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Old 04-04-2017, 09:20 AM   #48241
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People tend to knock online dating, easy to do until you realize you are going to weddings of people who are incredibly happy who met online.


Tyler - air on the side of "seeing if you would want to hang out and ... (have an idea or plan in mind)" as opposed to "hi, will you go out with me?". Keep it casual and fun
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    People tend to knock online dating, easy to do until you realize you are going to weddings of people who are incredibly happy who met online.


    Tyler - air on the side of "seeing if you would want to hang out and ... (have an idea or plan in mind)" as opposed to "hi, will you go out with me?". Keep it casual and fun
    You don't think since he thinks he may be in the friend zone he should be more direct and make it clear it's a date and he wants to jump her bones?

    If he askes her just to hang out she like might very well bring another dood.
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    Old 04-04-2017, 09:29 AM   #48243
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    No, don't text her. Just make sure you run into her and it's just you and her. And make sure you are showerd and look like a true playa. No coming straight from basketball.
    How am I going to run into her if I don't know what time she is coming to school today? Hell I don't even know where exactly at school she wil be. All I know is she is going to tutoring

    I'm not going to ask her out in a text. Just going to say I need to talk....
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    How am I going to run into her if I don't know what time she is coming to school today? Hell I don't even know where exactly at school she wil be. All I know is she is going to tutoring

    I'm not going to ask her out in a text. Just going to say I need to talk....
    Hide in the bushes then pop out when she walks by. Bring some snacks.
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    Old 04-04-2017, 09:35 AM   #48245
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    Hide in the bushes then pop out when she walks by. Bring some snacks.


    Yes, the stalker approach
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    You don't think since he thinks he may be in the friend zone he should be more direct and make it clear it's a date and he wants to jump her bones?

    If he askes her just to hang out she like might very well bring another dood.

    Eh, I would bring up hanging out one on one and see if she is picking up on being more than friends through spending time together but maybe other Ants have a different thought on it.
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    Old 04-04-2017, 09:41 AM   #48247
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    Yes, the stalker approach

    Jump out and corner her while playing Crash Into Me through headphones
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    Old 04-04-2017, 09:43 AM   #48248
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    Jump out and corner her while playing Crash Into Me through headphones
    Make sure to talk in DMB code - ask if she'll be your Tennessee lamb.
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    Just PM her to get sum.

    All kidding aside, don't you fucking dare text her saying "we need to talk" because that gives her a chance to think about what the possibilities are and sour on saying yes to a date. Just be patient Tyler. Wait until you guys are together at school and not around people or in a situation where she'd feel like being put on the spot. And just be honest.
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    Old 04-04-2017, 09:51 AM   #48250
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    "We need to talk"

    ::attaches dick pic::

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    Old 04-04-2017, 10:59 AM   #48251
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    Just PM her to get sum.

    All kidding aside, don't you fucking dare text her saying "we need to talk" because that gives her a chance to think about what the possibilities are and sour on saying yes to a date. Just be patient Tyler. Wait until you guys are together at school and not around people or in a situation where she'd feel like being put on the spot. And just be honest.
    Yep thanks. I was just anxious and my stomach felt like it was in my throat. Idk if it was the nerves or what? Oh well, I can wait until Thursday. Really wanted to get it over with but oh well.
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    Old 04-04-2017, 04:32 PM   #48252
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    People tend to knock online dating, easy to do until you realize you are going to weddings of people who are incredibly happy who met online.


    Tyler - air on the side of "seeing if you would want to hang out and ... (have an idea or plan in mind)" as opposed to "hi, will you go out with me?". Keep it casual and fun
    I would if this was a girl that I didn't really know well.
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    Old 04-04-2017, 11:49 PM   #48253
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    This is how I organized my profile. It's obviously for a site like POF or match.

    For bumble I cut it down to my interests and my character attributes.
    thank for this


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    Hey man, I had a long draught where I went on 0 dates for 4 years until I recently met the girl i'm with now. I had 0 confidence. Let me ask you a question?

    Do you have a mutual friend with the girl you like that you trust telling anything to?

    If so, ask this friend if maybe he would do some digging around to see if she may be interested in you. Maybe she will tell your mutual friend that she has similar feelings for you. Maybe she will tell your mutual friend that she doesn't have feelings for you. Maybe the mutual friend will get a bad read and leave you still wondering. Either way, it can't hurt.

    I liked the girl I was with now but thought (and still think) she's out of my league as far as looks go. I would've never had the guts to start talking to her if my close friend didn't suggest that I go for it. Today I feel like the lack of confidence I had was unwarranted because I can see that she likes me for reasons beyond looks.

    Anyway, if you do have a mutual friend, enlist their help. I can tell you that because of it I now am with a beautiful, awesome person and whoever mentioned earlier how confidence can change on a dime is on point. Strangely, now that I have someone to call my own, I have great confidence in social situations where I was a bit timid and insecure before we started hanging out.
    absolutely true. its amazing how something so little can set you off one way or the other. i just wish more things happened to boost mine than pull it down.

    just getting that girls number completely changed my mood the rest of the day, but now that she wont talk to me and never gave me a chance to go out on that date she originally said yes to my confidence is back to hovering somewhere around my ankles.

    we do have a mutual friend at work. maybe i'll talk your advice and try that route to at least get some sort of an answer.
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    People tend to knock online dating, easy to do until you realize you are going to weddings of people who are incredibly happy who met online.


