for the first time in their forties. They're two of the happiest guys I know.

[pkpro1]

I totally agree with this post. I use to *look* in my mid twenties, and I didn't "give up" but I did just change my mind set, if it's meant to be then I will find them when I least expect it, and if I don't then I'll focus on my career and travel the world. Now in my 30's I met the man I'm going to marry and it was just when I wasn't looking.

congrats :)

[WHO DEY!!!]

You seem to hold yourself in high regard, and I hope you are everything that you think you are. But maybe you're not. Maybe it's YOU that comes off as a complete jackass that no one wants to be around. Maybe all of the 'good' women out there are turned off by you.

Just saying. I wish you good luck on your search, but it sounds like you are looking for someone in the wrong place.
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I kind of do hold my selft in high reagard?? What is wrong with that?? If you aks a woman, yes a woman...not the littele 18 yr olds you probably roll with, what they like or are looking for and its usually the same thing....respoonsibilty, education, financial responsibilty, career. I think I have done all that...because i wanted too...not for a woman. I never said nobody wnats to be around me either you dick!! And I am not 'looking' for anything here....jsut venting dude...relax!

[MistreatedLewis]

:thumbsup I agree w/ all of this. You're trying way too hard and being way too picky. Just relax, stop hunting, and don't judge people right off the bat by little details. You don't want someone who is exactly like you...having things NOT in common is a good thing.

Like feelings about Smooth Rider, for instance!

[Nick@Night]

^^ you have quotes around that nick@night - source? (i like it)
JD from Scrubs says that.

[mp3ray]

Another option is to consider that you don't need a girlfriend to be happy... Do your own thing for a while and learn how to enjoy life independently.
Another excellent post. One of my pet peeves is people who insist they can not be happy until they are married or have another person in their life. I can tell you now that I wouldn't date a guy that came across as "needy".

[crew355]

sucks man, i feel for ya.

unfortunately religion/culture and familial relationships play TOO big a role in some areas of the world... makes finding someone even tougher.

I'm not saying that they shouldn't play a role at all- statistically, I think those relationships last- but you can't let your family/religion decide everything about your significant other.


thanks man. its been pretty tough.

[gregory311]

You're not secure if you're giving up hope of finding someone special and ranting to strangers and feeling like you're old at 27. A couple of the doctors I work with just got married for the first time in their forties. They're two of the happiest guys I know.

Who Dey, this is dead on. Don't sweat it out. It sounds like you are forcing the issue. Just be cool and someone will come along.

There has to be an association in your field of work you could join, too. It sounds corny and cliche, but volunteer organizations usually have nothing but quality people in them.

[Bartndrpleez]

Huge problem for females looking for guys too - trust me.....I'm literally at the point of talking to my ex again and handing out the second chance card - JUST for the simple fact that I know he's not nuts, married or dumb......

Sooo uhhh hey, how ya doing? Planning any vacations to sunny Florida anytime soon? ;)

[WHO DEY!!!]

Another excellent post. One of my pet peeves is people who insist they can not be happy until they are married or have another person in their life. I can tell you now that I wouldn't date a guy that came across as "needy".
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I am not needy!!! GD!! Just tired of the dating game...cant a brother just vent every now and then!!

[crew355]

Who Dey, this is dead on. Don't sweat it out. It sounds like you are forcing the issue. Just be cool and someone will come along.

There has to be an association in your field of work you could join, too. It sounds corny and cliche, but volunteer organizations usually have nothing but quality people in them.

this is what i was getting at with my post earlier - just better said

[il bacio dolce]

The point is ...where are all the good girls at??? You know ...the ones that dont just wnat to hook up (but that God for them tho :)) the ones that have some substance!!!!!

Upon meeting a girl, there's no way you could know that they are the good girl type or the hookup type unless, 1) you or someone you know had a casual hookup with them, in which case you're guilty as well, it takes two, or 2) you're drawing that assumption based on a first impression and not giving her a chance to prove she might be a good girl.

We ALL have the potential to be the good girl OR the hook up girl. At one time or another, we've all been that girl. So guess what, you're never going to find this good girl, she doesn't exist. You need to give everyone you meet a proper chance and get to know who they are.

[MistreatedLewis]

For my sake, that couldn't have possibly been posted at a better time than now. I needed that. Thank you. :thumbsup

Good man :)

[dmbgodagirl41]

I think once someone stops actively looking, someone will come along. Also, realizing that there is no PERFECT person in this world, it's just about finding that person that is perfect for you.

It is hard to find a fun, cool, non-psycho person, but they're out there.

[gregory311]

PM Amy Jo. She'll show you a good time. Hope you drive a BMW, though.

[scrock25]

PM Amy Jo. She'll show you a good time. Hope you drive a BMW, though.

Right, a Beemer.

[dmbphan041]

you're fucked. you're already 27, there's no hope, might as well just kill yourself right now.

[AlpineValley804]

I never said that !! Geez!

I never said you did. It just seems that considering about half your post is dedicated to how important music tastes are, I'd thought I point out that it really doesn't matter that much. If they like like shitty music, well then, just make sure you don't have to listen to it.

[WHO DEY!!!]

PM Amy Jo. She'll show you a good time. Hope you drive a BMW, though.


Exactly the type of shit i am talking about!! I know who she is!! Def think some DMB girl should punch her in the neck Cowherd style for that obnoxious post she has!!

[gregory311]

you're fucked. you're already 27, there's no hope, might as well just kill yourself right now.

:lol Nice!

[siserilla]

I suggest to stop looking. You will find the right person when you least expect it and when it's completely inconvenient.

My other suggestion is to stop having so much criteria. Just take people at face value and appreciate the things that do have rather than obsessing over the things they don't. And, above all else, make sure you end up spending your time with a lady who makes you laugh.


:thumbsup

[il bacio dolce]

Another excellent post. One of my pet peeves is people who insist they can not be happy until they are married or have another person in their life. I can tell you now that I wouldn't date a guy that came across as "needy".

I've been on both sides. I've been needy and I've been needed. Both absolutely suck. I'd been trying to get this guy I loved to death to look at me as more than a friend and lover for almost a year now, and I broke it off about a week ago. I'm already happier than I've been in a long time and look forward to figuring out what makes me happy, getting to know myself and experiencing things.. things that don't involve wondering when Mr. Right will come along.

[MistreatedLewis]

I think once someone stops actively looking, someone will come along. Also, realizing that there is no PERFECT person in this world, it's just about finding that person that is perfect for you.

It is hard to find a fun, cool, non-psycho person, but they're out there.

It think that happen... sometimes...

[crew355]

I've been on both sides. I've been needy and I've been needed. Both absolutely suck. I'd been trying to get this guy I loved to death to look at me as more than a friend and lover for almost a year now, and I broke it off about a week ago. I'm already happier than I've been in a long time and look forward to figuring out what makes me happy, getting to know myself and experiencing things.. things that don't involve wondering when Mr. Right will come along.

ditto - just reverse the sexes. . . i honestly feel like we portray what we are feeling to the opposite sex whether we want to or not. e.g., never have i been more popular with the opposite sex when i was in a happy, committed relationship for 3 years. now that i'm no longer in that relationship, it seems the opposite sex has lost interest. nothing has changed about me, except that i miss my ex haha.

[WHO DEY!!!]

I never said you did. It just seems that considering about half your post is dedicated to how important music tastes are, I'd thought I point out that it really doesn't matter that much. If they like like shitty music, well then, just make sure you don't have to listen to it.

The point of the post was to say that all the other criteria.....the ones you are supposed to look at are not working. I am simply going to try a less than responsible approach for a little while. And no I am not constantly looking...just tired of thinking I got a good one that turns out to not be so!

[jdmpsu339]

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I am not needy!!! GD!! Just tired of the dating game...cant a brother just vent every now and then!!

volunteer somewhere. Maybe you'll meet some like-minded women that share your love of DMB and exclamation points.

[dmbgodagirl41]

Anytime my mom meets a guy friend of mine for the first time, she is CONVINCED that he and I will get together. Like my friend, Dan, who is constantly torturing me at work by stealing crap, playing pranks and farting on me.

