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Originally Posted by laura22
my friend is upset that i didn't make her MOH, after i was a co-MOH for her this october. she has 2 sisters but she asked me and 1 of her sisters to be the MOHs
a few weeks ago i took her out to lunch when i first "asked" her to be a bridesmaid, and she was really cool, understanding, and excited about it. she called me a week later to tell me she was actually hurt and upset, and not to be surprised if she acts "weird" around me. "i'm not mad, i'm just processing". oh and, "you should have told me at some point during my wedding process that you wouldn't be asking me to be MOH had the roles been reversed"
am i being insensitive or is this insanely petty and ridiculous?
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It’s petty and ridiculous, but to her it hurts. And that’s valid to her.
You did nothing wrong. You don’t have to have people in the same roles, or even in your wedding party at all just because of what you were in theirs.
And you had zero obligation to point that out to her during her planning process or even think that far ahead.
It’s a situation where you did absolutely nothing wrong, but you still have a friend that is hurt by it based on her expectations. I would just talk to her and explain that she’s incredibly important to you & you didn’t want to make her seem anything less just because she isn’t a MOH. And give her some time.
Hopefully, she’ll realize she’s being silly.
But weddings and funerals / deaths seem to bring out the worst in some people.
Honestly, the woman I probably consider my closest friend today couldn’t even come to my wedding (15 years ago yesterday).