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Originally Posted by Speilmen230
Arvada right off I-70W - Kipling exit. How long have you been here?
Ice breaking is super hard. I'd say it is the hardest part of the entire endeavor. The icebreaker makes or breaks the entire encounter. I'm certainly no master of it.
I've made a few guy buddies with my job, but the lady front has been non-existent.
I've tried Tinder and POF but I feel like that scene is "Go to CU-Boulder, looking to live life and explore, come adventure with me!" or "i've played the games, I know the score, not looking for a hook up or a fuckboy. Be a man and have your shit together. Oh, I have a kid too, btw."
I'm not frustrated by any of it, but finding someone seems like an insurmountable task. I'm only four months into this adventure of course. So I really don't know anything about anything.
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i just hit 2 years a couple weeks ago. i've been in aurora the whole time (close to work), but from my travels around the metro area i know that there are some other spots that would be more beneficial to be in, like wash park or cap hill neighborhoods.
breaking the ice is definitely the hardest part because when you're out you really have no reason to be talking to someone other than for your own personal agenda. and girls are always with either other girls so you cant single one out to talk to or with guys and you dont know if one if the boyfriend or not. even if they're not, i still get the feeling that they're on guard for assholes going after their friends. i've always felt "in the spotlight" when trying to talk to someone, like others are paying much more attention than i'd like them to.
i've made a few female friends, but we don't match for a relationship. too many fundamental differences to make it work. and the couple guy friends i have, they're either terrible with women too, so its like the blind leading the blind, or they get a lot of attention and i'd go unnoticed.
theres so many things that can (and typically do) go wrong that i tend to find it easier and less depressing to just not bother trying. keep my expectations non-existent and its hard to be disappointed.