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Originally Posted by dmbetc
My two longest relationships both ended in a fiery rage. Woman are nuts. One of them I will never speak to again. The other is my best friend. Have pictures of both of them on FB and computer still.
There's no correlation. Just depends on the human being and the reason for the breakup.
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Have been reading this convo back and forth, and this is pretty much where I stand. All depends.
If I have pictures with exes still on FB...it's because I don't care. There's an unstated assumption that people go through their own pictures. I certainly don't. After breakups, the only pictures I've made a point to go back and delete were kissing pictures. Pics where I'm in Italy, camping, at parties? I don't care or remember enough to actually go through them.
I've had two fiery breakups that were shitty for quite sometime. But eventually we made up and are on amicable terms with both of them. They both have kids now. I'm FB friends with them, but don't think or care about them much at all. "More baby pictures, glad I'm not that guy, heh." is about the only thing that goes through my head. Then I keep scrolling and don't give it another thought.
Have never burned or thrown away keepsakes from exes. Have a closet back at my P's house where I still have stuff from my high school / college gf. Do I think about it? Nope, only reason I even remembered that I have it is because of this conversation. It's just not something I think or care about. Apparently I should race home to my parents house and angrily burn and throw away stuff from years ago...? Waste of time and energy.
There's this huge assumption in here that relationships are required to end horribly, and on top of that, that people are supposed to remain bitter towards their ex.
The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. I am indifferent to my exes. It's a mature way to grow over time. And it makes having a committed relationship with a new person easier.