Dating is miserable

[unccrombie]

Originally Posted by dmbgodagirl41

I meant a disorder that makes her really fat. I could have her eating her feelings like no other.

you know how to track me down. but seriously, no. the best thing she can do at this point is to leave the country like she's been saying

[Nick@Night]

Originally Posted by dmbgodagirl41

What are you talking about? All Pats fans ARE blowhard assholes with no redeeming qualities.

If you were patient zero for this, the statement would be accurate.

[dmbgodagirl41]

Originally Posted by unccrombie

you know how to track me down. but seriously, no. the best thing she can do at this point is to leave the country like she's been saying

She just needs to leave you alone. I get so annoyed when people break up with someone else, and then breaker-upper just won't leave that person alone.

Stop using that person as your ego booster/personal validation source and get the hell out of here.

And how do I track you down? I don't have a Batsignal for you.

Originally Posted by Nick@Night

If you were patient zero for this, the statement would be accurate.

@ "patient zero" use.

[dmbbearcat]

Originally Posted by dmbgodagirl41

Not a BAD idea, it just won't work out with you guys. I know 34 year old men who act 15, so a 25 year old guy is probably fucking r-tarded as shit.

well, uh, thanks for lumping me in with a large group of people, despite knowing zilch about me!

EDIT: I'm not actually offended, I just think you're making a baseless assumption

EDIT: 2: I really just want to have sex with her

[spoot388]

so whats everybody's thoughts and opinions on dating a girl with a kid? she's 28 (i'm 25) and the kid is like 4-ish.


a couple of friends think its a bad idea. add in the fact that i don't want kids myself, and it makes me think its a disaster waiting to happen. but i haven't had the best of luck lately, and this girl seems pretty good otherwise. i feel like i should give it a chance, but ultimately i don't know how it could work if i don't want my own kids, let alone dealing with someone else's.

[dmbetc]

I think you answered this question for yourself, spoot.

[aicdmb]

Have sex with her....if its good, have some more sex with her, and just see where it goes

[hmich176]

Originally Posted by spoot388

so whats everybody's thoughts and opinions on dating a girl with a kid? she's 28 (i'm 25) and the kid is like 4-ish.


a couple of friends think its a bad idea. add in the fact that i don't want kids myself, and it makes me think its a disaster waiting to happen. but i haven't had the best of luck lately, and this girl seems pretty good otherwise. i feel like i should give it a chance, but ultimately i don't know how it could work if i don't want my own kids, let alone dealing with someone else's.

Go out with her and if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. Maybe it's not a good idea, but if you've been out of luck, then take the chance. Maybe it'll turn out you'll want a kid in the end. Maybe it won't. Who knows unless you give it a spin?

[unccrombie]

Originally Posted by dmbgodagirl41

She just needs to leave you alone. I get so annoyed when people break up with someone else, and then breaker-upper just won't leave that person alone.

Stop using that person as your ego booster/personal validation source and get the hell out of here.

And how do I track you down? I don't have a Batsignal for you.

I agree, I understand why she can't, or why I can't though. This breakup was textbook or cookie cutter, I know it was a tough decision for her, but she has to fucking own it at some point. If you want me in your life then you have to date me, not be my friend.

Originally Posted by spoot388

so whats everybody's thoughts and opinions on dating a girl with a kid? she's 28 (i'm 25) and the kid is like 4-ish.


a couple of friends think its a bad idea. add in the fact that i don't want kids myself, and it makes me think its a disaster waiting to happen. but i haven't had the best of luck lately, and this girl seems pretty good otherwise. i feel like i should give it a chance, but ultimately i don't know how it could work if i don't want my own kids, let alone dealing with someone else's.

Originally Posted by dmbetc

I think you answered this question for yourself, spoot.

Originally Posted by hmich176

Go out with her and if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. Maybe it's not a good idea, but if you've been out of luck, then take the chance. Maybe it'll turn out you'll want a kid in the end. Maybe it won't. Who knows unless you give it a spin?

I sort of agree with this...but there are going to be problems.

