Dating is miserable

[Nick@Night]

The longest relationship I have going is with my car. Almost six years together, and she still lets me inside her daily.

[Courtney77450]

I agree that dating IS miserable! I have been on match.com and POF And it seems to be going ok and then the subject of DMB comes up and they are NEVER on the same page as me! I am a teacher so that I have the summers off and can travel and go to shows.....it is a major deal breaker when guys are not feeling the music and the shows. I really wish there was a place to meet guys that are on the same page, musically!!!!

[SmoothG]

I don't think dmbdate.com is still around, maybe it's time to bring it back?

[Tiduwho]

Originally Posted by Courtney77450

I agree that dating IS miserable! I have been on match.com and POF And it seems to be going ok and then the subject of DMB comes up and they are NEVER on the same page as me! I am a teacher so that I have the summers off and can travel and go to shows.....it is a major deal breaker when guys are not feeling the music and the shows. I really wish there was a place to meet guys that are on the same page, musically!!!!

Hi Courtney. Come join us and read all about it in the DMB Relationship Stories thread aka The Ship. It's quite a backread, but it starts with a bang:

https://antsmarching.org/forum/showthread.php?t=271199

[SmoothG]

Lately my dating attempts have either been swiping right/left and then quickly getting bored or drunkenly attempt to chat up girls at bars. Also, a 5am text to someone who used to be a friends with benefits. She shut that idea out really quickly. Next up, the dennis system.

[Courtney77450]

Thanks!!!!! Now I know what I will be reading all night!!!!! Bored Saturday night problem SOLVED!!

[Roose13]

Originally Posted by Courtney77450

I agree that dating IS miserable! I have been on match.com and POF And it seems to be going ok and then the subject of DMB comes up and they are NEVER on the same page as me! I am a teacher so that I have the summers off and can travel and go to shows.....it is a major deal breaker when guys are not feeling the music and the shows. I really wish there was a place to meet guys that are on the same page, musically!!!!

That shouldn't be the case at all. I was a huge concert goer and my girlfriend wasn't. We barely went to shows this year and I couldn't be any happier in life. Don't let something like shows and concerts immediately turn you off from someone just because they don't like the same music as you right off the bat. You could be passing up on some pretty decent guys.

[tyler3440]

Idk why I'm like this lol

So before school I'm parked just chilling in my car listening to some tunes. It's getting time for class and a girl I knew from last semester parked next to me. Instead of kinda timing to get out of my car when she got out , I instead act like I don't notice her and I purposely wait to get out of the car when she is well gone.

I just didn't want her to think I got out of the car just to talk to her. Because that would be weird right? Even if I thought she was cute and I wanted to talk to her

[rconverse]

Originally Posted by tyler3440

Idk why I'm like this lol

So before school I'm parked just chilling in my car listening to some tunes. It's getting time for class and a girl I knew from last semester parked next to me. Instead of kinda timing to get out of my car when she got out , I instead act like I don't notice her and I purposely wait to get out of the car when she is well gone.

I just didn't want her to think I got out of the car just to talk to her. Because that would be weird right? Even if I thought she was cute and I wanted to talk to her

No, it wouldn't. Get out of your head, man.

[dmbetc]

I'm going for drinks with an ex co-worker tomorrow. We were supposed to go out a few weekends ago but I had to cancel. At that time we were having another girl (co-worker) join us as well. So he asked me if I wanted her to join or have it just be the two of us. I said just the two of us so we could catch up since we hadn't seen each other in awhile.

He responded with "You.Me.<name of bar>. 5pm. It's a date."

Not sure what to think. It's so hard for me to read/react to guys. I have no adversion to dating a guy I'm just so bad at picking up any signals. I'm just going to feel out the night and see how it goes.

[tyler3440]

Originally Posted by dmbetc

I'm going for drinks with an ex co-worker tomorrow. We were supposed to go out a few weekends ago but I had to cancel. At that time we were having another girl (co-worker) join us as well. So he asked me if I wanted her to join or have it just be the two of us. I said just the two of us so we could catch up since we hadn't seen each other in awhile.

