Me and the new female are officially "dating". She keeps saying how she never dives into a relationship like this. But hey, things are going good.
The one negative that came up last night I think has no been resolved already. Basically, here's the deal: the one guy she seriously dated (over 1 year) and her broke up about 3 years ago. However, after graduation this past May, they started hanging out after not talking for 3 years and had a month long "fling". Since then, he moved to California, and she moved on.
However, he was supposed to be coming home for the holidays, and before she met me, she had made plans with him to go to the art museum in Milwaukee the 28th, and then back to her place where she was going to cook dinner and no feelings "yeah" was probably going to commence.
She told me about all this last night, and about how she wanted to cancel now since meeting me, but she seemed a little conflicted. She has that all too familiar girl problem of being "too nice". Leaving the door open. Can't just put it out there. So she was going to say "it's not a good day" and cancel on him. Now, last night I didn't make too big a deal of it, even though I was in my head thinking and wondering "okay...umm...what the heck" for a bit. My friend Lisa agreed it was a bit sketchy, and that if she was seeing me, well, then she should TELL other guys she's seeing someone. Rather than tiptoe around it and keep them thinking that they can get in her pants another day.
Tonight though, I came out and laid it out there that I don't deal with ex's and she completely shifted gears...and then texted him that she was seeing someone. After being momentarily conflicted (I could see the "I have two paths laid out in front of me, the Old Flame or the New Irresistible Too-Good-To-Be-True guy, and I'm about to pick one" look on her face), she was happy and all over me the rest of the night.