She is totally sure that he and I are going to end up together. I think I'd rather end up with 90% of male ants than with him.

I don't like that part of my mom's personality.

[dmbowa]

I dont want to hear that femal bable about good guys are hard to find. A lot of us are standing right in front of you and you just dont see it. at least that is what i think.

Until you are a single girl who is a good catch and is having trouble finding a good guy, then you can't say a word. It is NOT easy to find a good guy. A lot of good guys tend to not be looking for good girls - they are looking for the perfect everything. Just not possible. Especially when you put too much importance on looks (flat stomachs and long legs for example)

Man some people always miss the boat. I m just saying that is just my luck. I do hate soccer and I cant really stand people rapping about their cars and money! That is jsut me. I ma allowed to dislike certain things. Would that prevent me from dating them, no....but would it work out in the long run...probably not. Plus its more about the other life goals that that. You know securing my future, establishing a great professional life. YOu need to read more!

Just because someone likes soccer and you hate it, or likes something else you hate - it doesn't mean you won't get along because these small things generally do not say much about the person's personality which is most important. In fact, having differences keeps things exciting. You don't want to be with someone exactly like you who likes and dislikes all of the exact same things you do. It will be boring, I promise.

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I kind of do hold my selft in high reagard?? What is wrong with that?? If you aks a woman, yes a woman...not the littele 18 yr olds you probably roll with, what they like or are looking for and its usually the same thing....respoonsibilty, education, financial responsibilty, career. I think I have done all that...because i wanted too...not for a woman. I never said nobody wnats to be around me either you dick!! And I am not 'looking' for anything here....jsut venting dude...relax!

He wasn't saying that you are a cocky bastard, he was pointing out that you do think highly of yourself - which can be a good or bad thing. Girls like guys with confidence, yes, but if a guy is cocky then peace out. All he was saying is to not blame everything on the girls you can't find until you look at yourself to see if there could be a reason you are pushing the good girls away.

[WHO DEY!!!]

ditto - just reverse the sexes. . . i honestly feel like we portray what we are feeling to the opposite sex whether we want to or not. e.g., never have i been more popular with the opposite sex when i was in a happy, committed relationship for 3 years. now that i'm no longer in that relationship, it seems the opposite sex has lost interest. nothing has changed about me, except that i miss my ex haha.


NO DOUBT!! I agree 100%
Its like being committed to someoen else makes me more attractive to them

[Number41QT]

I dont want to hear that femal bable about good guys are hard to find. A lot of us are standing right in front of you and you just dont see it. at least that is what i think.

Oh the stories of the ones that have been "standing right in front of me"....

[AlpineValley804]

Having things not in common is definitely a good thing, especially when it comes to your personal skills. That's what having a companion is about, they help you balance out your personal weaknesses, whether it's math or getting you to trust someone besides them. They challenge you, consciously or subconsciously, to make you a better person.

[WHO DEY!!!]

Until you are a single girl who is a good catch and is having trouble finding a good guy, then you can't say a word. It is NOT easy to find a good guy. A lot of good guys tend to not be looking for good girls - they are looking for the perfect everything. Just not possible. Especially when you put too much importance on looks (flat stomachs and long legs for example)


Just because someone likes soccer and you hate it, or likes something else you hate - it doesn't mean you won't get along because these small things generally do not say much about the person's personality which is most important. In fact, having differences keeps things exciting. You don't want to be with someone exactly like you who likes and dislikes all of the exact same things you do. It will be boring, I promise.



He wasn't saying that you are a cocky bastard, he was pointing out that you do think highly of yourself - which can be a good or bad thing. Girls like guys with confidence, yes, but if a guy is cocky then peace out. All he was saying is to not blame everything on the girls you can't find until you look at yourself to see if there could be a reason you are pushing the good girls away.


First of all...that was an immature college kid that had those silly criteria! I think I admitted as much

I never said I ma pushing anyone away. I usually push them away. I will admit, maybe I am too picky...and I wnat things to be perfect. Doenst everyone??? Why settle....there has to be someone out there exactly like me!! YES EXACTLY!!

[Number41QT]

Don't do it. I'm in that same boat right now. They are our exes for good reason!

I keep telling myself that.....but I was kind of hard on him and not willing to forgive 1 mistake(he didn't cheat on me or anything like that).....maybe I shouldn't have been so quick to let him go over it - because we are perfect together in all other ways.

[RavenMaven]

You seem to hold yourself in high regard, and I hope you are everything that you think you are. But maybe you're not. Maybe it's YOU that comes off as a complete jackass that no one wants to be around. Maybe all of the 'good' women out there are turned off by you.

Just saying. I wish you good luck on your search, but it sounds like you are looking for someone in the wrong place.


I am going to give this a more likely then not. :thumbsup

OP, you probably aren't that impressive. There is really no secret to getting the person you want to start a family with: be able to provide financial security, be good looking, be humble about both, and be funny. The rest is just flavor.

[gregory311]

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I kind of do hold my selft in high reagard?? What is wrong with that?? If you aks a woman, yes a woman...not the littele 18 yr olds you probably roll with, what they like or are looking for and its usually the same thing....respoonsibilty, education, financial responsibilty, career. I think I have done all that...because i wanted too...not for a woman. I never said nobody wnats to be around me either you dick!! And I am not 'looking' for anything here....jsut venting dude...relax!

Sunshine, I've been with the same woman since you were in high school and she is goodly enough to be my wife.

All I'm saying is that situations like this call for a little introspection, too. Not all relationship problems are always on the other person or group of people.

[WHO DEY!!!]

Oh the stories of the ones that have been "standing right in front of me"....


No doubt .....EXACTLY MY POINT!!!

[dmbgodagirl41]

Well said, Meg, especially about the whole "guys want the PERFECT girl" thing. They generally have a list of very strict criteria, and unless you're a 5'9" 120 lb model who knows everything about football, loves steak, and never has a bad day/is cranky.....take a hike.

[dmbowa]

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I am not needy!!! GD!! Just tired of the dating game...cant a brother just vent every now and then!!

You came asking for help - you are getting advice and completely ignoring it if it in any way implies that the problem might possibly be you.

NO DOUBT!! I agree 100%
Its like being committed to someoen else makes me more attractive to them

Its not being committed that makes you more attractive, it's what comes along with being committed - happiness and confidence mainly. And also, isn't it easier to talk to the oppo sex when you know there is no pressure of getting together (since you are already committed)? Also makes ya more attractive.

[RavenMaven]

First of all...that was an immature college kid that had those silly criteria! I think I admitted as much

I never said I ma pushing anyone away. I usually push them away. I will admit, maybe I am too picky...and I wnat things to be perfect. Doenst everyone??? Why settle....there has to be someone out there exactly like me!! YES EXACTLY!!


Well, your problem is immediately identifiable. You are infatuated with yourself.

This obviously stems from a deep insecurity.

[gregory311]

Well said, Meg, especially about the whole "guys want the PERFECT girl" thing. They generally have a list of very strict criteria, and unless you're a 5'9" 120 lb model who knows everything about football, loves steak, and never has a bad day/is cranky.....take a hike.

I am still amazed that you have not found your one and only.

[MistreatedLewis]

Well said, Meg, especially about the whole "guys want the PERFECT girl" thing. They generally have a list of very strict criteria, and unless you're a 5'9" 120 lb model who knows everything about football, loves steak, and never has a bad day/is cranky.....take a hike.

These days is more desirable to find a metro veggie girl I think.

[Number41QT]

Sooo uhhh hey, how ya doing? Planning any vacations to sunny Florida anytime soon? ;)

I'm good......working - it sux......I wish I was taking a vacation to ANYWHERE right about now - trust me....but work/school prohibit that at current.

[WHO DEY!!!]

All I'm saying is that situations like this call for a little introspection, too.


I have considered that. But if I was this bad person, I wouldnt have the opportunity to even meet and date people. I am not saying that I cant find 'anyone'...jsut the RIGHT ONE! With that said certain things must be present for me to appreciate and respect that person. Most of those do revolve around careers and education and responsibility ....i dont think that those are silly things to consider or require of my future GF

[sunshower]

Don't do it. I'm in that same boat right now. They are our exes for good reason!