He responded with "You.Me.<name of bar>. 5pm. It's a date."

Not sure what to think. It's so hard for me to read/react to guys. I have no adversion to dating a guy I'm just so bad at picking up any signals. I'm just going to feel out the night and see how it goes.

It will be fine Sarah don't worry

[tyler3440]

Originally Posted by rconverse

No, it wouldn't. Get out of your head, man.

It's Mental overthinking. I Had no problem at all talking and flirting with this girl last year. I could have atleast said what's up lol

[bartender_man]

Originally Posted by dmbetc

I'm going for drinks with an ex co-worker tomorrow. We were supposed to go out a few weekends ago but I had to cancel. At that time we were having another girl (co-worker) join us as well. So he asked me if I wanted her to join or have it just be the two of us. I said just the two of us so we could catch up since we hadn't seen each other in awhile.

He responded with "You.Me.<name of bar>. 5pm. It's a date."

Not sure what to think. It's so hard for me to read/react to guys. I have no adversion to dating a guy I'm just so bad at picking up any signals. I'm just going to feel out the night and see how it goes.

Sounds like he could be interested to me.....But impossible to tell without seeing how he interacts around you. Hope you have a fun night either way Bangs

[bartender_man]

Originally Posted by tyler3440

It's Mental overthinking. I Had no problem at all talking and flirting with this girl last year. I could have atleast said what's up lol

Most guys overthink. We all do it.

[dmbetc]

Originally Posted by tyler3440

It will be fine Sarah don't worry

Not worried, just threw me off.

Originally Posted by bartender_man

Sounds like he could be interested to me.....But impossible to tell without seeing how he interacts around you. Hope you have a fun night either way Bangs

Yeah no doubt it'll be a great time. Will report back!

[Roose13]

Originally Posted by dmbetc

I'm going for drinks with an ex co-worker tomorrow. We were supposed to go out a few weekends ago but I had to cancel. At that time we were having another girl (co-worker) join us as well. So he asked me if I wanted her to join or have it just be the two of us. I said just the two of us so we could catch up since we hadn't seen each other in awhile.

He responded with "You.Me.<name of bar>. 5pm. It's a date."

Not sure what to think. It's so hard for me to read/react to guys. I have no adversion to dating a guy I'm just so bad at picking up any signals. I'm just going to feel out the night and see how it goes.

I actually did not know this. When's the last time you dated a guy if you don't mind me prying out of curiosity.

[dmbetc]

Originally Posted by Roose13

I actually did not know this. When's the last time you dated a guy if you don't mind me prying out of curiosity.

I haven't "dated" a guy in a long time. About 6 years, and even that one was a weird situation but probably the closest to dating a guy that I've had (not including silly middle school / high school relationships).

I've slept with more men than women (by a lot). They just always seemed to just be that, hook ups. A lot of guys I'd sleep with multiple times but that's all it was, never was actually taken out on a date. Unsure if that was more on me or them though.

[Roose13]

Originally Posted by dmbetc

I haven't "dated" a guy in a long time. About 6 years, and even that one was a weird situation but probably the closest to dating a guy that I've had (not including silly middle school / high school relationships).

I've slept with more men than women (by a lot). They just always seemed to just be that, hook ups. A lot of guys I'd sleep with multiple times but that's all it was, never was actually taken out on a date. Unsure if that was more on me or them though.

It sounds like you've had more romantic connections with women than men for sure. I hope you have a lot of fun though! It's okay to be nervous if this is a date. You'll know, once the night gets going, how he's feeling as well, but it sounds like he's interested.