[rconverse]

Originally Posted by spoot388

so whats everybody's thoughts and opinions on dating a girl with a kid? she's 28 (i'm 25) and the kid is like 4-ish.


a couple of friends think its a bad idea. add in the fact that i don't want kids myself, and it makes me think its a disaster waiting to happen. but i haven't had the best of luck lately, and this girl seems pretty good otherwise. i feel like i should give it a chance, but ultimately i don't know how it could work if i don't want my own kids, let alone dealing with someone else's.

At least you know she puts out.

[spoot388]

Originally Posted by dmbetc

I think you answered this question for yourself, spoot.

this is how i feel about it

Originally Posted by hmich176

Go out with her and if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. Maybe it's not a good idea, but if you've been out of luck, then take the chance. Maybe it'll turn out you'll want a kid in the end. Maybe it won't. Who knows unless you give it a spin?

but then i think this

Originally Posted by rconverse

At least you know she puts out.

followed by thinking this



i'm probably going to give it a try because i haven't had anything else going for me lately, but i know that down the road there are going to be problems. i guess the best thing is to give it a try and just be up front about how i feel about kids so she knows?

[unccrombie]

Originally Posted by spoot388

i'm probably going to give it a try because i haven't had anything else going for me lately, but i know that down the road there are going to be problems. i guess the best thing is to give it a try and just be up front about how i feel about kids so she knows?

why the hell would she waste her time with you if she knows that? unless she's just DTF

[AllifromOhio]

Sounds like she just wants some secks too.

[aicdmb]

Theres a lot of great chicks out there that are single with kids...you dont want to let one slip by just because of that...its not like you have to move into daddy role. Just see what happens

[Nick@Night]

I got an e-mail from my dad today that was to my sisters and I telling of the Christmas plans for the day of and the extended family gathering that weekend. Do these fucking people just want to ignore the damning e-mail I sent them mere weeks ago calling them out precisely for this exact shit of them ignoring a problem completely and carrying on like nothing is the matter? I'm completely miffed. Why would they expect me to show up to this when I didn't attend Thanksgiving?

[wnderwoman]

Originally Posted by Nick@Night

I got an e-mail from my dad today that was to my sisters and I telling of the Christmas plans for the day of and the extended family gathering that weekend. Do these fucking people just want to ignore the damning e-mail I sent them mere weeks ago calling them out precisely for this exact shit of them ignoring a problem completely and carrying on like nothing is the matter? I'm completely miffed. Why would they expect me to show up to this when I didn't attend Thanksgiving?

This is so weird, has there not been any more communication since you and I last talked about it?

[thechad90000]

Met a girl tonight through OKCupid. STarted talking a couple of days ago and then, kind of spur of the moment, we agreed to go out tonight. Everything went really well. Conversation was easy, not forced. Had a great time. Gonna get together on Saturday for lunch supposedly. First date I've had in a little while so it was nice.

[gocubsgo3822]

Spoot go for it. Worst that can happen is you waste some money on a date. I can say with 100% certainty some of the best relations I have ever had are with a mom. By that point in they life they know what they want and their is SIGNIFICANT less drama.

[hmich176]

Originally Posted by spoot388

i'm probably going to give it a try because i haven't had anything else going for me lately, but i know that down the road there are going to be problems. i guess the best thing is to give it a try and just be up front about how i feel about kids so she knows?

Well, if you know there are going to be problems, there are one of three things you can do.

A) Let it run it's course. Get in, take a spin, and when it stops, you know it's done.

B) Try to be more serious about it, and tell her up front about your feelings on kids. If she doesn't like that, then she'll walk away in all likelihood. If she doesn't, then take it for a spin and see what happens. But...you know there's a greater chance the relationship eventually flames out because of the kids thing.

C) You back off and find greener pastures.

Personally, if you know there's going to be problems, and you just want to get some, then just do it. Don't overthink it. Pick A) and run with it.

[Nick@Night]

Originally Posted by wnderwoman

This is so weird, has there not been any more communication since you and I last talked about it?

No, just a few replies we had where he only addressed the part where I said I was pissed about the chastising e-mail I got for missing my niece's birthday party I wasn't told about. My dad mailed me a few business items a couple of weeks ago (a Triple-A card, 10 dollars cash from my grandma) with a note listing the items and nothing else. I'd take this as a "Clearly we won't be seeing you soon, so here are these things", but he's also done this to me before when things have been fine. He just hates holding on to things that aren't his and forwards them on like it's business mail.