    Tyler - air on the side of "seeing if you would want to hang out and ... (have an idea or plan in mind)" as opposed to "hi, will you go out with me?". Keep it casual and fun
    We met on Match and have been together over 4 years.
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    Old 04-05-2017, 08:45 PM   #48255
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    The girl I'm about to ask out just texted me that she may skip tomorrow. You have got to be shitting me right?

    I mean Im really anxious about asking her out. I'm getting really impatient. damn!
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    Update: I think she's coming to school tomorrow.

    Tomorrow will be the real deal. Going to have as much cofedence as Roi on those seek up intros.


    Haha what a terrible analogy. Really just posted this post out of boredom
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    Update: I think she's coming to school tomorrow.

    Tomorrow will be the real deal. Going to have as much cofedence as Roi on those seek up intros.


    Haha what a terrible analogy. Really just posted this post out of boredom
    Good Luck today, Tyler!
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    Good Luck today, Tyler!
    Thanks! Appreciate it
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    Just wanted to update on my situation. Last night I had to work my night job after a long day at work and she paid for and dropped off dinner for me. It may have only cost her $10 but I am fully confident she is not a gold digger. I probably got a bit too worried that she might have been after our first date but now that fear has completely gone away.
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    Gold digger is probably not the best word since I'm working two jobs lol
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    Well asked her out. It went pretty much now I expect it to go. I asked her out and she said she would but she didn't want it to ruin our friendship. She seemed pretty surprised when I told her. Probably should have asked much longer ago. Like in HS. Oh well. Listened to terrapin station on the way home and It made me feel better. Not that I feel bad I guess it's more of a little bit of disappointment.
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    Well asked her out. It went pretty much now I expect it to go. I asked her out and she said she would but she didn't want it to ruin our friendship. She seemed pretty surprised when I told her. Probably should have asked much longer ago. Like in HS. Oh well. Listened to terrapin station on the way home and It made me feel better. Not that I feel bad I guess it's more of a little bit of disappointment.
    Good for you. So where are you going to take her? Ignore that friends talk too dude, hooking up just makes your current friendship better.
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    Good for you. So where are you going to take her? Ignore that friends talk too dude, hooking up just makes your current friendship better.
    I'm not going to take her anywhere. She rejected me haha.

    And she definitely doesn't want to hook up
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    I'm not going to take her anywhere. She rejected me haha.

    And she definitely doesn't want to hook up
    Well then, fuckit. Her loss and now you can move on. You gave it a shot and who knows, maybe she changes her mind.
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    Well then, fuckit. Her loss and now you can move on. You gave it a shot and who knows, maybe she changes her mind.
    Yeah I still don't mind being friends with her. Maybe it was kinda shocking for her but yeah I'm not counting on her changing her mind. Oh well moving on to the next chick whoever that will be.

    After I asked her out she said I don't want to ruin our friendship is that ok? I was like yeah I understand. Then I blurted out "yeah I like you" and she was like I like you too. Idk if I should have said that lol. Then I was kinda awkward and I was like bye see you next week and started walking off. Then I didn't want to make her think I was disappointed or something and I came back and talked to her. I was like yeah I'm excited for the Dave show next month.. it's almost here blah blah blah. The last part of the conversation wasn't awkward at all so whatever...
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    Dating is a bit overcooked for me ;d I ever really like going on dates :P
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    Yeah I still don't mind being friends with her. Maybe it was kinda shocking for her but yeah I'm not counting on her changing her mind. Oh well moving on to the next chick whoever that will be.

    After I asked her out she said I don't want to ruin our friendship is that ok? I was like yeah I understand. Then I blurted out "yeah I like you" and she was like I like you too. Idk if I should have said that lol. Then I was kinda awkward and I was like bye see you next week and started walking off. Then I didn't want to make her think I was disappointed or something and I came back and talked to her. I was like yeah I'm excited for the Dave show next month.. it's almost here blah blah blah. The last part of the conversation wasn't awkward at all so whatever...
    It's all part of the journey Tyler and you need to pass every stop to get to your destination.

    When you do meet some special it will all be worth it.
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    Yeah I still don't mind being friends with her. Maybe it was kinda shocking for her but yeah I'm not counting on her changing her mind. Oh well moving on to the next chick whoever that will be.

    Good for you Tyler, you put yourself out there and now moving forward
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    It's all part of the journey Tyler and you need to pass every stop to get to your destination.

    When you do meet some special it will all be worth it.
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    Good for you Tyler, you put yourself out there and now moving forward
    Thank y'all!

    I had a pretty fun day today. But as I lay in my bed now I'm starting to get a bit disappointed and even a little bit sad about the outcome. I know more girls will come and all but I did really like this girl you know....
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    Also do girls typically tell their friends all about stuff like this? I think they do.
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