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Originally Posted by water_into_wine
Even the bolded is TLDR
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Originally Posted by water_into_wine
Totally worth it though. Classic defcon
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Sorry. I was in the posting zone the other night.
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Originally Posted by rconverse
Oh, Defcon. That's just phenomenol. I don't really have any advice to give you. I can understand why someone wouldn't "lead" with that when starting a new relationship.
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Yeah..."new shit has come to light, man...I've got certain information..." Read further and you will be entertained.
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Originally Posted by water_into_wine
But the weird hillbilly version.
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Normally I'd resent that remark, but I've stopped giving a fuck. Nothing personal...people believe what they believe. I used to believe everyone from Boston had a Southie accent. Not true. Most people see that I'm currently living in SC and make assumptions. But I am part hillbilly, just not the annoying type who wants everyone to know they are like that Family Guy episode. In the truest sense, I've lived in the mountains in Upstate NY for pretty much half my life...so I'm a northern hillbilly.
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Originally Posted by thechad90000
So is this thread basically where we come and tell sad stories and Tony tells us what's wrong with us?
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Seems that way.
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Originally Posted by water_into_wine
No, I'm just the Non-Hillbilly New Groton™, who occasionally tries to post helpful advice but apparently ends up being too blunt or ridiculing.
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Groton...sum up Groton's posts so I get this reference, por favor.
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Originally Posted by thechad90000
When it comes to dating, people need someone to be blunt with them. Otherwise, why ask for advice?
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Exactly. That's why I wrote so much shit
So new info...basically, I backed off a little. Didn't answer her calls, texts, or emails for two, three days...finally sent her an email that I've been really busy (true, just not THAT busy). She sends me a long email back, like a fucking novel. I mean, I just sat down today for the first time and read the first 10 paragraphs. TL/DR is she senses a sudden rift, feels great about "us being best friends or hopefully more <3", etc. I got to "There's something I need to tell you..." which now sits in the other tab on Chrome.
Wait for it.
1) She is currently legally married, not separated, and hasn't talked to her husband in 4 years. She claims she can't file for divorce because he can't be contacted, which isn't true but anyway.
2) She basically came clean on her past, briefly, said she spent a year in prison and 6 months in rehab. She had a heroin addiction. Not her whole rap sheet, but for me, it's a BIG STEP
So, I think I'm just going to give this all time, take my own advice, not rush into it. But I'm still going to chill and be all aloof. I'm a little irritated with that lie and no apology. Because that's what it was. Coming clean helps, but I asked her and she flat out lied or omitted what she'd been doing with about 7 years of her life.