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Originally Posted by Bostonsux013
I'm sure this question has been raised many times in this thread, but I wanted to ask anyway. I have been dating a girl for 2 weeks and she is really cool and very polite in almost every aspect. However, this past weekend we went out together as a couple for the first time. I took her to dinner on Friday and then for drinks afterwards and we did the same on Saturday. I fully expected to pay for everything being the guy, but also appreciate when the girl offers to pay and she hadn't. All in all I spent something like $250 on us in just food and drinks this weekend and I'm nervous because I am young, just starting a new career, and I know that I cannot afford to keep paying for everything. She has no idea how much money I make and I just don't want her to get comfortable to the idea that I will be paying for everything. She has a decent job and I am willing to bet she makes around the same amount as I do.
I am not posting this to complain, in fact, I was happy to pay for everything and I would have refused her if she had offered to pay. My question is, what should my expectations be going forward? I fully expect to pay more than her on dates, but how long, if at all, should I wait before bringing anything up to her?
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I have experience here. I went out with a girl that didn't reach for her credit card once over two months.
The best relationships I've had though were with girls self aware enough to offer though so, possible red flag this would be for me, but it's early.
I would
1. Let her propose the next outing and see if she treats.
2. If she doesn't, be realistic with what you can afford and plan some cheaper dates (12 pack, blanket, snacks, music, frisbee in the park), or Netflix and chill.
3. Be open to discussing it with her.