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Originally Posted by Climb2safety
This is how I organized my profile. It's obviously for a site like POF or match.
For bumble I cut it down to my interests and my character attributes.
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thank for this
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Originally Posted by Bostonsux013
Hey man, I had a long draught where I went on 0 dates for 4 years until I recently met the girl i'm with now. I had 0 confidence. Let me ask you a question?
Do you have a mutual friend with the girl you like that you trust telling anything to?
If so, ask this friend if maybe he would do some digging around to see if she may be interested in you. Maybe she will tell your mutual friend that she has similar feelings for you. Maybe she will tell your mutual friend that she doesn't have feelings for you. Maybe the mutual friend will get a bad read and leave you still wondering. Either way, it can't hurt.
I liked the girl I was with now but thought (and still think) she's out of my league as far as looks go. I would've never had the guts to start talking to her if my close friend didn't suggest that I go for it. Today I feel like the lack of confidence I had was unwarranted because I can see that she likes me for reasons beyond looks.
Anyway, if you do have a mutual friend, enlist their help. I can tell you that because of it I now am with a beautiful, awesome person and whoever mentioned earlier how confidence can change on a dime is on point. Strangely, now that I have someone to call my own, I have great confidence in social situations where I was a bit timid and insecure before we started hanging out.
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absolutely true. its amazing how something so little can set you off one way or the other. i just wish more things happened to boost mine than pull it down.
just getting that girls number completely changed my mood the rest of the day, but now that she wont talk to me and never gave me a chance to go out on that date she originally said yes to my confidence is back to hovering somewhere around my ankles.
we do have a mutual friend at work. maybe i'll talk your advice and try that route to at least get some sort of an answer.