Dating is miserable

[Bron Yr Aur]

Originally Posted by SeekUpSaratoga

How early is too early to know?

What I mean is I met a girl on Match.com in early July. I was initially hesitant with the whole meeting online thing but after a number of dates I really found myself falling hard for her. We officially became a couple by the end of July and things have been going wonderfully since. Now, I am aware of the whole "Honeymoon Phase" but I am becoming more and more sure she is who I am supposed to be with. My soul mate if you will. It just seems like we are so perfect for one another - personality wise we mesh very well, there is a strong sexual attraction, and she has also mentioned that she can see this relationship lasting into the future. There is an indescribable feeling I get with her that I've never experienced with any past girlfriend.

So, is four and half - five months too early to know you've met The One? Or is it kind of a "you know it when you know it" kind of thing?

Either way, I am incredibly happy and am going to just let things happen as they may. Just wanted to see what other folks had to say on the matter.

Hey, very happy for you, but I just think people need to forget about the idea of "The One." And I think you would do better to not think of it like that, as it just puts some mental pressure on the whole situation. If she is "the one," then "you better not screw it up." Or, oh she did this thing that I didn't like, "maybe not the one???"

Just saying, if you are both happy and having a great time, enjoy it and try not to put labels on it.

[AllifromOhio]

Yes, too early. I'd say things are going to be less honeymoon like in a few months and you might see a different side of this person. Seems too early to be thinking she's it forever, in my opinion.

[Alazais]

Is it the males obligation to have condoms on him or whoever's place you are at to have the condoms?

[gonz085]

Originally Posted by Alazais

Is it the males obligation to have condoms on him or whoever's place you are at to have the condoms?

Back in the glory days I always had some on me. I'd say its the guys.

[Tiduwho]

Guy's responsibility.

[Nick@Night]

I'd never assume it was up to the girl to have the protection. I'd actually feel better if she didn't just always have a stash on hand.

[Tiduwho]

Originally Posted by Nick@Night

I'd never assume it was up to the girl to have the protection. I'd actually feel better if she didn't just always have a stash on hand.

Accurate statement.

[smokew11]

if the girl has condoms, theres a reason for it

[AllifromOhio]

I always have some even though I'm on the pill. Better to have a few just in case.

[unccrombie]

Originally Posted by gonz085

You shouldn't. It all goes back to this being her first serious relationship. I'm not saying everyone is like this, but the first sign that another dude was really into her and this happens? I can't say I'm surprised. Happened with a very good friend of mines recent relationship except he was the one that bailed (to give context, nearly 6 years together, his gf was hot and awesome, he noticed he could pull tail elsewhere and eventually booked it). I personally would never be someones first serious relationship. It leaves way too many question marks and way too much shit can change. Hell, you two met when you were young. It's not a slap in the face to you that she became a different person. You dodged a bullet. It may be a hard thing to remember, but it's the truth.

yeah, right person, wrong time syndrome. she was just too mentally underdeveloped to see things. just really hard to grow up with someone, go through more things than 80% of relationships and get beat by something so dumb.

Originally Posted by Tiduwho

You already knew this man. You don't need confirmation, that's just another sting.

How did you guys end up talking?

Because talking is bad for you. Even once you start going out with girls, and you generally stop thinking about her...all it takes is one phone call for you to be feeling like shit again.

Oh, I know. We had talked last Friday afternoon because my birthday is on this Friday. I'll just never understand how someone can say those things and still have doubts. Doubts about the finality of marriage, and being ready sure, but about the person? No way. I mean, hell, it took me until May to commit to the marriage idea. I wasn't expecting her to for another 1-2 years given her sister's wedding and the struggle with her parents divorce.

Originally Posted by aicdmb

What the fuck are you talking to her for crombie?? Dont do it man

It's like good weed man. you get one hit and the next thing you know you're fucked up without any way to get home.




On a positive note, 3/4 dates went well last week. Seeing one of the girls for a 3rd time tonight, she's coming over for some "Netflix". One of the girls I won't be seeing until next week, which sucks, because she has a friend in town from college.

[smokew11]

Originally Posted by AllifromOhio

I always have some even though I'm on the pill. Better to have a few just in case.

...like i said

[Tiduwho]

Originally Posted by unccrombie

yeah, right person, wrong time syndrome. she was just too mentally underdeveloped to see things. just really hard to grow up with someone, go through more things than 80% of relationships and get beat by something so dumb.



Oh, I know. We had talked last Friday afternoon because my birthday is on this Friday. I'll just never understand how someone can say those things and still have doubts. Doubts about the finality of marriage, and being ready sure, but about the person? No way. I mean, hell, it took me until May to commit to the marriage idea. I wasn't expecting her to for another 1-2 years given her sister's wedding and the struggle with her parents divorce.



It's like good weed man. you get one hit and the next thing you know you're fucked up without any way to get home.