[dmbgodagirl41]

Originally Posted by spoot388

so whats everybody's thoughts and opinions on dating a girl with a kid? she's 28 (i'm 25) and the kid is like 4-ish.


a couple of friends think its a bad idea. add in the fact that i don't want kids myself, and it makes me think its a disaster waiting to happen. but i haven't had the best of luck lately, and this girl seems pretty good otherwise. i feel like i should give it a chance, but ultimately i don't know how it could work if i don't want my own kids, let alone dealing with someone else's.

I say go for it, but just keep an open mind and keep an eye out for any warning signs. I'm sure she's going to to introduce you to the munchkin on day 1 (and if she does, run).
Plus, if you don't want kids of your own, this is actually a good situation...she may be done having kids anyways.

You never know unless you try.

Originally Posted by Nick@Night

I got an e-mail from my dad today that was to my sisters and I telling of the Christmas plans for the day of and the extended family gathering that weekend. Do these fucking people just want to ignore the damning e-mail I sent them mere weeks ago calling them out precisely for this exact shit of them ignoring a problem completely and carrying on like nothing is the matter? I'm completely miffed. Why would they expect me to show up to this when I didn't attend Thanksgiving?

E-Mail Hallmark about that card idea we came up with. It clearly needs to happen for communicating with your family.
(And then come to Maine for Christmas and get black-out drunk with my family.)

[dmbgodagirl41]

Also, what is with Dads and the mail? My dad will call me with "Katie, it's your father, I need to speak with you right away" as a voicemail and when I call him back, he's asking me what I want him to do with a CC offer I got in the mail at my sister's house.

I dunno..throw it out? Jesus, I thought someone died with that VM.

[wnderwoman]

Originally Posted by dmbgodagirl41

Also, what is with Dads and the mail? My dad will call me with "Katie, it's your father, I need to speak with you right away" as a voicemail and when I call him back, he's asking me what I want him to do with a CC offer I got in the mail at my sister's house.

I dunno..throw it out? Jesus, I thought someone died with that VM.

I thought my Dad was the only crazy one. He does this tome all the time.

I finally had to tell both him and my Mother that unless someone is bleeding, don't call me at work!

[gocubsgo3822]

Originally Posted by wnderwoman

The only reason I would be involved with a 25 year old was to (pardon the language) fuck him. I'd have no interest in anything meaningful with someone that age.

Why woudl that be the case? What if he was super awesome and had the sickest dick in the league or was dope as fuck

[dmbgodagirl41]

Originally Posted by wnderwoman

I thought my Dad was the only crazy one. He does this tome all the time.

I finally had to tell both him and my Mother that unless someone is bleeding, don't call me at work!

It must be a generation thing where EVERYTHING IN THE MAIL IS IMPORTANT.

Originally Posted by gocubsgo3822

Why woudl that be the case? What if he was super awesome and had the sickest dick in the league or was dope as fuck

At 25, the likelihood is that he's into things like video games, drinking a ton, and he probably still has 3 roommates.

[gocubsgo3822]

All of those still apply. I am 28. I dont see the issue

[Nick@Night]

Originally Posted by dmbgodagirl41

At 25, the likelihood is that he's into things like video games, drinking a ton, and he probably still has 3 roommates.

Again with the blanket statement. You are doing the all or none approach again. "I know a 25 year old that is like this, therefore all 25 year olds are like this." No.

[wnderwoman]

I don't think all 25ish year olds are not to be taken seriously. I am just saying they are more often than not, in completely different places in their lives.

I'm sure they wouldn't want me seriously, as much as I wouldn't want them.

[Alazais]

27. Have a good job. I don't drink a ton, although I do like to drink.. who doesn't? it's awesome! I play a video game (Hockey) I don't have time for much else. Working all the time is seriously cutting into my quality video game time.

[dmbgodagirl41]

Originally Posted by Nick@Night

Again with the blanket statement. You are doing the all or none approach again. "I know a 25 year old that is like this, therefore all 25 year olds are like this." No.

It's a general statement. Much like how you say all women are crazy. Do I get my panties in a twist because you're making a blanket statement about your experiences with women?
My experiences with 25 year old dudes is that they aren't in the same place as a woman in her mid-30s. I say that the likelihood of a 25 year old dude still having roommates and being a bit immature is good.