I agree with this. People break up because something is broken. You can't just hand out a "second chance card" without fixing what was broken in the first place. I've never gone back to someone I broke up with and, well, I couldn't be happier about that choice.

I don't know why so many people need to validate themselves with a relationship. Who cares if your friends are married and have babies? The grass is always greener. They look at your life and think, "Wow, he's single with nothing tying him down. He can take a vacation whenever he feels like it!"

[il bacio dolce]

All that shit about good guys standing right in front of us and we refuse to see them? Screw that. The only guys standing right in front of us are the ones with the balls to ask us out. Then if they make mistakes, and we label them assholes, it doesn't make you the better person. Everyone makes mistakes, but the assholes who made them took the initiative to ask us out and get something started. You think you're nice guy because you've never hurt someone. You just never stepped up and took a risk.

[neumdogg]

Dude, whatever. Don't listen to the people who say that you have to lower your standards. If you need a girl who likes DMB and hates hip hop, then don't settle for anything less.

Like you said, you're 27 and you make good money. If you continue to be successful, you won't have to look for anyone....they will look for you.

Basically, don't settle. You sound like a guy who has a lot of ambition.

Besides, only girls are supposed to settle...you make the money...

[crew355]

Its not being committed that makes you more attractive, it's what comes along with being committed - happiness and confidence mainly. And also, isn't it easier to talk to the oppo sex when you know there is no pressure of getting together (since you are already committed)? Also makes ya more attractive.

yes, yes, yes, yes, yes and yes. . .

and yes.

[AlpineValley804]

Well said, Meg, especially about the whole "guys want the PERFECT girl" thing. They generally have a list of very strict criteria, and unless you're a 5'9" 120 lb model who knows everything about football, loves steak, and never has a bad day/is cranky.....take a hike.

Any guy who knows anything about what they really want in a girl will tell you they want their girls to have bad days from time to time, so she'll cry in your shoulder. There's nothing that is a greater boost to your ego than a girl who confides and cries in front of you.

[Number41QT]

I think once someone stops actively looking, someone will come along. Also, realizing that there is no PERFECT person in this world, it's just about finding that person that is perfect for you.

It is hard to find a fun, cool, non-psycho person, but they're out there.

Thanks for keepin the hope alive

[gregory311]

Most of those do revolve around careers and education and responsibility ....i dont think that those are silly things to consider or require of my future GF

I certainly agree with that. You're at the age where this had better be important.

Have you gone after anyone older? I'm not talking cougar hunting, but someone in their early 30's?

[WHO DEY!!!]

First of all...that was an immature college kid that had those silly criteria! I think I admitted as much

I never said I ma pushing anyone away. I usually push them away. I will admit, maybe I am too picky...and I wnat things to be perfect. Doenst everyone??? Why settle....there has to be someone out there exactly like me!! YES EXACTLY!!


Well, your problem is immediately identifiable. You are infatuated with yourself.

This obviously stems from a deep insecurity.


Do me a favor and back read before you go insulting me!! I beleive there is a perfect match for everyone..that is just me!1 Hopeless romantic in me!!

What

[Number41QT]

PM Amy Jo. She'll show you a good time. Hope you drive a BMW, though.

Yup - I'm JUST that shallow.....you know better than this...c'mon now.....I'd settle for a Porshe, Benz or an R8 Audi too.....

Right, a Beemer.

Wrong Bimmer

[dmbowa]

Well said, Meg, especially about the whole "guys want the PERFECT girl" thing. They generally have a list of very strict criteria, and unless you're a 5'9" 120 lb model who knows everything about football, loves steak, and never has a bad day/is cranky.....take a hike.

It also seems that most people have the wrong vision of what would be the perfect person for them! That's why you should get to know many different people.

Also - look at your best friends (of either sex) and pick out the features that make them your best friends. Compile that list and that is what you should be looking for in a relationship. (imo)

[WHO DEY!!!]

First of all...that was an immature college kid that had those silly criteria! I think I admitted as much

I never said I ma pushing anyone away. I usually push them away. I will admit, maybe I am too picky...and I wnat things to be perfect. Doenst everyone??? Why settle....there has to be someone out there exactly like me!! YES EXACTLY!!


Well, your problem is immediately identifiable. You are infatuated with yourself.

This obviously stems from a deep insecurity.


Do me a favor and back read before you go insulting me!! I believe there is a perfect match for everyone..that is just me!1 Hopeless romantic in me!!

Why is wanting someone like you so bad?? I dont feel i am a bad person. My best friends are like me, my best college friends are pretty much like me??

With that said..never said I wasnt insecure about things.....my biggest is FAILURE!! whats yours

[herzag17]

All I'm saying is that situations like this call for a little introspection, too.


I have considered that. But if I was this bad person, I wouldnt have the opportunity to even meet and date people. I am not saying that I cant find 'anyone'...jsut the RIGHT ONE! With that said certain things must be present for me to appreciate and respect that person. Most of those do revolve around careers and education and responsibility ....i dont think that those are silly things to consider or require of my future GF

can i ask where you are meeting these women that arent to your stds? the bar?

[sunshower]

Time to top the "Girls love assholes" thread.

I liked Nice Cute Guys vs. Hot Assholes.

http://www.antsmarching.org/forum/showthread.php?t=193108

[WHO DEY!!!]

Maybe i should jsut go out and look for only people who like everything I hate???

[gregory311]

Thanks for keepin the hope alive

You do realize you are the psycho, right? ;)

Aren't you moving soon?

[il bacio dolce]

You're insecure if you need the adoration of someone exactly you to feel complete.

Your soul mate is the one who complements you, fills in where you lack, challenges and corrects you, thinks opposite the way you do so when you can't find a silver lining they can point it out to you.

[Number41QT]

Exactly the type of shit i am talking about!! I know who she is!! Def think some DMB girl should punch her in the neck Cowherd style for that obnoxious post she has!!

Easy there - it was a joke.....anyone that knows me - knows I'm not superficial at all.....I was getting a new asshole ripped and was being called inbred - because I was not spelling BEAMER correctly - which, in fact I was....Bimmer - I was just proving that I was right - that's all.

[gregory311]

I liked Nice Cute Guys vs. Hot Assholes.

http://www.antsmarching.org/forum/showthread.php?t=193108

I see your thread and raise you www.hotchickswithdouchebags.com

[dmbgodagirl41]

I am still amazed that you have not found your one and only.
:lol well, thanks, Josh-Greg, but I have many traits that guys don't find desirable. I'm loud as hell, opinionated as F and actually pretty logical. Most guys claim they hate the crazy chicks, but I have actually been dumped before for "not being enough of a bitch".
These days is more desirable to find a metro veggie girl I think.

:lol are you serious!?

[il bacio dolce]

Maybe i should jsut go out and look for only people who like everything I hate???

You're insecure if you need the adoration of someone exactly you to feel complete.

Your soul mate is the one who complements you, fills in where you lack, challenges and corrects you, thinks opposite the way you do so when you can't find a silver lining they can point it out to you.

This is what I think of that. I didn't see your post first but this is how I'd respond.

[WHO DEY!!!]

can i ask where you are meeting these women that arent to your stds? the bar?


Absolutley not!! You shuld back read too. But since you wont. I typically meet people through everyday activities or friends. Social groups, things like that. Not bar rats!! Although they do hold a special place in my heart.... :)

[sunshower]

While music is a good starting point, if you want anything real, you have to realize that relationships go way beyond your musical likeness. Don't close yourself off from having a natural connection with someone if you didn't happen to meet them at a DMB concert.:thumbsup

OP, music is your passion. You can find someone in life who will be passionate enough about you to take an interest in your passion and share it with you without them having to be your carbon copy in this regard.

Let's say you were a painter. It might be very fulfilling to date someone who can appreciate art but very frustrating to look for someone who is also an artist. Just sayin'.

