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Originally Posted by M. Steng
If saying "how you doin'" to people on the street is harassment, then lock me up and throw away the key.
I've gotten hit on by women numerous times, mostly on the train or while waiting in line somewhere (the bank, lunch, etc.). The only difference is that I don't mind, and I'll talk with them. I'm not saying I'm the most handsome guy walking around Philly, not even close, but just having a smile on your face in public invites people to engage you in conversation. Granted, they're mostly older/middle-aged women who probably just need someone to talk to, not supermodels, but I think it's pretty harmless.
EDIT: But don't smile around homeless people. They'll bug the shit out of you if they think you're friendly. Just have to have the thousand-yard stare and pretend they're not even there. I don't want to hear about how you need $3 for the train to go pick up your kid or some other bullshit sob story. I'm sympathetic to the homeless but I am constantly annoyed by them on the street. That's closer to harassment than anything I've ever experienced (non-sexual, obviously).
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im sure im going to get a lot of eye rolls for this post but to be honest, i don't think there needs to be verbal communication to be "harassed"
for instance, the other morning i was on a run. quiet sunday. a car is approaching me and slows way down, maybe from 25 mph to 5 mph, like they might pull over and ask for directions or something. so obviously i look at the driver. he didn't need directions, he's just some creepy old guy watching me with this smirk on his face. he didn't say a word. he just stared at me. and not that this should matter, but i wasn't "inappropriately dressed" or anything. just that long glare that seemed to last forever sent chills down my spine, it was a very uncomfortable and unwanted feeling that made me feel very vulnerable... even though not one word was said. maybe im being overly sensitive and a baby, but it was unpleasant. not sure how else to describe it. it's crazy how these emotions can surface from a non-verbal, non-physical interaction
of course saying "hello" isn't offensive, but liek someone else said, it's all about the tone and context
i watched the video, none of it really surprised me