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Originally Posted by bustedstuff88
While we were fucking last night she says "even if I fuck somebody else you'll still fuck me, wont you?"
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Time to end the relationship.
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Originally Posted by bustedstuff88
Maybe the best thing for me to do would be just focus on my children, then get myself sum on the side. So much easier said than done though.
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If you want to be with other people why stay with her?
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Originally Posted by bustedstuff88
Should I fuck her if she comes to me wanting it if I know for a fact shes been with other dudes?
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No! This whole thread you've been saying how upset you are with this situation. That you don't know how to let go. Well you start by not trying to hold on.
You are considering staying with her while she bangs other dudes. She probably expects you to do as much. The only way you'll move on is to end the sexual part of your relationship.
You need to work on having a amicable relationship that is 100% about your children, and that's it.
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Originally Posted by bustedstuff88
Im snipped, so I have no worries
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Why would you do this at such a young age? What if your potential future wife wants to start a family?
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Originally Posted by bustedstuff88
but once she crosses that line and starts playing hide the salami with some horsecock, then ill feel alot less bad about going out and intentionally putting myself out there and trying to get laid. Hard to say it wont be revenge sex against her at first, but hopefully that wont last.
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Does this sound like a marriage that has any future? You need to seriously end this, or make a strong effort at reconciliation if you both actually want that. Just waiting around to see who fucks who first is a dead end for a marriage.
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Originally Posted by bustedstuff88
We have two kids, a 8 year old girl and a 3 year old boy, and I feel terribly for them. They seem to be taking it well right now, but i worry about how this all will effect them in the long term. May be better than seeing their parents argue in front of them all the time....
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The best thing for your kids is for you to have as healthy of a relationship as possible with their mother. If you keep investing yourself in a failed marriage it may get ugly when she starts banging other dudes. It be better if you end it before it gets to that point. That way nobody feels betrayed, or you have to worry about hating one another.
If you two do end up hating each other that will be terrible for the kids.
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She used to be so different, loving life, so laid back. Ever since that pregnancy test turned out positive, its like she has a stick up her ass. Very uptight.
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You change a lot in your 20's. No one is to blame, but maybe you aren't compatible anymore.
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Originally Posted by Tiduwho
You are her safety net right now. She's using you to stay tethered, while she goes out and prepares to find some new options. So while she goes through trials and tribulations in her head as she starts talking to new dudes, she's going to have you to fall back on.
Cut her off. Immediately. Don't let her cut off your balls. That pit in your stomach can't run your life.
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This x1000000000
Tiduwho is 100% spot on with what she's doing.
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Originally Posted by bustedstuff88
I gotta learn to stop fucking thinking about her!!!!
Why in the fuck does this gotta be so hard?
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This will not happen while you guys continue to fuck. You are clinging to her in every way possible. The only way to move on is to actually move on. Get a divorce.
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Originally Posted by Tiduwho
How do I say this...
The more compliments you give, the more you try to win her back? The "safer" she feels. You are literally letting her walk away, because you are reinforcing that you will be there if she wants to come back.
You sit around worrying all day and feeling awful, while she doesn't have to worry about anything. She has you.
The only way to change your current situation is to cut her off. Make her start thinking about you. Make her worry about you. The whole thought process that she might be making a mistake, will NEVER happen unless you give it a chance to.
Right now, your actions are only telling her subconscious "This is ok. You are doing the right thing. This guy is weak, below me. He's looking up at me. And I have a safety net with him too."
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Once again 100% nailed it.