Dating is miserable

[Tiduwho]

Didn't know you needed FB. So how did the ad machine Fuckbook work, similarly?

(I assume that was a real thing)

[cry_minarets458]

I don't know. I'm not a pervert. I use tinder.

[Alazais]

I have gotten three waitresses numbers in the last two weeks. All of them seem to have a boyfriend or are seeing someone. I don't get it. Why give me your number if you are seeing someone?

[dmbetc]

Originally Posted by Alazais

I have gotten three waitresses numbers in the last two weeks. All of them seem to have a boyfriend or are seeing someone. I don't get it. Why give me your number if you are seeing someone?

Because you're Troy and everyone wants a piece of that.

[Nick@Night]

Girl: Do you have your beard all the time?
Me: Yes, pretty much.
Girl: Oh...

[Alazais]

Originally Posted by dmbetc

Because you're Troy and everyone wants a piece of that.

It's true. But when it comes time to spend some time together they get cold feet and bail at the last minute. Like come on...

[sbuzzz]

Originally Posted by Alazais

I have gotten three waitresses numbers in the last two weeks. All of them seem to have a boyfriend or are seeing someone. I don't get it. Why give me your number if you are seeing someone?

Maybe they work for tips.

[unccrombie]

Originally Posted by sbuzzz

Maybe they work for tips.

[hailtopitt]

Originally Posted by Nick@Night

Girl: Do you have your beard all the time?
Me: Yes, pretty much.
Girl: Oh...

[Ashley J]

Originally Posted by Nick@Night

Girl: Do you have your beard all the time?
Me: Yes, pretty much.
Girl: Oh...

On to the next one...

[Roose13]

Originally Posted by Nick@Night

Girl: Do you have your beard all the time?
Me: Yes, pretty much.
Girl: Oh...

Yea if a girl I started talking to told me to get rid of the beard I will get rid of her first. Different story if it's someone I love and am with.

Originally Posted by cry_minarets458

I hear ya roose. All my pics being George clooney aren't helping me out either.

[LadyMadonna68]

Originally Posted by sbuzzz

Maybe they work for tips.

[bamadavefan15]

Originally Posted by sbuzzz

Maybe they work for tips.

Bingo...

[dmbgodagirl41]

Originally Posted by Nick@Night

Girl: Do you have your beard all the time?
Me: Yes, pretty much.
Girl: Oh...

You just disappoint everyone you meet. To be fair, all you would have had to do is show her a picture of you without facial hair, causing her to see your actual face, and she would have understood the need for the beard.


My current dating sitch is fun. Went out with a guy a few times, thought he was into me ()....made some "pencil-in" plans for this past Monday.

I text him Monday with "So, are we still on for tonight?" and that got me some excuse about how he was busy at work and spent the whole weekend drinking, so he wanted to lay low, and asked if he could have a raincheck. When I texted him on Tuesday with something about the raincheck being cashed on Friday....nothing. Haven't heard from him.

Really, guys? Get your shit together. If you're not into me, that's fine, but I feel like after you've gone out with someone a few times, they deserve to at least hear SOME excuse.

[dmbgodagirl41]

Originally Posted by Climb2safety

I have two questions about online dating I was hoping to get more information on.

1. Once you accepted and set a first date with someone, is it still OK to update your profile and/or chat back with other people until the date actually happens?

2. What is the rule if a girl contacts you and here is the situation: my profile indicates I am looking for a girlfriend (not that in reality I would not be happy with a long term relationship too), she has 5 kids and three live with her, and says if you aren't into kids pls move on.....So, I'm probably not into the kid thing to be honest but she contacted me is it OK to hit her back?

1. Yes. Absolutely. You are still on the market and still expected to use said dating site until you both agree that you are exclusive.
2. You can hit her back if you want to. If you're sincerely not interested and you hit her back, you just say something like "hi, thanks for the message, but I'm really not looking to get involved with someone who has kids. Good luck!" or something.
...or you could just ignore it and say nothing.

[SqueeBaBooSquee]

Originally Posted by Alazais

I have gotten three waitresses numbers in the last two weeks. All of them seem to have a boyfriend or are seeing someone. I don't get it. Why give me your number if you are seeing someone?

The same sorta thing happens to me with strippers.

It's like every single one of them just want my dick.

[dmbgodagirl41]

Men are so easy.

Which is why it's fucking annoying that they suck so much. If guys could figure out how to be easy and not be turd burglars, it'd be awesome.

[dmbigeyedphish]

Woah heh

[Alazais]

Originally Posted by SqueeBaBooSquee

The same sorta thing happens to me with strippers.

It's like every single one of them just want my dick.

I would agree. but each time I've gotten free drinks prior to asking. It's what prompted me to ask. If they were just after the money I'd expect they wouldn't give me free stuff.

[Roose13]

Originally Posted by dmbgodagirl41

You just disappoint everyone you meet. To be fair, all you would have had to do is show her a picture of you without facial hair, causing her to see your actual face, and she would have understood the need for the beard.


My current dating sitch is fun. Went out with a guy a few times, thought he was into me ()....made some "pencil-in" plans for this past Monday.

I text him Monday with "So, are we still on for tonight?" and that got me some excuse about how he was busy at work and spent the whole weekend drinking, so he wanted to lay low, and asked if he could have a raincheck. When I texted him on Tuesday with something about the raincheck being cashed on Friday....nothing. Haven't heard from him.

