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Originally Posted by AllifromOhio
She's just using you to make herself feel good. She wants to know you are there when SHE wants you and she wants to know that she has a puppy. You are letting this be all about her and not about you.
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So much this. Seems harsh but this is whats happening, imo. I've been this guy before and always thought that love meant doing anything for love and someone. And it's hard to believe someone you love would do this kind of thing. But the writing is on the wall man. Seems like she's taking advantage of your feelings for her own confidence boost...Whenever wants to and you're getting walked over a bit and letting her do it. I'm sure she is an amazing friend and person and if you want to go all in, I understand and support that because I've done it too. Just take a step back and make yourself the priority.
Denver is a fucking amazing place to be young and single! You gotta stop comparing girls to her because when your infatuated with someone you'll find reasons someone isn't as good. Work, tinder, online, whatever. Meet new people and give them an honest chance.
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Originally Posted by Speilmen230
Thank you, Smooth. Regardless of whether this came from being two bottles deep, I appreciate the perspective and insight. I need to print this off or something because there are honestly a lot of things that translate outside of just this girl to other areas in life.
It is by far the most complex relationship I have ever maintained. I'm focused 100% on me right now, but I'll be over the moon on the inside if the conference goes well. She wouldn't be making a move until the end of this year or sometime next year. She and I have talked about Colorado many times in the past, well before my buddy and I decided to pull the trigger. It just so happens that it is kinda working out that she has a job conference at the end of May when I will moving in. She has no idea what she wants to do. She hates Houston and she has tried San Diego twice. She would never come back to Cincinnati, and she has an opportunity in Florida at Bush Gardens but that is attached to a guy who has expectations.
She said that she would consider taking a regular job instead of one in her field because the last 3 moves have been job over location based decisions, and none have worked out. I think more than anything she is just wanting to find happiness, and it has eluded her for the better part of 4 years now. Basically ever since she left Cincinnati.
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What if she doesn't move or not for a long time? Take it from someone who spent years getting strung along...It's tough to look back and regret not spending that time to work on myself.
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Originally Posted by DeuceStep
My advice; don't listen to anyone's advice. Paradoxical? Maybe. Do what you want to do. If stuff goes haywire, so what. There are no dress rehearsals in life.
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I mean, this is true, however if you ever have the opportunity to listen to people who have some experience and hopefully a variety of different opinions, it would be silly not to listen. There are a lot of wise and intelligent people out there, talk to your family, friends and acquaintances for differnt perspectives, but yeah, at the end of the day, do whatever you want to. Mistakes are part of life and sometimes you just have to take some chances.
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Originally Posted by Todefy
It's definitely risky haha. I'm glad she was straight up about it but I won't lie to myself that I'm still hopeful for more.
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Ive never actually banged a coworker but I'd love to. At this point in my life I'm all about checking things off my list. I'd like to try some things and girls that are completely different than I've had. Sometimes it's surprising to discover something new you never thought you'd expect. I was shocked the first time a girl told me to choke her, but turned out to be wild. Highly recommended.
Ive been with canadian, american, australian, chilean, chinese, finnish, german, english and Spanish girls. Would like to add someone from Africa. And someone older than me. Maybe a ginger too! And definitely want to add the mile High club!