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Old 11-07-2004, 05:32 PM   #1
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I'm 13, and this is my definition of love...

Love is a strong unconditional benevolence, a will to strive to do anything you can to make sure this other person is always happy, and an extreme joy when you are with this person or talking to this person.

If the above is true, why are my girlfriend's parents not letting us talk to each other everyday or go on dates?

By the way, my girlfriend's dad heard her say "I love you" to me over the phone and he got mad and told her we can't talk to each other alot anymore.

I know 13 year olds can be in love, but I need other people's input on this. I'm furshimmelled :
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    Re: I'm 13, and this is my definition of love...

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    Love is a strong unconditional benevolence, a will to strive to do anything you can to make sure this other person is always happy, and an extreme joy when you are with this person or talking to this person.

    If the above is true, why are my girlfriend's parents not letting us talk to each other everyday or go on dates?

    By the way, my girlfriend's dad heard her say "I love you" to me over the phone and he got mad and told her we can't talk to each other alot anymore.

    I know 13 year olds can be in love, but I need other people's input on this. I'm furshimmelled :

    this is probably because you're in 8th grade. Being a big brother, I can understand why they don't want you guys talking every day or going on dates. You don't love her, you're just "in like" with her, and have probably watched too many dramas about how kids can fall in love...believe me, you don't know love yet.

    Also, she being 13, and you being 13, you don't really need to be with each other everyday. You're in 8th grade. Remember that. When you're older, you'll understand.
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    this is probably because you're in 8th grade. Being a big brother, I can understand why they don't want you guys talking every day or going on dates. You don't love her, you're just "in like" with her, and have probably watched too many dramas about how kids can fall in love...believe me, you don't know love yet.

    Also, she being 13, and you being 13, you don't really need to be with each other everyday. You're in 8th grade. Remember that. When you're older, you'll understand.


    You will look back on this in many years and laugh.
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    You will look back on this in many years and laugh.
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    You will look back on this in many years and laugh.
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    btw, trying to define love is like trying to breath in space. that's the best part...it's just there.
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    Old 11-07-2004, 05:41 PM   #6
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    Re: I'm 13, and this is my definition of love...

    Parents are silly sometimes. First off quit worrying. Period. You're 13 leave the worrying strength for later on in life when you're broke and sad. Yeah you think you're in love with someone that's good. Pursue that but don't be surprised if things go wrong. That's how we learn. Loving someone is no problem. How far you take that love and how well you can do without it can be the problem. But ALWAYS listen to your parents. Life can just be exhausting if you don't get along and respect them. Live and learn!
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    Old 11-07-2004, 05:41 PM   #7
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    Old 11-07-2004, 05:42 PM   #8
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    Re: I'm 13, and this is my definition of love...

    Because you're only 13 her parents (father especially...coming straight from the daddy's girl of all daddy's girls) are still protective of her. You may think you love each other, but the reason they don't want you going out on dates and saying I love you to one another is because they know that it probably isn't real love, and that you both have plenty of time to worry about such things. They probably worry about the two of you moving too fast and getting into things you're not ready for yet. I know it's hard to accept but her parents really do know better...love should not be so high on your list of priorities at such a young age.
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    Old 11-07-2004, 05:42 PM   #9
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    Re: I'm 13, and this is my definition of love...

    I know how hard it is when your parents or your girlfriends parents get involved and take control but it is true you are 13.
    I am not denying your feelings for this girl I'm sure you have them, this is the first of many. You don't want to find the love of your life until you have had some more experiences. How can you know this is love until you know exactly what isn't love and what heartbreak is.
    Back off, slow down, enjoy your teen years there will be time for this later in life - it won't pass you by I promise.

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    Old 11-07-2004, 05:44 PM   #10
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    Old 11-07-2004, 05:44 PM   #11
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    Re: I'm 13, and this is my definition of love...

    Try not to let her parents get you down...that's just the way many parents feel. They don't want their 13-year old sons or daughters going on dates. I know a lot of parents that won't let their son or daughter go on dates until they're 16, let alone 13.
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    Old 11-07-2004, 05:48 PM   #12
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    Re: I'm 13, and this is my definition of love...

    Thanks everyone...

    I have a question for those who have experienced more than I...what is your definition of love?
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    Old 11-07-2004, 05:52 PM   #13
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    Thanks everyone...

    I have a question for those who have experienced more than I...what is your definition of love?
    It's hard to define a feeling. It's more something you know in your gut and believe me you know.
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    hahahahahhaha...


    BAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHHHAHAHAHA

    13? love?


    hahahahhahahahah


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    Old 11-07-2004, 05:55 PM   #15
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    Re: I'm 13, and this is my definition of love...

    So there are some that agree that 13 year olds can be in love?

    I just wish her parents knew that...It's torture to keep people who are in love away from each other no matter what age....now I have a taste of it
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    Old 11-07-2004, 05:57 PM   #16
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    Thanks everyone...