[MistreatedLewis]

Dude, whatever. Don't listen to the people who say that you have to lower your standards. If you need a girl who likes DMB and hates hip hop, then don't settle for anything less.

Like you said, you're 27 and you make good money. If you continue to be successful, you won't have to look for anyone....they will look for you.

Basically, don't settle. You sound like a guy who has a lot of ambition.

Besides, only girls are supposed to settle...you make the money...

I'm trying to decide if this post was being funny/amusing or serious/sexist

[il bacio dolce]

Absolutley not!! You shuld back read too. But since you wont. I typically meet people through everyday activities or friends. Social groups, things like that. Not bar rats!! Although they do hold a special place in my heart.... :)

There are nice people in bars, too. Again, prejudgment.

[WHO DEY!!!]

Easy there - it was a joke.....anyone that knows me - knows I'm not superficial at all.....I was getting a new asshole ripped and was being called inbred - because I was not spelling BEAMER correctly - which, in fact I was....Bimmer - I was just proving that I was right - that's all.


OH i got it!! I saw you in there. any chick that wnats to debate the spelling of Beamer or Beemer...get the fuck outta my face.

[jdmpsu339]

Maybe i should jsut go out and look for only people who like everything I hate???

try seeking out women of different races than your own.

[MistreatedLewis]

[quote=RavenMaven;7893308]


Do me a favor and back read before you go insulting me!! I believe there is a perfect match for everyone..that is just me!1 Hopeless romantic in me!!

Why is wanting someone like you so bad?? I dont feel i am a bad person. My best friends are like me, my best college friends are pretty much like me??

With that said..never said I wasnt insecure about things.....my biggest is FAILURE!! whats yours

I'm just curious but why would anyone ever think this?

[WHO DEY!!!]

There are nice people in bars, too. Again, prejudgment.

I would agree. I m there from time to time myself. But usually the nice ones are there to support their friends or hang out. They are not there to meet anyone! But its not the best place to meet people that you would consider taking home to ma you know??

[Number41QT]

You do realize you are the psycho, right? ;)

Aren't you moving soon?


absolutely ;)

Moving in Mayish-Juneish of '09 - yay - have to graduate and take boards - then I am ready to take off!!! :::mini-happy-dance:::

[il bacio dolce]

OH i got it!! I saw you in there. any chick that wnats to debate the spelling of Beamer or Beemer...get the fuck outta my face.

If this is even a remote resemblance of your personality in real life, you need a good long look in the mirror. That was out of line. Most of us are trying to help you and you're being irritable and contradictory where ever you can. Read the good advice, which is most of it, ignore the dicks.

[Tomriddle]

But the problem is, the sport they like is soccer (=gay)

this is why you can't find a girl. you're a macho guy idiot.

[MistreatedLewis]

this is why you can't find a girl. you're a macho guy idiot.

:lol:thumbsup

[herzag17]

Absolutley not!! You shuld back read too. But since you wont. I typically meet people through everyday activities or friends. Social groups, things like that. Not bar rats!! Although they do hold a special place in my heart.... :)

i started to...but this was to 4 pages when i reloaded the page. let me guess...people are trying to help and you are snapping back?

first piece of advice - breathe. and i'm sure its been said, but the more you worry or think "its never gonna happen for me" the more that will be truth. again, just relax and breathe. and, you're not going to find an answer on the web. good place to vent tho.

[WHO DEY!!!]

try seeking out women of different races than your own.

DUDE!! that is some funny shit!! I was watching CNN last night and the show (which runs many diff series/topic this week) which was about being black in america. Last nights was about marriage and family and values and all that stuff. I saw a stat that said 45% of black women are not married....compared to like 22% of white women.

[Number41QT]

OH i got it!! I saw you in there. any chick that wnats to debate the spelling of Beamer or Beemer...get the fuck outta my face.


No one is in your face......I was just defending myself in the other thread....but maybe this is why you're single - because you talk to females like this.

[chevman]

this is why you can't find a girl. you're a macho guy idiot.

mba or doctorate in math? you made up your mind yet?

[WHO DEY!!!]

i started to...but this was to 4 pages when i reloaded the page. let me guess...people are trying to help and you are snapping back?

first piece of advice - breathe. and i'm sure its been said, but the more you worry or think "its never gonna happen for me" the more that will be truth. again, just relax and breathe. and, you're not going to find an answer on the web. good place to vent tho.


Again not worried about it, just venting a little...it is Monday!!

[dmbgodagirl41]

OH i got it!! I saw you in there. any chick that wnats to debate the spelling of Beamer or Beemer...get the fuck outta my face.

With this kind of gentlemanly talk, how ARE you single?!?!?!:confused

[crew355]

I'm loud as hell, opinionated as F and actually pretty logical.


haha those are traits that i actually look for . . . everyone is different!

[neumdogg]

I'm trying to decide if this post was being funny/amusing or serious/sexist
It's actually a little bit of everything.

I just don't think people need to settle if they don't have to, ESPECIALLY if you're a guy with ambition and who is successful. Women are attracted to success (some are attracted to just money but I don't think the OP is looking for that).

I think the more successful you are in life, the better your mate will end up being.

[jdmpsu339]

DUDE!! that is some funny shit!! I was watching CNN last night and the show (which runs many diff series/topic this week) which was about being black in america. Last nights was about marriage and family and values and all that stuff. I saw a stat that said 45% of black women are not married....compared to like 22% of white women.

now you're catching on :lol

[WHO DEY!!!]

mba or doctorate in math? you made up your mind yet?


Not macho at all bro!! But I do have a degree in Finance and Econ. I love money what can I say!!

[gregory311]

this is why you can't find a girl. you're a macho guy idiot.

You fucking kill me, man. :lol

[il bacio dolce]

I would agree. I m there from time to time myself. But usually the nice ones are there to support their friends or hang out. They are not there to meet anyone! But its not the best place to meet people that you would consider taking home to ma you know??

That's a generalization! It doesn't matter if you meet a thousand new people a day, if you assume what they want before they can show you, don't expect anything to happen. Just meet people, have fun, be yourself, get to know them, and things will eventually happen.

Forget everything you think you want.

[Number41QT]

If this is even a remote resemblance of your personality in real life, you need a good long look in the mirror. That was out of line. Most of us are trying to help you and you're being irritable and contradictory where ever you can. Read the good advice, which is most of it, ignore the dicks.

this is why you can't find a girl. you're a macho guy idiot.

With this kind of gentlemanly talk, how ARE you single?!?!?!:confused

Question answered.

[WHO DEY!!!]

It's actually a little bit of everything.

I just don't think people need to settle if they don't have to, ESPECIALLY if you're a guy with ambition and who is successful. Women are attracted to success (some are attracted to just money but I don't think the OP is looking for that).

I think the more successful you are in life, the better your mate will end up being.


THANK YOU!! I AGREE?? Why do I have to settle??

[RavenMaven]

[quote=WHO DEY!!!;7893354]

I'm just curious but why would anyone ever think this?

Agreed, and to be clear, that was part of the OP's post I was responding to, but fucked up by bolding the end quote.:lol

[dmbgodagirl41]

haha those are traits that i actually look for . . . everyone is different!

Yeah, suuuuuuuuuuuuuuuure it is.:p;)

[WHO DEY!!!]

With this kind of gentlemanly talk, how ARE you single?!?!?!:confused


Are you kidding me?? Maybe you shouldtake a look at that post to understnd what we are talking about. A materialistic bitch IMO! Sorry....but man she was waaaaaay outta line!!

[Rockhound18]

Huge problem for females looking for guys too - trust me.....I'm literally at the point of talking to my ex again and handing out the second chance card - JUST for the simple fact that I know he's not nuts, married or dumb......

To be honest with both of you, I think its the same both ways. I think a lot of it has to do with lack of interaction between guys and girls. By that, I mean it's no where near the way it was in high school and (to a lesser extent) college.

High School - you spend the majority of your time surrounded by a large number of people to choose from. You get to know a lot of people and have lots of time to find out what people are like and who you go well with.
College - Same thing, except the number of people is much much higher so you spend less time around the exact same people. Trade off is that there is an even greater chance of just hitting it off well with someone.

