Positive or Negative?

[OlivePoet]

well guys, fridays are my "leave at 11:30" days. i'm gonna grab some sushi and get laid. i'll be back soon.
tom, it's been awesome chatting with ya. i wanna do more!

[dobyblue]

I'm positive because it's so less tiring than being negative and I need all the strength I can get these days!

[come&dancew/me]

Originally Posted by FPrefect61

Since the sacking, I moved back to NY, and I'm working for a uniform company doing IT and database work mostly. I'm hoping to get out of here and move back to PA in the next 6 months.

*translation, I sit on my ass here all day and get paid for it*

Hey - we have something in common!! I sit on my ass all day too! (But unemployment pays me. )

[FPrefect61]

Originally Posted by dobyblue

I'm positive because it's so less tiring than being negative and I need all the strength I can get these days!

I've never heard it put that way before.

I hate sitting on my ass and getting paid for it though. I want to actually do something. Hey, that's part of Positive Psychology (that's what we've been going this whole time hehe), finding a job where you can apply your signature strengths creates what's called flow.

[come&dancew/me]

Originally Posted by FPrefect61

I've never heard it put that way before.

I hate sitting on my ass and getting paid for it though. I want to actually do something. Hey, that's part of Positive Psychology (that's what we've been going this whole time hehe), finding a job where you can apply your signature strengths creates what's called flow.

Hmmmm....my S.O. and I have the *opposite* theory. That it's easier for people to be negative - that's why so many people walk around being miserable fuddy-duddies. That's why all your coworkers can do is bitch about the weather, bitch about the bitch down the hall, bitch about the boss, bitch, bitch, bitch, bitch, bitch! That's why so many people hate calling their moms, or that "certain" friend, 'cuz it sucks to hear them whining all the time....

But maybe you're right. : It is definitely easier to get "stuck" in a rut, but that doesn't necessarily mean that it's easier getting there.

Gawd...now I'm just confusing myself. I think I need nourishment.

BBL, awesome ants.

[katedid81]

Interesting q-aire Tom!

I consider myself to be more positive than negative; though there was a time in my life when I was extremely negative.
Me according to the Questionnaire:
Gratitude
Appreciation of beauty and excellence
Judgment, critical thinking, and open-mindedness
Forgiveness and mercy
Creativity, ingenuity, and originality

[FPrefect61]

Did you know:

It takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile?

[dobyblue]

Originally Posted by come&dancew/me

Hmmmm....my S.O. and I have the *opposite* theory. That it's easier for people to be negative

ha ha! Yes it may be easier - but at the end of a negative day aren't you absolutely knackered. At the end of a positive day I can sleep better and feel rested. That was my point. Being positive is less tiring.

[mray10]

Originally Posted by FPrefect61

Did you know:

It takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile?

How many muscles does it take to slap you?

[dobyblue]

Originally Posted by FPrefect61

Did you know:

It takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile?

approx 3.71 times more I think!

[FPrefect61]

Originally Posted by mray10

How many muscles does it take to slap you?

You'd have to ask any girl I've ever hit on for that answer.

[mray10]

Originally Posted by FPrefect61

You'd have to ask any girl I've ever hit on for that answer.

I'm e-mailing Jen now ...

Sorry. I'm such an ass to you.

[FPrefect61]

Originally Posted by mray10

I'm e-mailing Jen now ...

Sorry. I'm such an ass to you.

The day you stop being an ass to me is the day I think you're dying.

[mray10]

Originally Posted by FPrefect61

The day you stop being an ass to me is the day I think you're dying.

That's quite a legacy to carry around with me.

[FPrefect61]

Anyway, time to share more things of Positive Psychology with y'all.

This may sound a little hokey, but bear with me, there's actual data that suggests these activities work.

Some people don't have gratitude as one of their top five, but it's an incredibly powerful strength to have. Being able to look at things that have happened and things going on now, and being thankful for them will highly increase your subjective well being (psychological term for happiness ).

How do you do it? Easy. My boss would have said to keep a gratitude journal, where you list 5 things each day you're thankful for, then keep track of them. I personally think that's a little too much. It's a good idea for an assignment (which we did for the curriculum we wrote), but not for us. I find it's easy to just think of 5 things you're thankful for while you're laying down about to go to sleep. I find it calms me down and helps sleep come easier.

