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Old 11-04-2013, 01:18 PM   #91
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Re: Are some costumes just too offensive?

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    Update from yesterday on Buzzfeed regarding the Boston bombing costume:

    “I’ve had voicemails where they want to slit my throat and they want to hang me and tear off my face,” she said. “I’m just like, I don’t even know how to respond to this right now.”

    The 22-year-old added that strangers also reached out to her parents and told her best friend “they’re going to blow up her house and hang her child.”
    “I’m like, how is that even right? She didn’t know what I was doing. My family didn’t know what I was doing. I don’t live with them. And they’re all getting dragged into this for something I did.”

    Though Lynch seems able to let most of the threats slide down her back, some in particular affect her — namely, the ones having to do with rape, an experience she tearily described undergoing last Thanksgiving.

    “When people bring up the rape stuff it kind of hits a spot, but I don’t show it. I’m over it, but it’s something that I would never, ever wish upon someone no matter what they had done. They can dress however they want.”
    Interesting.

    People are way too overreactive. She displayed poor judgement. Since when did that call for death threats.
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    Old 11-04-2013, 01:20 PM   #93
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    Are you supporting her right to do what she did or are you supporting her idiocy for doing what she did?
    Supporting her right, and the fact that she had the balls to back it up. I'm NOT saying I agree with her. But she didn't back down and I always give that respect, even if I disagree with it.
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    Old 11-04-2013, 01:25 PM   #95
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    Supporting her right, and the fact that she had the balls to back it up. I'm NOT saying I agree with her. But she didn't back down and I always give that respect, even if I disagree with it.
    I don't think she has the balls. I just think she is not really taking accountability.
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    Who posts that many nudes of themselves online? My guess is she'll get into porn or stripping now that she doesn't have a job and horrible credibility.
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    Old 11-04-2013, 01:28 PM   #97
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    I think maybe her phone was hacked.
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    Re: Are some costumes just too offensive?

    How do people not think their own reactions are even more offensive? I mean, going through the time/trouble of finding and posting information about her and her parents? That's completely unacceptable, imo. Waaaay worse than her throwing on that get-up.
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    Old 11-04-2013, 01:35 PM   #99
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    How do people not think their own reactions are even more offensive? I mean, going through the time/trouble of finding and posting information about her and her parents? That's completely unacceptable, imo. Waaaay worse than her throwing on that get-up.
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    I don't think she has the balls. I just think she is not really taking accountability.
    She said, in essence, "I did what I did and it was construed as offensive. I'm sorry, however I didn't think what I did was offensive."

    I think that takes balls, to admit you're wrong, and say that other people are being more wrong in their reaction (Roger is explaining that really well) even though you admit your mistake.
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    Old 11-04-2013, 01:35 PM   #100
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    How do people not think their own reactions are even more offensive? I mean, going through the time/trouble of finding and posting information about her and her parents? That's completely unacceptable, imo. Waaaay worse than her throwing on that get-up.
    seriously. the thing she did was kinda stupid. the responses are atrocious and probably borderline to fully criminal.
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    Old 11-04-2013, 01:49 PM   #101
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    She said, in essence, "I did what I did and it was construed as offensive. I'm sorry, however I didn't think what I did was offensive."

    I think that takes balls, to admit you're wrong, and say that other people are being more wrong in their reaction (Roger is explaining that really well) even though you admit your mistake.
    I guess it all comes down to if you believe what she says to be true. There are a lot of people in this world who are really bad at taking the blame. I think that's what she's doing.
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    Re: Are some costumes just too offensive?

    I think she's taking enough responsibility. To her point, I can't imagine she's the only person who conjured up and executed this idea. Furthremore, I don't find it nearly as offensive as the reactions seem to be. She lost her job over a costume on Halloween, not driving drunk and plowing through a daycare facility. I mean, if this outfit is cause for her parents murder, what's the reaction when someone does something that's actually wrong/illegal? Just start taking out entire communities?
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    Old 11-04-2013, 02:33 PM   #103
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    It's all about intent.

    The Marathon bombing, 9/11, Columbine, Sandy Hook, and other horrible tragedies will never be funny. I can't think of a single good intention behind dressing as a victim of any of these events.

    At its core, blackface is inherently racist, because the motivations behind blackface were to mock African Americans. However, there is a big difference between wearing blackface to mock a black person, and wearing makeup to portray a black character. I definitely think the Trayvon Martin costumes, based on what I've seen, are undoubtedly racist, but I don't know that Julianne Hough dressing as Crazy Eyes is so absolute.
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    Old 11-04-2013, 02:49 PM   #104
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    The Marathon bombing, 9/11, Columbine, Sandy Hook, and other horrible tragedies will never be funny. I can't think of a single good intention behind dressing as a victim of any of these events.
    They'll be funny some day. If people can make jokes about the Holocaust, these things will be, too. All comedy is tragedy plus time, right?
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    Old 11-04-2013, 03:12 PM   #105
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    They'll be funny some day. If people can make jokes about the Holocaust, these things will be, too. All comedy is tragedy plus time, right?
    But people would get pissed if you dressed as Hitler for Halloween, right?
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    Eh, I could see someone getting away with a Hitler costume, especially if it's goofie.