Later in life, you spend the majority of your day at work surrounded by people that you arent really supposed to pursue unless you want to tiptoe around some red tape. I feel like that just decreases your chances because you have less time to go out looking, and you are less likely to have things in common as you were earlier in life. You may have luck finding the one night or short term thing which is cool, but it's really just like blind date after blind date... that wasnt even set up at all.

I don't know though, I've never been one big on looking for girls, I usually just get lucky and kind of find one when I least expect it. If I try hard, I can usually find a girl that will be fun for very short term, but I just wont be happy with her.

Has anyone here tried the online dating scene, specifically the ones where they try to match you up? It'd be interesting to hear how that went.

[sunshower]

Especially when you put too much importance on looks (flat stomachs and long legs for example)Looks fade. You can have a fun time hooking up with someone when you base your relationship on looks but it eventually gets old. A pretty girl becomes a beautiful girl when you are lying beside her in the morning as she stirs to wake up next to you. A pretty girl becomes a beautiful girl when your mom tells you just how much she likes her and hopes she sticks around. A pretty girl becomes a beautiful girl when she throws on a hat and bums to a greasy spoon breakfast with you. A pretty girl becomes a beautiful girl when she cooks you a nice dinner and tells you she matched up all of your socks because you hate folding them. A pretty girl becomes a beautiful girl when she laughs at all of your jokes, laughs at your father's lame stories and laughs into the silence, seemingly about nothing.

[il bacio dolce]

I don't think you're listening at all who dey, I think you just want someone to be patronizing and tell you the right one is out there for you, or you want to argue with the people who are just being down to earth and honest with you. Listen to the advice of those trying to help. The more you talk the more you're coming across as an arrogant jerk.

[dmbgodagirl41]

Are you kidding me?? Maybe you shouldtake a look at that post to understnd what we are talking about. A materialistic bitch IMO! Sorry....but man she was waaaaaay outta line!!

My sister will correct people on the spelling of a car, and she'll also correct people on the right pronunciation of Porche. So? No reason to say "get the fuck outta my face!" just because of a certain randomly unimportant personality trait.
Now if some girl said "Yeah, we've been together for a while, but I did someone else. Cool?" then yeah, say that to her. Just seems kind of a harsh reaction for taking someone out of context.

[Tomriddle]

mba or doctorate in math? you made up your mind yet?

doctorate or med school actually, and nope, I have no clue.

[il bacio dolce]

Are you kidding me?? Maybe you shouldtake a look at that post to understnd what we are talking about. A materialistic bitch IMO! Sorry....but man she was waaaaaay outta line!!

You can't talk to women that way! What is wrong with you?
It's become clear you have a bad attitude about females in general. That needs to change.

[crew355]

Yeah, suuuuuuuuuuuuuuuure it is.:p;)

no, really - i enjoy these traits in a girl; i mean i dont necessarily "look" for them (i've learned you can't "look" for the small stuff (like the OP is doing)) for the sole purpose that those traits are not ME. i've found myself very attracted to traits that i don't have in large amounts and in some cases are opposites of me. it makes for a good combo (in my experience)

[MistreatedLewis]

It's actually a little bit of everything.

I just don't think people need to settle if they don't have to, ESPECIALLY if you're a guy with ambition and who is successful. Women are attracted to success (some are attracted to just money but I don't think the OP is looking for that).

I think the more successful you are in life, the better your mate will end up being.

Women can be successful too you know.

[MistreatedLewis]

THANK YOU!! I AGREE?? Why do I have to settle??

You might not have to - but some people settle because they are not as great as they think they are but don't want to be alone :shrug

[Tomriddle]

THANK YOU!! I AGREE??

who are you asking?

[sunshower]

Besides, only girls are supposed to settle...you make the money...This is so laughable. I almost choked.

[il bacio dolce]

Women can be successful too you know.

I don't think he means to imply we can't be. He's just saying it's an attractive quality in a mate. I assume he means his mate would be or is successful.

I couldn't imagine developing feelings for a dead beat.

[defcon]

To the OP, I've given about all the advice that I can. I'm not saying that this applies to you but it did apply to me and you may not know it applies to you.

We'd like to think that by the time we're on the other side of our 20s and past either the uncontrolled boner stages of early/mid puberty or the "need a lay" stage of our late teens/early 20s, that we somehow stop thinking about "it."

The fact is, you may want the physical/sexual intimacy of a relationship more than anything and may not know it. I didn't. I never even thought of it. For now, I have "someone" who is not "the one." My advice, do what you have to to blow off some steam. It doesn't have to be sexual in nature, but probably should be.

You might find yourself rushing into something that you don't want. Think with the right head. Don't go all out for a relationship. Start out small, whatever you think that is. If you're frustrated, find a way to resolve it, and take your time.

[dmbgodagirl41]

My "I LOVE COCK" tee shirt works wonders for getting guys to pay attention, but none want to get married.

WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY :lorraine

[Number41QT]

Are you kidding me?? Maybe you shouldtake a look at that post to understnd what we are talking about. A materialistic bitch IMO! Sorry....but man she was waaaaaay outta line!!

That was kind of an inside joke.....you need to pump your breaks.

[il bacio dolce]

This really went from "aw, poor guy, I can understand where he's coming from and I want to help" to "No wonder..."

[Number41QT]

This really went from "aw, poor guy, I can understand where he's coming from and I want to help" to "No wonder..."


my thoughts exactly

[neumdogg]

This is so laughable. I almost choked.
I was joking!!!!!! Don't choke.

[crew355]

This really went from "aw, poor guy, I can understand where he's coming from and I want to help" to "No wonder..."

ha good call. he doesn't sound 27

[scrock25]

No one is in your face......I was just defending myself in the other thread....but maybe this is why you're single - because you talk to females like this.

I'm engaged to be married on September 6th of this year, your opinion holds no weight, now shut the fuck up.

[neumdogg]

THANK YOU!! I AGREE?? Why do I have to settle??
You don't! Just live your live and enjoy. Be successful and don't worry about finding anyone. You will be a better catch that way (that souned gay)

[thatgirl224]

Here's a thought....

Stop thinking about relationships. Just go out and have fun, meet people, and build friendships. The best relationships evolve from good friendships.

You're only 27 years old, you have lots of good years left. Don't worry about stupid shit like this.

[neumdogg]

Women can be successful too you know.
I know that. That's not the point of the post.

[stayorleave83]

someone said nice guys just dont take the risk. ladies, do you think someone is more attractive when they come right up to you and ask you out? does it change your outlook on the person?

[il bacio dolce]

LET IT GO! This whole thing? All this why me shit? Not working for you! People want to be with people who have their shite together, man.

[AlpineValley804]

Just don't end up like Seinfeld. "All these years, I've been looking for me!"

[crew355]

Just don't end up like Seinfeld. "All these years, I've been looking for me!"

well said

[Rockhound18]

People fall in love with you when you're not trying to impress them. You have to stop trying and instead just start enjoying life. People want to be with people who enjoy life. Furthermore, the quickest way to drive someone away is to go after them. You have to sit back and let people come your way. Most important, be confident and positive all the time. People can sense when you seem insecure and cynical.

I agree with all this stuff, well said. :thumbsup

[Number41QT]

I'm engaged to be married on September 6th of this year, your opinion holds no weight, now shut the fuck up.

Congrats - hope you have a long, happy marriage :)

[sunshower]

THANK YOU!! I AGREE?? Why do I have to settle??

Based on all of your comments in this thread and your shitty attitude, I would wager a guess that it won't be you who is settling in your future relationship.

[il bacio dolce]

someone said nice guys just dont take the risk. ladies, do you think someone is more attractive when they come right up to you and ask you out? does it change your outlook on the person?

I can look at a roomful of guys and make certain assumptions based on looks. I do, we all do, I can't help that. I'm gonna do my own thing though and just meet whoever I happen to meet. If someone were to approach me, I'd start to get an idea of who he really is, and then he would be a step ahead of the rest of the guys in the room, regardless of how nice he is compared to them.