[dmbetc]

Originally Posted by Roose13

It sounds like you've had more romantic connections with women than men for sure. I hope you have a lot of fun though! It's okay to be nervous if this is a date. You'll know, once the night gets going, how he's feeling as well, but it sounds like he's interested.

oh that was actually supposed to be yesterday but I actually bailed due to being too tired. We rescheduled for next weekend.

I really think it's just a friendly get together though. I've heard he is dating someone thru some work friends today.

[Roose13]

Originally Posted by dmbetc

oh that was actually supposed to be yesterday but I actually bailed due to being too tired. We rescheduled for next weekend.

I really think it's just a friendly get together though. I've heard he is dating someone thru some work friends today.

Ooops!

Well there goes that then!

[Roose13]

So I bought a diamond.... Going with a ring that's a combination of both my late grandmother's, plus a nice diamond.

Gonna put it on my one grandmother's setting (18c white gold) and then take three tiny diamonds from my other grandmother's ring and add it to the setting.

Gonna bring the ring with me to Tampa at Christmas, show her parents and get their blessing. Depending on how I feel I'm gonna probably do it between Dec. 25-27 when all of us are in Disney.

[cry_minarets458]

Do it at chef mickeys. Bitches love chef mickeys


Congrats man! Exciting times!

[Climb2safety]

I've realized that the telephone is key in a new relationship. Many in the very early phases have fizzled due to texts only.

I've only went out with this new girl I met three times due to travel and kids schedules but we've had several really long conversations on the phone and it's really helped us get to know each other and become friends.

I think I've been hesitant to share too much / get too close to he though but I think I am in the process of saying screw it and just relaxing and being myself. It's a really weird thing to process for me.

[cry_minarets458]

Bitches love telephone calls. But only you know when you're ready to really let go and invest...

[Climb2safety]

Originally Posted by cry_minarets458

Bitches love telephone calls. But only you know when you're ready to really let go and invest...

Well said

[Speilmen230]

So I've got my first date out here in Denver tonight. We met on Bumble a few months back and had good conversation. She went home to NYC for a week in september and then our communication dropped off shortly after she got back to Denver

She sent me a Snapchat out of the blue last night and we got to texting again. She asked me out for drinks tonight after work. We settled on Dave and Busters so we could watch some football (Bengals/Giants on MNF), and play some games and have some fun.

She's really cute and I'm super excited.

[Roose13]

D&B should be a blast. Have fun!

[rconverse]

Originally Posted by Roose13

So I bought a diamond.... Going with a ring that's a combination of both my late grandmother's, plus a nice diamond.

Gonna put it on my one grandmother's setting (18c white gold) and then take three tiny diamonds from my other grandmother's ring and add it to the setting.

Gonna bring the ring with me to Tampa at Christmas, show her parents and get their blessing. Depending on how I feel I'm gonna probably do it between Dec. 25-27 when all of us are in Disney.

Congrats! Can you post a picture of the ring? I'm curious to actually see it.

[dmbetc]

Originally Posted by Roose13

So I bought a diamond.... Going with a ring that's a combination of both my late grandmother's, plus a nice diamond.

Gonna put it on my one grandmother's setting (18c white gold) and then take three tiny diamonds from my other grandmother's ring and add it to the setting.

Gonna bring the ring with me to Tampa at Christmas, show her parents and get their blessing. Depending on how I feel I'm gonna probably do it between Dec. 25-27 when all of us are in Disney.

How'd I miss this??

Originally Posted by Speilmen230

So I've got my first date out here in Denver tonight. We met on Bumble a few months back and had good conversation. She went home to NYC for a week in september and then our communication dropped off shortly after she got back to Denver

She sent me a Snapchat out of the blue last night and we got to texting again. She asked me out for drinks tonight after work. We settled on Dave and Busters so we could watch some football (Bengals/Giants on MNF), and play some games and have some fun.

She's really cute and I'm super excited.

YAY Jesse!!

[Speilmen230]

Got rescheduled on for tomorrow night, same idea. Not super bummed, but I'll definitely be interested to see if it actually happens tomorrow.