    Ain't no one getting away with dressing up as a concentration camp victim though.


    I think there's more leeway with perpetrators of bad shit. Not so much with victims.
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    Old 11-04-2013, 03:14 PM   #107
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    They'll be funny some day. If people can make jokes about the Holocaust, these things will be, too. All comedy is tragedy plus time, right?
    But they aren't. Can you imagine rhe outrage if someone dressed as a nazi guard, or death camp prisoner?
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    I think you CAN joke about anything after time has passed, sure. Some unfunny people use that as a way to get the only laughs they can. Again, I don't get offended by anything really but I have no sympathy for these people because some people do get offended, the costumes (especially the bomb victim) just weren't funny, and they had no clue sharing it on social media would cause backlash. Like, why dress up as a bomb victim? It's not funny and it's a lame costume, and your dumb as fuck ass deserved to be fired for being so dumb.
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    People need a sense of humor and stop being such pussies. A costume offends you? lulz how will you ever make it in this world?
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    People need a sense of humor and stop being such pussies. A costume offends you? lulz how will you ever make it in this world?
    I agree Recently......got to be tough
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    Some costumes are dumb (dressing up in a KKK outfit) but people should be more open-minded are realize Halloween is for laughs. My .02
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    The KKK gig will never be ok.....yup, probably never
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    WOW. I love the fact that they're only 19 and really had no clue what was going on when it happened.

    It's not even that these kind of things are offensive, it's just that there are some things you don't do.
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    I agree with what people have said in here about not really caring about what people dress up as, just be smart about it.

    I feel really badly for the girl in Michigan who is getting death threats against her and her family for the Boston Marathon bombing. Was her costume tasteless? Yes. Should she have worn it to work and then posted it to social media, therefore associating the offense with her place of work? No. Should she be fearful for her life? Absolutely not. She actually has a right to be an idiot, she doesn't have a right to be scared for her life.

    I think it also has to do with the gender of the person committing the offense. You rarely see grown men being threatened for wearing politically incorrect costumes. There was a guy who posted a picture of himself on social media as a Boston Marathon victim, too, but for some reason, no one cared. Either something is offensive across the board or it isn't. You don't get to pick and choose which Boston Marathon victim is going to offend you. People suck.
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    They're British.

    Obviously they aren't going to get the same reaction there as they'd have gotten here.
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    People need a sense of humor and stop being such pussies. A costume offends you? lulz how will you ever make it in this world?
    This is my POV as well. If you get so offended over something like a costume, I can't imagine what it must be like watching the news or an awards show nowadays.

    There is nothing in this world that someone could dress up as that would offend me personally. Someone could dress up as my grandmother on her death bed, in a Yankees hat, and making fun of it, and I would not care. Or, I would care that they have a Yankees hat on; no one should wear one of those.

    I think it's just trendy now to be offended by everything and make a big thing of it.
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    This is my POV as well. If you get so offended over something like a costume, I can't imagine what it must be like watching the news or an awards show nowadays.

    There is nothing in this world that someone could dress up as that would offend me personally. Someone could dress up as my grandmother on her death bed, in a Yankees hat, and making fun of it, and I would not care. Or, I would care that they have a Yankees hat on; no one should wear one of those.

    I think it's just trendy now to be offended by everything and make a big thing of it.
    Or actually offensive things, like very racist people.
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    Best part of it is that most of the offenders sending death threats and hacking her address and nudez are the same people posting /spacedicks on reddit.
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    Or actually offensive things, like very racist people.
    Yeah, exactly. I feel like only you have control over how you react to things. It's like that saying that is something like "only you have control over how you feel about yourself".

    No one else should have the power to make you feel bad about you or offend you about something. I choose to not get offended by a complete stranger because I have other things to worry about than what some woman dressed up as in Michigan. We all have the freedom of expression, and the whole "some things are just off limits" is an excuse for those who pick and choose what is offensive.

    I don't think she did it to hurt anyone. I saw so many people last year dressed up as Jerry Sandusky, and they just got some high fives and laughs. I've seen people dressed up as the Amish school shooting victims about 6 years ago, I've seen Superman in wheelchairs....and again, all they got was a few "that is horrible", but no one was threatening their lives, or the lives of loved ones. Halloween is about expression, pushing the offensive envelope, and dressing in a way you wouldn't dress on any other day.
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