    I have a question for those who have experienced more than I...what is your definition of love?
    I guess it's hard to say. I know for me it was a progress when I realized I was over my infatuation. It only came after years of being together and then being seperated for a while. When I finally got used to the idea of her being around constantly and realizing our love was going to be built over the course of time, and not from some instant epiphany. Love is something that binds two people together, going much further than thinking they're attractive, have a wonderful personality, etc. I had plenty of girlfriends who I thought were beautiful with great personalities. Those aren't difficult to find. It's finding that one that you know you can live with day after day after day...Not to make it seem like love bites, but I don't think there's this instant wonderful feeling you get.
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    i need help, i think i asked a girl out online. i was really drunk. i know this girl though school and talk to her evernow and then, but im not expecialy attracted to her. i said we shoul hang out someitme and she aksed me avout another firedn of mine who is a girl but i really don;'t liek her for a lor of reasons. what do u think, im still drunk when i posted this i hope it is cleart bnut i really nedd help, did i make an ass out of myseldf or not? btw she was dreunk or high she siad.
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    Re: I'm 13, and this is my definition of love...

    No, I do not not think a 13 year old could be in love. Sorry I just don't think you could have that strong feelings for someone else because you hardly know your own self.

    I don't doubt that you like her, but just because she is the first person you have cared for in that sort of way doesn't mean that it is love.
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    Hmmm, by the time you're in high school you probably wont even remember her name.
    Be 13.
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    Old 11-07-2004, 06:02 PM   #19
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    Oh yeah...I'm in 9th grade...cheers ...though i may disagree with some...I appreciate it
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    Oh yeah...I'm in 9th grade...cheers ...though i may disagree with some...I appreciate it
    Not to grind this down even more. Just worry about having fun now. You'll go through so many other girls before you find the right one, you might not even remember her one day.
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    i need help, i think i asked a girl out online. i was really drunk. i know this girl though school and talk to her evernow and then, but im not expecialy attracted to her. i said we shoul hang out someitme and she aksed me avout another firedn of mine who is a girl but i really don;'t liek her for a lor of reasons. what do u think, im still drunk when i posted this i hope it is cleart bnut i really nedd help, did i make an ass out of myseldf or not? btw she was dreunk or high she siad.
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    I think NotDancingAnts said it best; there is no true definition for love. Love means and is so much to each person differently. Love just...is.
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    Old 11-07-2004, 06:06 PM   #22
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    Re: I'm 13, and this is my definition of love...

    To the people that say "just have fun dont worry": We're not breaking up ...we're just heavily restricted right now
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    My theory of love is that you can fall in love multiple times but since people are constantly changing throught their lives that one love won't always be around. You love different parts of different people and people change. That's the way I look at it.
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    A 13 year old talking about love is like Siegfield and Roy talking about a woman's vagina. They may have heard about it, but have no idea what it really is.
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    A 13 year old talking about love is like Siegfield and Roy talking about a woman's vagina. They may have heard about it, but have no idea what it really is.
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    That was funny but c'mon I cant ask my parents about it...I need input from other big people and I wanna know if my definition was anywhere close to how you ppl feel about your S.O.
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    A 13 year old talking about love is like Siegfield and Roy talking about a woman's vagina. They may have heard about it, but have no idea what it really is.
    exactly. sticking your dong between two pillows and pushing in and out isn't really sex... :
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    That was funny but c'mon I cant ask my parents about it...I need input from other big people and I wanna know if my definition was anywhere close to how you ppl feel about your S.O.
    well, as has been stated, you can't define love. When I was in 8th grade...and 9th grade, there was this one girl who I was convinced I was in love with. 5 years later, I realize it was just a crush/ "in like". it's life, and I don't doubt that you have feelings for her, but honestly, you're taking life too seriously for a 13 year old. I promise you, you will regret it if you start thinking like this with every girl you date. It's a horrible road to go down, and, if you won't listen to any parental units, take it from me: I wasted 9th-11th grade in love with this one girl, and when I finally dated her, she was NOTHING like I thought. I thought I was in love, but had really built up a mental "perfect woman", to which she couldn't live up to.

    And, with you guys being "restricted"....well, absense makes the heart grow fonder. And sometimes, makes you fall "in love"...
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    That was funny but c'mon I cant ask my parents about it...I need input from other big people and I wanna know if my definition was anywhere close to how you ppl feel about your S.O.
    your parents don't want you two obsessing over each other right now because you guys are not emotionally ready for a romantic relationship. plus, they're probably worried that you guys are going to start having sex, and 13 is definetly too young for a sexual relationship.

    do yourself a favor and don't worry about girls right now, sweetie. Focus on school, friends and fun. Relationships can weigh you down.
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    Old 11-07-2004, 06:32 PM   #30
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    Re: I'm 13, and this is my definition of love...

    I agree with the abscence growing fonder 100%...

    And I know it's a parents fear but sex is the last thing on my mind...and i dunno how lol

    All I wanna do is hang out w/ her and see her smile and help her with her life and all this other stuff that is unexplainable
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