Really, guys? Get your shit together. If you're not into me, that's fine, but I feel like after you've gone out with someone a few times, they deserve to at least hear SOME excuse.

Had it happen to me with girls, KT, so it goes both ways. People today are just indecent and stupid.

[rconverse]

Pretty sure the Internet/texting will be the end to a civilized society. Read an article about Ashley Madison today and the owner said the site brings in $40MM per month. That's outrageous.

[dmbgodagirl41]

Originally Posted by Roose13

Had it happen to me with girls, KT, so it goes both ways. People today are just indecent and stupid.

Yeah, that is true, it does happen to both genders, so it's not just a guys-do-it-to-gals thing.

I feel, though, like there should be a rule that everyone knows. If we go out once and you're not into me, you don't need to tell me that; it's totally fine. But if we hang out a bit, have a blast together, and our genitals have locked in, don't be a freaking coward about it.

Originally Posted by rconverse

Pretty sure the Internet/texting will be the end to a civilized society. Read an article about Ashley Madison today and the owner said the site brings in $40MM per month. That's outrageous.

It doesn't help starting a relationship at all. People aren't willing to put in the effort when it comes to meeting people/trying things out because they can just find another person to date via the internet.

[Climb2safety]

Originally Posted by dmbgodagirl41

Yeah, that is true, it does happen to both genders, so it's not just a guys-do-it-to-gals thing.

I feel, though, like there should be a rule that everyone knows. If we go out once and you're not into me, you don't need to tell me that; it's totally fine. But if we hang out a bit, have a blast together, and our genitals have locked in, don't be a freaking coward about it.



It doesn't help starting a relationship at all. People aren't willing to put in the effort when it comes to meeting people/trying things out because they can just find another person to date via the internet.

To your first point, all this seems obvious and something any decent person would do.

To your second, maybe some people but not me for example. I guess it's about what you are on the internet looking for maybe.

[DoOrDoNotNoTry]

Originally Posted by Alazais

I would agree. but each time I've gotten free drinks prior to asking. It's what prompted me to ask. If they were just after the money I'd expect they wouldn't give me free stuff.

Free drinks encourage patrons to buy more drinks and tip more.

[Roose13]

Originally Posted by dmbgodagirl41

I feel, though, like there should be a rule that everyone knows. If we go out once and you're not into me, you don't need to tell me that; it's totally fine. But if we hang out a bit, have a blast together, and our genitals have locked in, don't be a freaking coward about it.

I 100% agree, but there are a lot of shitty, inconsiderate people out there, who, in the end, are cowards.

[gonz085]

Originally Posted by dmbgodagirl41

I feel, though, like there should be a rule that everyone knows. If we go out once and you're not into me, you don't need to tell me that; it's totally fine. But if we hang out a bit, have a blast together, and our genitals have locked in, don't be a freaking coward about it.

I think what happens a lot is (and this applies to both men and women) but if you have multiple options, and there is a clear #1 and #2 in the pecking order then you hang on to #2 just in case #1 doesn't work out. Once again, it's a shitty thing to do, but I guarantee you many times that's what is going on.

[dmbgodagirl41]

Originally Posted by Climb2safety

To your first point, all this seems obvious and something any decent person would do.

To your second, maybe some people but not me for example. I guess it's about what you are on the internet looking for maybe.

That is true. I mean, I have pulled the ghost, but after the first date. If I've spent any decent amount of time with someone, I at least say something stupid like "so, I'm not really sure if this is going to work out". It's not tough to text that out.

Originally Posted by Roose13

I 100% agree, but there are a lot of shitty, inconsiderate people out there, who, in the end, are cowards.

True. And do we really want to be with those people?

Originally Posted by gonz085

I think what happens a lot is (and this applies to both men and women) but if you have multiple options, and there is a clear #1 and #2 in the pecking order then you hang on to #2 just in case #1 doesn't work out. Once again, it's a shitty thing to do, but I guarantee you many times that's what is going on.

That could be it, but I also think it has to do with the amount of effort the person wants to put in when it comes to starting a new relationship. Starting a new relationship is a serious investment, and some people just don't want to do it unless the potential person is 100% perfect to them.

This most-recent guy lived about an hour away from me, but we found a way to easily hang out a few times, so it wasn't all that big of a deal. That may not even be the reason but who the hell knows? It seems like people give up on potential relationships for any little thing these days.

Whatever, I have a date with another guy tomorrow night and then dinner with someone a friend set me up with (that I've met and is cool) on Tuesday, so YOLO.

[Alazais]

I had a photo shoot done the other day from a lady I used to sleep with and is now just a friend. I have since posted those pictures on the dating sites. My number of messages has blown up.


as a result I am going out on Thursday with a Doctor. This is some big league shit right here. Not gonna lie, I'm a little nervous.

[Ashley J]

Originally Posted by Alazais

I had a photo shoot done the other day from a lady I used to sleep with and is now just a friend. I have since posted those pictures on the dating sites. My number of messages has blown up.


as a result I am going out on Thursday with a Doctor. This is some big league shit right here. Not gonna lie, I'm a little nervous.

So... pics or gtfo.

[smokew11]

Originally Posted by sbuzzz

Maybe they work for tips.

Originally Posted by Ashley J

So... pics or gtfo.

yeah seriously, i want to see this Dr. is she like a Doctor of French Literature, or just a boring neurosurgeon? And is she Nepalese or Croatian?