[crew355]

LET IT GO! This whole thing? All this why me shit? Not working for you! People want to be with people who have their shite together, man.


hahaha precisely why i regret my two drunken i miss my ex threads haha; thank god i don't "know" anyone on here

[neumdogg]

I don't think he means to imply we can't be. He's just saying it's an attractive quality in a mate. I assume he means his mate would be or is successful.

I couldn't imagine developing feelings for a dead beat.
EXACTLY. What girl wants to date someone who does nothing with their lives? You girls want someone who is driven to succeed. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

[il bacio dolce]

Just don't end up like Seinfeld. "All these years, I've been looking for me!"

:lol This sounds like me as of recently. I want someone to love me when I still don't. Ha.

[Number41QT]

someone said nice guys just dont take the risk. ladies, do you think someone is more attractive when they come right up to you and ask you out? does it change your outlook on the person?

Absolutely - if someone has the nerve to come up to you and ask you out - that says A LOT - confidence (without cockiness) will go a LONG way.

[Tomriddle]

I couldn't imagine developing feelings for a dead beat.


That's nice, I judge people by their economic status too :)

[MistreatedLewis]

EXACTLY. What girl wants to date someone who does nothing with their lives? You girls want someone who is driven to succeed. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Plenty of girls, I see it all the time. :lol

[kjam1988]

What type of music do you listen to besides DMB?

[defcon]

LET IT GO! This whole thing? All this why me shit? Not working for you! People want to be with people who have their shite together, man.

That was very Walter Sobchak. Exclamation at the beginning, then calm reasoning, then dismissal.

[stayorleave83]

I was dating a girl on and off who happened to be my best friend. Things didn't really work out and I ended up chasing her a bit. After I finally got a hold of things and it ended, I knew I needed to worry about myself for a bit. I stopped worrying about when a girl will come along and just made sure I was in good spirits. I think only then can you be ready for someone else.

[BehindBlueyes16]

someone said nice guys just dont take the risk. ladies, do you think someone is more attractive when they come right up to you and ask you out? does it change your outlook on the person?

I'm sure some girls might disagree, but I would love it if more guys did this. I think everyone would be better off if both sexes did it more often. It's so nice and refreshing to me to have a guy that just straight up asks me out rather than trying to work his "game" on me.

[dmbowa]

Based on all of your comments in this thread and your shitty attitude, I would wager a guess that it won't be you who is settling in your future relationship.

:thumbsup

I love you :hump

[defcon]

I was dating a girl on and off who happened to be my best friend. Things didn't really work out and I ended up chasing her a bit. After I finally got a hold of things and it ended, I knew I needed to worry about myself for a bit. I stopped worrying about when a girl will come along and just made sure I was in good spirits. I think only then can you be ready for someone else.

Sounds like fatherly advice that I was given. You have to love yourself before anyone else will love you. At least I'm good at pretending that.:lol

[Number41QT]

I'm sure some girls might disagree, but I would love it if more guys did this. I think everyone would be better off if both sexes did it more often. It's so nice and refreshing to me to have a guy that just straight up asks me out rather than trying to work his "game" on me.


definitely

[thatgirl224]

The thing is...from what I have seen in this thread, you are not prepared for a relationship.

When people say "relationships are 50/50"...it's a crock of shit. You don't supply 50% of yourself...you have to be able to give 100%. Nobody wants to love someone who doesn't love themselves. And while you can list off all of the aesthetic shite in your life that tells people you "have it together", that's NOT what people are attracted to.

Not being smelly, homeless, diseased, and in trouble with the law does NOT make someone attractive, it means that if you ARE attracted to them, they aren't automatically stricken off of the list.

People are attracted to other people, not their lives. Physical attraction, spiritual connection, sense of humor, emotional stability...these are the things people really look for. If you aren't secure enough to be happily single, no one or rational substance is going to want to take you on...

[crew355]

The thing is...from what I have seen in this thread, you are not prepared for a relationship.

When people say "relationships are 50/50"...it's a crock of shit. You don't supply 50% of yourself...you have to be able to give 100%. Nobody wants to love someone who doesn't love themselves. And while you can list off all of the aesthetic shite in your life that tells people you "have it together", that's NOT what people are attracted to.

Not being smelly, homeless, diseased, and in trouble with the law does NOT make someone attractive, it means that if you ARE attracted to them, they aren't automatically stricken off of the list.

People are attracted to other people, not their lives. Physical attraction, spiritual connection, sense of humor, emotional stability...these are the things people really look for. If you aren't secure enough to be happily single, no one or rational substance is going to want to take you on...

ha well said - unfortunately, i think the OP gave up on us

[AlpineValley804]

What type of music do you listen to besides DMB?

Don't you get it? Any music that isn't DMB isn't really music.

[scrock25]

The thing is...from what I have seen in this thread, you are not prepared for a relationship.

When people say "relationships are 50/50"...it's a crock of shit. You don't supply 50% of yourself...you have to be able to give 100%. Nobody wants to love someone who doesn't love themselves. And while you can list off all of the aesthetic shite in your life that tells people you "have it together", that's NOT what people are attracted to.

Not being smelly, homeless, diseased, and in trouble with the law does NOT make someone attractive, it means that if you ARE attracted to them, they aren't automatically stricken off of the list.

People are attracted to other people, not their lives. Physical attraction, spiritual connection, sense of humor, emotional stability...these are the things people really look for. If you aren't secure enough to be happily single, no one or rational substance is going to want to take you on...

I'm not commenting on anything else in your post other than what is bolded/italicized above - but you're taking that phrase out of context and turning it into something that it's not supposed to mean.

[kjam1988]

Don't you get it? Any music that isn't DMB isn't really music.

Heh. I was just curious since he counts liking hip-hop against people then what makes his taste in music so special. Sounds like a close minded prick to me.

[Number41QT]

ha well said - unfortunately, i think the OP gave up on us

:angel maybe

[stayorleave83]

Sounds like fatherly advice that I was given. You have to love yourself before anyone else will love you. At least I'm good at pretending that.:lol


haha it might sound that way but i think people tend to show how they really feel (no matter how they try to hide it) so if youre relaxed and not worried about things it makes life alot easier. basically gain some confidence in yourself and itll go a long way.

[MistreatedLewis]

definitely

I'm being totally serious:

Would it start to annoy you if lots of ugly guys did this?

This is a question to all the ladies.

[dmbgodagirl41]

I agree with Kristin on the whole "straight up ask me out". I'm much more likely to hang out/go out with a guy who says "hey, I like you. Want to get a drink?" or something, than some guy who pretends to be interested and then has to cancel to "make it interesting". I fucking hate that. Nothing worse than exchanging numbers with a guy, he calls you a few times, and you hit it off, and then suddenly he gets busy and can't hang out, because he knows that the best way to keep a girl interested is to not be up front.

F that, I'll delete your number if you don't want to hang out with me.

[Rockhound18]

Yup - I'm JUST that shallow.....you know better than this...c'mon now.....I'd settle for a Porshe, Benz or an R8 Audi too.....

I am always amazed by your taste in cars. :thumbsup

[thatgirl224]

I'm not commenting on anything else in your post other than what is bolded/italicized above - but you're taking that phrase out of context and turning it into something that it's not supposed to mean.
I know what it means. It means that person A has to supply 50% of the total, and person B has to supply 50% of the total...so that the relationship is constantly at 100%.

But it doesn't work like that. There are days when I just cannot supply my 50%. I just recently had an old friend die in Afghanistan, and I needed to be emotionally selfish for a bit. My boyfriend understood that, and picked up my slack. He certainly did not supply 50% of the total during that period, he supplied well above and beyond, because he was secure enough with himself to understand that my pulling away did not mean I didn't love him, but that I needed to recover.

[dmbgodagirl41]

I'm being totally serious:

Would it start to annoy you if lots of ugly guys did this?

This is a question to all the ladies.

