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Originally Posted by M. Steng
I would prefer if my child was not homosexual. I consider myself pretty tolerant, I don't give two shits if gay people get married and have their own life, I actually think it's wonderful. But actually physically being in the presence of a gay couple does make me slightly uncomfortable.
There's a guy in my extended group of friends who happens to be gay. Big burley guy, great person, down to earth, etc. I don't mind when he comes around at all, but when his boyfriend shows up it's a whole different ballgame. This dude is SO gay. Just the other night, they showed up, and when my friend went to the bathroom, his boyfriend starts waxing poetic on how he can't wait to suck his dick when he gets home. I think it's inappropriate to discuss that kind of stuff to begin with, but just hearing those words come from a guy's mouth made me cringe. They also sometimes aggressively make-out in front of our group of friends as if to say "look at us! we're gay!", which makes me incredibly uncomfortable.
So in other words, I guess I wouldn't really care if my son was gay as long as I didn't have to watch him and his partner holding hands or kissing me. I would just treat him like my son's close friend, but I just wouldn't want to have to watch the intimacy stuff.
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First bolded, I've had straight friends make out aggressively and be extremely inappropriate as well. It makes me uncomfortable when anyone does this, gay or straight. It's not a gay thing, so don't kid yourself.
Second bolded, my parents did this for 10 years. I came out at 16, they were generally accepting of it. They still loved and treated me the same but anytime I brought my girlfriend over she was my "friend". My dad never looked her in the eyes. When I got older and got an apartment with my girlfriend then she was my "roommate". This is what made me feel ashamed, not the fact that I was gay. It was the fact that it felt my parents were ashamed of me. I would never wish that feeling upon anyone, especially my own child.
With my situation, I believe that my parents were just trying to get used to it, they grew up in a time that it was not accepted or talked about, at all. Now, they have great relationships with my partners. They even helped plan what was going to be my wedding, because they evolved. I hope some day you to do too.