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Old 06-22-2015, 09:20 AM   #91
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OP, do you feel more comfortable adding Brokeback Mountain to your favorite movies on Facebook?
I would and I'm not gay, great movie.
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    Same. I was being facetious.

    I did actually get an ad for gay singles on Facebook after I added that movie to my favorites years back.
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    Old 06-22-2015, 09:43 AM   #93
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    Op start posting in purple font yet?
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    Old 06-22-2015, 09:46 AM   #94
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    This is a SERIOUS question? Wow
    I assume he's joking, but not everyone understands reality vs stereotype if they aren't familiar.

    Every time my black friend comes to town, I take him out for fried chicken. Why? Because I'm making assumptions rather than asking these hard hitting questions that I should be asking.

    Turns out he loves fried chicken, so we're good but I should have asked to begin with.

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    Regardless if your parents know or not already, I'd do it asap. Clearing the air will make you feel better, and you can move on. Best of luck OP
    Agree with everything except the 'asap' part. You've gotten do it on YOUR time when you feel ready.
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    Old 06-22-2015, 10:15 AM   #95
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    I assume he's joking, but not everyone understands reality vs stereotype if they aren't familiar.

    Every time my black friend comes to town, I take him out for fried chicken. Why? Because I'm making assumptions rather than asking these hard hitting questions that I should be asking.

    Turns out he loves fried chicken, so we're good but I should have asked to begin with.



    Agree with everything except the 'asap' part. You've gotten do it on YOUR time when you feel ready.
    When my Irish friends roll into town we blow up a Fish & Chips joint. Turns out they hate the Limey's so we're good.
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    Old 06-22-2015, 10:33 AM   #96
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    for those wondering, I have to hide my desire to sit on Popsicles instead of eating them whenever I see them....I also just got surgery to permanently fix my slanted hand
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    Old 06-22-2015, 10:55 AM   #97
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    for those wondering, I have to hide my desire to sit on Popsicles instead of eating them whenever I see them....I also just got surgery to permanently fix my slanted hand
    Do you own or rent the glitter you throw about?
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    Old 06-22-2015, 12:10 PM   #98
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    Op start posting in purple font yet?
    You have been reported.
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    Old 06-22-2015, 12:37 PM   #99
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    Ive lost three of my grandparents in the last year, one of which I found dead on a "surprise" visit...the point being I was very close with my grandparents, and they all died not knowing
    I'm in the same boat with my grandparents, meaning there is just one left at this point. I was just trying to say to not feel too bad about not telling them. There's nothing that can change that now. Maybe just focus on the idea that you'll be able to tell at least one of them.
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    Old 06-22-2015, 01:07 PM   #100
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    OP, have you ever had a relationship with a guy?

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    Old 06-22-2015, 01:12 PM   #101
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    OP, what poster would be harder to tear down from your wall if forced; your Tom Brady or Kathy Lee Griffin?

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    Old 06-22-2015, 01:40 PM   #102
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    Can a twink be a top or is that reserved for bears?
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    Old 06-22-2015, 10:08 PM   #103
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    You're the bro that supports drinking and driving right?
    Christ.
    I support drinking and RIDING... in a car where I am the passenger and the driver is sober in a town that does not have an open container law.

    On a side note, I am flattered you guys think I am comparable to Jeepkid's level of stupidity.
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    Old 06-22-2015, 10:59 PM   #104
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    OP, have you ever had a relationship with a guy?



    stay mad
    No, that would be hard to hide
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    Old 06-23-2015, 12:46 AM   #105
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    Best of luck OP. Let us know how it goes.
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    Old 06-24-2015, 01:40 AM   #106
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    wow.....I just came out to my parents
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    Old 06-24-2015, 01:41 AM   #107
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    How'd that go?
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    Old 06-24-2015, 01:55 AM   #108
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    they had suspicions....they said they love me no matter what...but it's still hard for me. That thought of them feeling feelings of shame and regret will still exist in my head no matter what
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    Old 06-24-2015, 02:15 AM   #109
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    Part of me feels they are just saying that to make me feel good
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    Old 06-24-2015, 02:28 AM   #110
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    Even if they are, that's a lot better than them telling you to fuck off and die (as has happened to a few of my friends out here when they had that same talk.)
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    Old 06-24-2015, 03:30 AM   #111
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    Congrats OP. Ofcourse you're going to be paranoid about how your parents are really feeling. Coming from the guy who thinks the lady at the ice cream parlor gave me a bad look because I asked for 2 scoops of ice cream that were on complete opposite ends of the ice cream window. It's usually just in your head. Give your parents the benefit of the doubt. Their response is great and you should be really proud of yourself. Now enjoy being yourself. That's not a DMB reference
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    Yeah, congrats OP. It's now behind you. You know your parents better than us but don't read too much into their reaction yet. Even if they had suspicions, it's still a lot to take in and process. Like Bo said, it was positive that they didn't blatantly react negatively. I'm thinking everything will be all right and a weight was lifted off your shoulders now. Good luck.
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    Old 06-24-2015, 04:07 AM   #113
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    Part of me feels they are just saying that to make me feel good
    posted at almost 5am? Get some sleep and start a new day. Reactions sound positive and it will only get better as they get more comfortable with the idea.
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    Old 06-24-2015, 04:31 AM   #114
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    Congrats OP! Sounds like the reaction was positive, just give it some time, and after a while this will all feel like ages ago. Awesome job though. You should be proud of yourself.
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    Way to go man! That's got a take a hell of a lot of courage. As others have said, I'm sure there will be an adjustment period for you and your parents so try not to read too much into it. Take comfort in the fact that they are being loving and supportive and not disowning you or sending you to straight camp or something. Best of luck!
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    Old 06-24-2015, 06:14 AM   #116
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    Congrats dude! Your parents seem like good peoples. Since they had their suspicions, chances are they're being sincere. But what do I know? Huge step for you personally, and you should be proud.
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    Congrats OP! I'm only just catching up with this thread now. Pretty awesome how you went from being incredibly nervous and unsure to "wow, I came out to my parents" in the space of 4 pages. I hope you keep using this thread to be sort of an outlet for you. Let us know how things are going. We're here to support. Usually
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    Old 06-24-2015, 08:24 AM   #118
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    Did you wake them up in the middle of the night to come out? Or did you wait a while to post? Congrats man. Things should get easier from here.
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    Old 06-24-2015, 08:26 AM   #119
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    Did you wake them up in the middle of the night to come out? Or did you wait a while to post? Congrats man. Things should get easier from here.
    Maybe he lives in Europe or something
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    Maybe he lives in Europe or something
    Long Island. He was probably slamming down some late night cold cheese slices from Little V's in Huntington.

    Congrats OP.
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