In my experience, ugly guys have the most confidence in terms of asking people out. :lol

[stayorleave83]

I agree with Kristin on the whole "straight up ask me out". I'm much more likely to hang out/go out with a guy who says "hey, I like you. Want to get a drink?" or something, than some guy who pretends to be interested and then has to cancel to "make it interesting". I fucking hate that. Nothing worse than exchanging numbers with a guy, he calls you a few times, and you hit it off, and then suddenly he gets busy and can't hang out, because he knows that the best way to keep a girl interested is to not be up front.

F that, I'll delete your number if you don't want to hang out with me.

you ever read doc love on askmen.com? he's a big advocate of being the ultimate challenge.

[MistreatedLewis]

I agree with Kristin on the whole "straight up ask me out". I'm much more likely to hang out/go out with a guy who says "hey, I like you. Want to get a drink?" or something, than some guy who pretends to be interested and then has to cancel to "make it interesting". I fucking hate that. Nothing worse than exchanging numbers with a guy, he calls you a few times, and you hit it off, and then suddenly he gets busy and can't hang out, because he knows that the best way to keep a girl interested is to not be up front.

F that, I'll delete your number if you don't want to hang out with me.

Re: my question.

Would this still hold true if ugly guys did this to you all the time?

[MistreatedLewis]

In my experience, ugly guys have the most confidence in terms of asking people out. :lol

:lol touche

[stayorleave83]

In my experience, ugly guys have the most confidence in terms of asking people out. :lol

i think you just made all the ugly guys leave this thread with their heads hanging low.

[BehindBlueyes16]

I'm being totally serious:

Would it start to annoy you if lots of ugly guys did this?

This is a question to all the ladies.

As long as my polite decline gets respected by him, no not really. At the same time, unless I'm just completely unattracted to him, he would have a much better chance of me saying yes and giving him a shot simply because he had the balls to straight up ask me out in the first place.

[dmbgodagirl41]

you ever read doc love on askmen.com? he's a big advocate of being the ultimate challenge.

yeah, and thats stupid. If I'm talking to a guy and he seems all interested, and then has to cancel on me to "keep it interesting", I'll give him the benefit of the doubt the first time, but if he does it again, I'm not answering any of his calls and he gets the big "fuck off" from me. I have better things to do with my time than play stupid dating games.

If you like me, go out with me. If you don't, don't go out with me. You canceling tells me that you don't like me, therefore my confidence level will not allow you to control the situation. Next guy, please.

[crew355]

what if a guy hits on you and he's nervous and stumbling but reasonably attractive haha

[dmbgodagirl41]

:lol touche

i think you just made all the ugly guys leave this thread with their heads hanging low.

Nah, I mean, I am attracted to all kinds of guys, so my definition of ugly might be totally different from someone else's. I more don't like creepy guys, so they are "ugly" to me.

[dmbgodagirl41]

what if a guy hits on you and he's nervous and stumbling but reasonably attractive haha

give us an example of a reasonably attractive guy.

I mean, I have no room to really be critical of how someone looks; it's not like I'm an Elle MacPherson or anything, but I am sometimes shallow in the fact that if I am not attracted to a guy, it won't work. I have to be able to picture you naked and be somewhat turned on, not want to laugh/vomit.

[stayorleave83]

yeah, and thats stupid. If I'm talking to a guy and he seems all interested, and then has to cancel on me to "keep it interesting", I'll give him the benefit of the doubt the first time, but if he does it again, I'm not answering any of his calls and he gets the big "fuck off" from me. I have better things to do with my time than play stupid dating games.

If you like me, go out with me. If you don't, don't go out with me. You canceling tells me that you don't like me, therefore my confidence level will not allow you to control the situation. Next guy, please.


i agree with you, playing games causes for the wrong mentality.

[MistreatedLewis]

Nah, I mean, I am attracted to all kinds of guys, so my definition of ugly might be totally different from someone else's. I more don't like creepy guys, so they are "ugly" to me.

wanna see my sensual salami?

[thatgirl224]

what if a guy hits on you and he's nervous and stumbling but reasonably attractive haha
nervous + bumbling + reasonably attractive = the ultimate cuteness in Rienne's world. I love shy boys who make the effort, it's a huge character bonus.

[MistreatedLewis]

give us an example of a reasonably attractive guy.

I mean, I have no room to really be critical of how someone looks; it's not like I'm an Elle MacPherson or anything, but I am sometimes shallow in the fact that if I am not attracted to a guy, it won't work. I have to be able to picture you naked and be somewhat turned on, not want to laugh/vomit.

Batman.

[scrock25]

I know what it means. It means that person A has to supply 50% of the total, and person B has to supply 50% of the total...so that the relationship is constantly at 100%.

But it doesn't work like that. There are days when I just cannot supply my 50%. I just recently had an old friend die in Afghanistan, and I needed to be emotionally selfish for a bit. My boyfriend understood that, and picked up my slack. He certainly did not supply 50% of the total during that period, he supplied well above and beyond, because he was secure enough with himself to understand that my pulling away did not mean I didn't love him, but that I needed to recover.

I don't agree with that or think that's what it means at all. Difference of opinion I guess.

To me it means that each person is equally responsible for well being of the relationship.

[thatgirl224]

Batman.
Christian Bale?

Not reasonably attractive.....Bale is the mothereffinHOTNESS

[GinaNMU]

Like feelings about Smooth Rider, for instance!

:violent











:o I love you?

[BehindBlueyes16]

nervous + bumbling + reasonably attractive = the ultimate cuteness in Rienne's world. I love shy boys who make the effort, it's a huge character bonus.

:thumbsup I feel like I am kind of the female version of this, so if an attractive, yet shy, guy talks to me, I totally get why he seems nervous and will likely think its cute.

[crew355]

nervous + bumbling + reasonably attractive = the ultimate cuteness in Rienne's world. I love shy boys who make the effort, it's a huge character bonus.

hmm that's inspiring... except if we've learned one thing in this thread it's that no two people have the same reaction to one thing:shrug

[MistreatedLewis]

:violent

:o I love you?

You just made my life.

<don't tell my gf>

[dmbgodagirl41]

i agree with you, playing games causes for the wrong mentality.
:thumbsup I mean, I have a really hard time telling a guy that I Like him. I am really good at being honest once I'm in the relationship, but I'm bad at coming out and saying "hey, I like you"....so I understand that it can't be any easier for guys to do it.

But, I wish guys would pick up on the fact that if I'm calling you or if I'm sending emails "just to say hey" or whatever....that's indicative of a girl being into you who is too scared to come out and say it. It doesn't always work out that way with guys. I was once sleeping with a friend and he didn't actually like me "like that". Guys are tough.

wanna see my sensual salami?
There better be a PM in my box in the next 3 minutes, tease.

Batman.
:lol I'd bang out batman. Wait, which one?
nervous + bumbling + reasonably attractive = the ultimate cuteness in Rienne's world. I love shy boys who make the effort, it's a huge character bonus.

:thumbsup A guy who is nervous can definitely be cute. If he's putting in the effort to be up-front and honest, that trumps any kind of lack of extrovertism (is that a word?).

[thatgirl224]

I don't agree with that or think that's what it means at all. Difference of opinion I guess.

To me it means that each person is equally responsible for well being of the relationship.

I understand that, but sometimes...I just can't be bothered...and sometimes he can't be bothered. That's why each person has to be able to provide 100% to the relationship, they have to be able to be completely responsible at times. Nobody is perfect, people need some leeway.

It's like paying bills. Ideally, Jeff and I pay 50% of the total amount each. If need be, I am able to supply 100% of the bill payment, and so is he. Sometimes I need him to pick up my slack, and sometimes he needs the same from me.

[MistreatedLewis]

:lol I'd bang out batman. Wait, which one?


Adam West.

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[jmudmbphan]

Huge problem for females looking for guys too - trust me.....I'm literally at the point of talking to my ex again and handing out the second chance card - JUST for the simple fact that I know he's not nuts, married or dumb......



???

isnt this the ex that used to hit you?