On a positive note, 3/4 dates went well last week. Seeing one of the girls for a 3rd time tonight, she's coming over for some "Netflix". One of the girls I won't be seeing until next week, which sucks, because she has a friend in town from college.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j6_pv_vRHKI

[unccrombie]

Originally Posted by Tiduwho

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j6_pv_vRHKI

knew what that would be. sadly, this girl is proper beyond the queen.

[dmbgodagirl41]

Originally Posted by unccrombie

had a rough conversation with the ex this afternoon. really don't want to go out tonight. she admitted that before the South Africa trip that she wanted to get married, have kids, travel, the whole 9 yards. and now...after that trip...nothing. how the fuck. i feel completely worthless right now.

Why the fuck are you even talking to her?

[unccrombie]

Originally Posted by dmbgodagirl41

Why the fuck are you even talking to her?

moment of weakness, really. had gone an entire week without it. instantly realized why i hadn't talked to her, as i pointed out in my feelings

[hailtopitt]

crombie, let's just give up on dating and we can go stag to the dance

[dmbgodagirl41]

Originally Posted by unccrombie

moment of weakness, really. had gone an entire week without it. instantly realized why i hadn't talked to her, as i pointed out in my feelings

The longer you go without talking to her, the easier it gets to not talk to her. Seriously. Get your shit together.

[unccrombie]

Originally Posted by hailtopitt

crombie, let's just give up on dating and we can go stag to the dance

http://blogs-images.forbes.com/migue...nd-dumber1.jpg

[hailtopitt]

Originally Posted by unccrombie

http://blogs-images.forbes.com/migue...nd-dumber1.jpg

nice set of hooters ya got there

[Alazais]

Originally Posted by AllifromOhio

I always have some even though I'm on the pill. Better to have a few just in case.

This makes sense to me. Saturday night was the first time that I was at someones place and they were like, "No. I don't have any. It's your responsibility to ensure there is protection".

I have never experienced this before. Part of being a responsible, sexually active adult is to ensure that your bed is stocked with condoms. You don't travel with condoms - that leads to uncomfortable situations.

I was at Bulgaria's place on Saturday. She made pizza. It was delicious. We gets to drinking and fooling around and then we go to do and she says, "Wait. Do you have protection?". No. No I don't. I have some at my place, like a normal sexually active individual.

"No. don't you have any here?"

"No."

FUCK!

So I say, "Wait here. Where is the nearest corner store?"

I run to the corner store, I'm pretty sure I hurdled a couple of moving cars on the way. It was like when Donovan Bailey beat whatever that slow American's name was that thought he could challenge the great Donovan Bailey, but I digress.

So I get to the store. I'm not even sure I have my belt properly on. "Sir. What do you have for condoms" The middle aged Middle-Eastern man looks at me funny finds it hilarious to go all Vanna White on me. "Well, Sir. We have this and this and this. For this much more you can get this."

"Dude. Whatever. Give me those ones. I don't care".

They came to like 7 dollars. I threw down a 10 and booked it out.

I'm confident if there was a team of judges they'd have awarded me 10's across the board for my deft maneuvering to dodge the traffic, get up the stairs kick off my shoes and get undressed in a matter of seconds.

Then she made me breakfast in the morning and made me take home some of the pizza we made the night before.

It's so true. The best way to a mans heart is through his stomach. If you feed me tasty food all of the time I will love you so much quicker then if I do all the cooking.

I'm a great cook. but getting fed delicious food is so nice.

[dmbgodagirl41]

I see no problem with women having condoms. Like Troy said, it's everyone's responsibility. If I put my own health in the hands of others, that'd be pretty stupid.

Granted, I'm not going to have all different sizes (I usually just buy the universal Trojan ones), so if you have a large ding-dong, you should plan accordingly....by giving me your phone number.

[Nick@Night]

I travel with my own rubbers because depending on what they have on hand, they likely won't fit me well. Hooked up with a chick a couple of years ago, she had a condom in her room and it was like sticking my dick in a garden hose. It was so tight on everything, I couldn't feel that I was even inside her.

[dmbgodagirl41]

I have no clue why I laughed reading that, Sparky, since I already know about that story. I think the thought of you putting Mr. Peeps in a garden hose is just funny as hell.

[unccrombie]

going back to using condoms is going to be awful.

:: groan ::

[Alazais]

Originally Posted by unccrombie

going back to using condoms is going to be awful.

:: groan ::

don't do it then.

Hastag HERPIES! (Am I doing it right?)

[hailtopitt]

UNC "rawdawg" crombie

[unccrombie]

maybe a little time away will be good, bud?

[headlessnancie]

this chick is my hero

http://happyplace.someecards.com/280...ple-engagement

[unccrombie]

Originally Posted by headlessnancie

this chick is my hero

http://happyplace.someecards.com/280...ple-engagement

she's without question getting the creepiest messages.

[dmbgodagirl41]

Originally Posted by headlessnancie

this chick is my hero

http://happyplace.someecards.com/280...ple-engagement

hahahahahaha awesome. So true.