[OklahomaMama]

my thankful entry for today:

1. my son is doing well in school & seems happy
2. the weather is lovely
3. no traffic coming in to work this morning
4. finally got to wash the bug guts and bird poo off my car
5. it's FRIDAY and i don't have to work on monday

[FPrefect61]

Originally Posted by OklahomaMama

my thankful entry for today:

1. my son is doing well in school & seems happy
2. the weather is lovely
3. no traffic coming in to work this morning
4. finally got to wash the bug guts and bird poo off my car
5. it's FRIDAY and i don't have to work on monday

Excellent! You get a gold star, Brenda.

Gold Star

[OklahomaMama]

Originally Posted by FPrefect61

Excellent! You get a gold star, Brenda.

yaaaay!

i already have the chest to pin it on

[come&dancew/me]

Originally Posted by OklahomaMama

my thankful entry for today:

1. my son is doing well in school & seems happy
2. the weather is lovely
3. no traffic coming in to work this morning
4. finally got to wash the bug guts and bird poo off my car
5. it's FRIDAY and i don't have to work on monday

Nice list. OK, here's mine:

1. even though my cat woke me up this morning at 5am, I feel nice and happy and not even tired today!
2. the trees look pretty
3. i applied for another job
4. i am thankful every day for my honey and my stepson
5. i got to watch Buffy the Vampire Slayer while I worked out this morning

[bron]

Mine for today:

1. I'm getting on the train to go home in 3 hours
2. I get to see my doggies tonight!
3. I get to have a huge thanksgiving dinner with my family on Sunday!
4. I have lots of good tabloids to read on the train ride
5. AND I get to have thanksgiving dinner with my friends on Saturday...

I can't wait to get to Toronto!!! Hurry up damn train!

[FPrefect61]

Good, these are all really good. (God, I sound like a teacher... )

You'll find the more you do this, the more you'll find deeper things to be grateful for. Marty told me once doing this stuff is like a muscle. The more you do it, the better you get at it, and the more you'll be able to handle.

[OlivePoet]

1. I had a GREAT poop about 10 minutes ago.
2. My kittens have really taken to Giulio (the boy)
3. Giulio and I get to have a "date" tonight.
4. I just started paying for health insurance today, and it's less than I expected.
5 The monster zit below my nose finally popped!

[OlivePoet]

Originally Posted by FPrefect61

Good, these are all really good. (God, I sound like a teacher... )

You'll find the more you do this, the more you'll find deeper things to be grateful for. Marty told me once doing this stuff is like a muscle. The more you do it, the better you get at it, and the more you'll be able to handle.

it's kind of like a love muscle.
oh wait, that's something else...

[come&dancew/me]

I think that everyday, this thread is where my first post will go! I will post the 5 things I'm thankful for! What an awesome idea, Tom! I think we should all do this!

[OlivePoet]

Originally Posted by come&dancew/me

I think that everyday, this thread is where my first post will go! I will post the 5 things I'm thankful for! What an awesome idea, Tom! I think we should all do this!

i agree!! this thread is go much better than i could have expected.

[come&dancew/me]

Originally Posted by OlivePoet

1. I had a GREAT poop about 10 minutes ago.
2. My kittens have really taken to Giulio (the boy)
3. Giulio and I get to have a "date" tonight.
4. I just started paying for health insurance today, and it's less than I expected.
5 The monster zit below my nose finally popped!

You sure do like pooping, Olive!

[OlivePoet]

I may actually start hanging out on here on the weekends!

[OlivePoet]

Originally Posted by come&dancew/me

You sure do like pooping, Olive!

Yeah, honestly, I LOVE pooping. Especially since I've stopped eating meat. I have really strong, solid poops that just work well with me.

[FPrefect61]

Originally Posted by OlivePoet

it's kind of like a love muscle.
oh wait, that's something else...

Someone have a good break after work?

I'll see if I still have that curriculum at home, post a few more things. Heh, Marty would be proud.

[bron]

I love pooping...especially when it's a really great one. I always cherish that, because I have pooping issues. It sucks. I have to keep a jug of prune juice handy in case of emergency.