[sweett513]

We have a group going to DC from Cincy (I assume that's where you're from...) this weekend, you can hang out with us, don't know if you'll find true love, but we're fun :)

[Rockhound18]

OK, I've caught up... now I have to ask the OP:

Do you live in Cincinnati (Who Dey....). If you do:
1) I sort of understand where you are coming from. Walk into any bar and its 70% dudes in shorts, polo/t's, and backwards reds caps, 20% couples and chill intersex groups, and 10% skanky LOUD bar rats... and I mean sketchy! I'm not quick to judge but just... wow.
2) The dating pool in "popular" night spots sucks. Honestly though, I've felt that way anywhere I go.
3) Try doing something where you would meet worthwhile people. A number of people have mentioned volunteering.

I also must point out... you like flat stomachs and nice legs... but hate soccer.... hmmmmm. You missed something in highschool/college.

[MistreatedLewis]

Adam West today

http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://i.imdb.com/Photos/Events/4513/AdamWest_Grant_7894112_400.jpg&imgrefurl=http://us.imdb.com/gallery/granitz/4513/Events/4513/AdamWest_Grant_7894112_400.jpg%3Fpath%3Dpgallery%2 6path_key%3DWest,%2520Adam%2520(I)&h=400&w=305&sz=36&hl=en&start=1&um=1&tbnid=puemhnZZ13KgSM:&tbnh=124&tbnw=95&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dadam%2Bwest%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den%26clie nt%3Dfirefox-a%26rls%3Dorg.mozilla:en-US:official%26sa%3DG

[dmbgodagirl41]

Adam West.

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Okay, then hell no.:lol
We have a group going to DC from Cincy (I assume that's where you're from...) this weekend, you can hang out with us, don't know if you'll find true love, but we're fun :)

When are you coming?????????????????:eek

[dmbgodagirl41]

the OP has to be dumb if he doesn't date a chick who likes soccer. From my understanding, soccer chicks are in amazing shape.

[Rockhound18]

the OP has to be dumb if he doesn't date a chick who likes soccer. From my understanding, soccer chicks are in amazing shape.

TRUTH :hump

Although in my personal experience, they tend to have blown out...







































ACLs

[thatgirl224]

the OP has to be dumb if he doesn't date a chick who likes soccer. From my understanding, soccer chicks are in amazing shape.

I was in the best shape of my LIFE when I was on the soccer team. Too bad I got banned from playing :lol

[dmbgodagirl41]

I was in the best shape of my LIFE when I was on the soccer team. Too bad I got banned from playing :lol

Rienne, we have all told you that punching people in the mouth after breaking their knees is not allowed. Gosh.

[stayorleave83]

I was in the best shape of my LIFE when I was on the soccer team. Too bad I got banned from playing :lol

banned? what did you steal the other school's mascot or something?

[siserilla]

Damn this thread exploded.

[Rockhound18]

Katie, not to be weird or anything, but from the times that I've gotten active on the boards, I've always thought you were a really cool girl. You'll find the right guy someday. :) Just thought Id throw that out there.

[stayorleave83]

Damn this thread exploded.

it's monday. who's in a hurry to do work?

[Number41QT]

I'm being totally serious:

Would it start to annoy you if lots of ugly guys did this?

This is a question to all the ladies.


No - if someone has the balls to ask a girl out - then kudos to him. I've gone out with people who didn't initially strike me as hugely "attractive" - if they've asked me out....

[scrock25]

Katie, not to be weird or anything, but from the times that I've gotten active on the boards, I've always thought you were a fucking slut. You'll get herpes someday. :) Just thought Id throw that out there.

Fucking fixed.

[crew355]

it's monday. who's in a hurry to do work?

exactly


which one is katie?

[Crazy#41]

Huge problem for females looking for guys too - trust me.....I'm literally at the point of talking to my ex again and handing out the second chance card - JUST for the simple fact that I know he's not nuts, married or dumb......

I feel bad for you...

[scrock25]

No - if someone has the balls to ask a girl out - then kudos to him. I've gone out with people who didn't initially strike me as hugely "attractive" - if they've asked me out....

He must have been wearing a suit made of money.

[thatgirl224]

Rienne, we have all told you that punching people in the mouth after breaking their knees is not allowed. Gosh.

banned? what did you steal the other school's mascot or something?

I broke a girls leg on the opposing team :lol

It was an accident! But the other coach kicked up such a stink that I was removed from the team (we were rival schools).

I said fuck it and decided to coach ball and do stats for the hockey team instead.

[Number41QT]

In my experience, ugly guys have the most confidence in terms of asking people out. :lol

I agree....in all seriousness. You'll enjoy this Katie - Beaver told Jen and I it was because "ugly dudes got nothin' to lose"....he said that "good looking guys still at least have their self-esteem" - hahaha!

[Rockhound18]

PS no one ever said anything about internet dating, lets get some stories, Monday isnt over yet...

[dmbgodagirl41]

Katie, not to be weird or anything, but from the times that I've gotten active on the boards, I've always thought you were a really cool girl. You'll find the right guy someday. :) Just thought Id throw that out there.
Awwwwwww, gee thanks.

But Benny Boy, when you coming to the east coast so I can somewhat rob the cradle and we can suck face*?

*round the bases.

[defcon]

No - if someone has the balls to ask a girl out - then kudos to him. I've gone out with people who didn't initially strike me as hugely "attractive" - if they've asked me out....


I've heard girls say that. Of course there is a place at which you draw the line, right? I'd like to think there is a margin that you can work with within the framework of the definition of attractive. Am I off on this, guys (ladies)?

[Number41QT]

I am always amazed by your taste in cars. :thumbsup


HaHa - thanks! I have just always loved cars - especially the fast ones :)

[stayorleave83]

PS no one ever said anything about internet dating, lets get some stories, Monday isnt over yet...

i think its overrated and forces conversation. im sure it has its good points tho.

[Number41QT]

what if a guy hits on you and he's nervous and stumbling but reasonably attractive haha

Adorable! Shows that he is genuine :) :thumbsup

[dmbgodagirl41]

I agree....in all seriousness. You'll enjoy this Katie - Beaver told Jen and I it was because "ugly dudes got nothin' to lose"....he said that "good looking guys still at least have their self-esteem" - hahaha!

Sadly, the Beav may be correct. There's this guy who friended me on facebook that I graduated from HS with......and he is not exactly attractive. Once he talked to me once and told me about how he wanted to kill himself and he was homeless for three years, he went RIGHT into asking me if I was single, and that he and I should go out when I go to MA some time.

I was suddenly engaged to some big, tall, hot guy at that moment.

[Rockhound18]

I agree....in all seriousness. You'll enjoy this Katie - Beaver told Jen and I it was because "ugly dudes got nothin' to lose"....he said that "good looking guys still at least have their self-esteem" - hahaha!

Theres some truth to that.

My one friend is not the most attractive of my group but he just brims with a reserved amount of confidence and gets girls ALL the time.

[stayorleave83]

I broke a girls leg on the opposing team :lol

It was an accident! But the other coach kicked up such a stink that I was removed from the team (we were rival schools).

I said fuck it and decided to coach ball and do stats for the hockey team instead.

not a bad way to go out.

[dmbgodagirl41]

exactly


which one is katie?

*waves*

[Rockhound18]

Wit + confidence + knowing when to tone down the wit and close = win.

[crew355]

Sadly, the Beav may be correct. There's this guy who friended me on facebook that I graduated from HS with......and he is not exactly attractive. Once he talked to me once and told me about how he wanted to kill himself and he was homeless for three years, he went RIGHT into asking me if I was single, and that he and I should go out when I go to MA some time.

I was suddenly engaged to some big, tall, hot guy at that moment.


hahahahahahhahahahahhahahahahha

[defcon]

PS no one ever said anything about internet dating, lets get some stories, Monday isnt over yet...

I've had my go of it. But I've met some good girl/friends (without benefits) through some sites. It's mostly a sausagefest, and a creep convention. One girl said that the guy she agreed to meet for coffee wasn't even close to the guy in the photos. I think women would rather go for what is real, what is in the flesh, rather than some internet persona.

Most people on the internet are looking for something short term or new friends. You don't just go into a relationship from the internets. Well, you can, but in my experience, it doesn't work. Use it to build contacts.