Safe sex

[Seanieb]

Originally Posted by cpxc.

i haven't worn a condom since 11th grade, been with 12 girls since then and i'm fine.

hpv ftw!

[DIDriveOut2SPAC]

Originally Posted by cpxc.

I haven't worn a condom since 11th grade, been with 12 girls since then and I'm fine.

You must have trouble seeing your dick.

[Lude99]

Originally Posted by dmbman32

Girlfriend of 1 year....I rubber up AND she's on the pill.

The bad thing about rubbers are, from what I'm told: Once they're off, they'll never go back on. I've never had sex without one, so I wouldn't know. But what I DO know is, if we had sex without one and it was as good as advertised, I wouldn't put them back on. And not putting them back on leads to......yeah......

Stick with the condom. Sex with no condom is much better.

[peetee32]

Originally Posted by jiggajm18

for the condom-users, what's your favorite?

Trojan Lambskin. seriously.

they don't protect against STD though. i use them with my wife, so the STD thing is a non-issue. its the closest thing to using nothing...and we've tried ALL brands.

they are like $4 a piece...se when we use 'em...we make it count.

and i suggest opening the package and "orienting" the condom correctly before you get into it with your other. they are a little difficult to open and you can't tell which way they go as easy as other latex condoms...but its worth it.

[neumdogg]

Im not sure why he won't wear a condom.

[cpxc.]

Originally Posted by Seanieb

hpv ftw!

nah, I got tested every year.

[littleyogini]

my husband hasn't worn a condom for i don't know, 14 years. as soon as we were tested and i got on the pill we were done with that.

BUT-i wouldn't have sex with a guy without one, before my husband came along and if things ever happen and we are no longer together. work with children born HIV positive and see how it affects everyone involved...you would be a little careful too!

[MPizzle06]

Yes I always use protection. Really stupid not too

[cpxc.]

dental dams

[DMBBeav]

Originally Posted by PinkFloydDudi

"Always wear a condom"...thats good advice for someone in a committed relationship?

So is "be abstinent" I guess.


Let me give HIM some advice. People cheat when they live together. Women lie ALL the time even when they live with their significant others.

Heres more advice: Condoms and other forms of birth control are not 100% effective. So if you have sex at ALL...you should be comfortable with the fact that you could (at ANY time) get an STD, get pregnant, etc...

So even if you are married, and use condoms EVERY time you have sex...you should be comfortable knowing that there is a chance you can get the same STD the guy down the street got after banging 50 chicks with no protection at all.

good advice? Sure. Necessary? Absolutely not.

So you are going to go to extremes on the subject? Of course if I walk out of the house a car could be barreling down the road, jump the sidewalk and crush me to my death. However, I am more likely to get hit by a car if I cross a busy street in the middle of 4 lane traffic.

The fact of the matter is I am just giving good advice. I could go into details but lets just say it is a slippery slope(I know from personal experience). You start by having condomless sex with a girlfriend of two years who you trust, next you are doing it with a girl you have only knows for a few months and next thing you know you are doing it on a one night stand.

This story is not uncommon. Many people justify any of the above with an excuse....because all you want is an excuse in the moment to have condomless sex. I got some good advice myself and said, you know what, I"m lucky I didn't knock anyone up or get an STD, I think I'm going to wrap it up from here on out, everytime. Since this time, I've had moments(more than seem reasonable) when you are with a girl and she asks for the condomless sex or you don't have a condom on you and she begins the "lets just do it but promise, you know, you don't have STDs" talk. This happens more often than reasonable.

So I'm saying wrap your shit up.

If the girlfriend angle upsets you, think about your own girlfriend history. Ok, you did that? Now think about how many of those girlfriends you realize afterwards were not the apple of your eye. Ever been with a girl for sometime, ended the relationship, and then a few years later find out she got pregnant unexpectedly? That for fucking sure could have been you.

As far as the pills go, girls(god bless em) don't always take it, some of them get so physically ill from it and some get a little older and, you know what, don't really mind that much if they actually do get pregnant.

There is a pilot with Jenna Elfman being made as we speak called "Accidentally on Purpose" with that as the basis of the story. So don't tell me it never happens.

So, my advice...wrap it up, everytime. Sorry it offends you to point out the obvious.

Edit: Sorry for grammatical and spelling errors, I don't back-read on long posts.

[zepfan1234]

Originally Posted by DMBBeav

So,as you only see her 8 times a month, you don't know whether or not she uses the pill everyday....or anything else she is doing...right?

If you don't use a condom, you need to be comfortable with the consequences of a pregnancy, whether or not your girlfriend says she is using the pill. Girls mess up, flat out lie and some actually do want to get pregnant(there are many benefits for a girl if she wants a child to trick you into it).

If you have a long-distance relationship, you have to be realistic that people do cheat on one another in such situations and, as a result, also be comfortable with the consequences of getting an STD.

You say none of the above can or will happen to you until it does.

WTF is your deal? Who said anything about cheating? And it's not too long distance only about 40 min and we both go to school so we only see each other on the weekend, but anyway thanks for your professional opinion.

[EMcG]

i haven't worn a condom since 'nam

[giantsfan]

Query: Since condoms are only 97% (approx.) effective, does that not mean for you quantity people out there who use condoms that as you approach 50 bangs, it is a mathematical probability that one of those occurrences is going to result in a defective condom and possibly consequences?

[jenben41]

Originally Posted by sunshower

(NuvaRing).

My very favorite invention in the history of inventions.

Originally Posted by javofuc

Neither condoms nor the pill are 100% effective. One fool-proof route to go would be to bottle up your seed, freeze it and then get a vasectomy. I don't know if I'd have the balls to do that though.

My friend was born a year after her father had a vasectomy (and it's his).

Originally Posted by cpxc.

nah, I got tested every year.

I can't tell if you're joking, but you do know there is currently no HPV test for men, right? So you could (and probably do) have it and are passing it on to women. Cervical cancer, FTL. Not that you would know if you have it as men do not have symptoms unless it's a particular strain...

[zepfan1234]

Originally Posted by twk13

Query: Since condoms are only 97% (approx.) effective, does that not mean for you quantity people out there who use condoms that as you approach 50 bangs, it is a mathematical probability that one of those occurrences is going to result in a defective condom and possibly consequences?

The same statistics say that one in three has an STD. My roommate used to joke since six of us lived in a room, that two of us had an STD. I know I didn't.

[jas230314]

lol dental dams... I use trojan magnums or lifestyles. (no joke) Theres something about normal trojans where they always broke when I used them, too tight :P

[zepfan1234]

Originally Posted by jenben41

My very favorite invention in the history of inventions.

I used to work in a pharmacy, and whenever I'd ring these out I'd always wonder if the guy poked it.

[javofuc]

Originally Posted by jenben41

My very favorite invention in the history of inventions.

My friend was born a year after her father had a vasectomy (and it's his).


I can't tell if you're joking, but you do know there is currently no HPV test for men, right? So you could (and probably do) have it and are passing it on to women. Cervical cancer, FTL. Not that you would know if you have it as men do not have symptoms unless it's a particular strain...

They say there is like a 3-10 month period after the operation when you can still impregnate someone. You're friend is very lucky to have been conceived.

[giantsfan]

Originally Posted by zepfan1234

The same statistics say that one in three has an STD. My roommate used to joke since six of us lived in a room, that two of us had an STD. I know I didn't.

And then there were 5...

[zepfan1234]

Originally Posted by twk13

And then there were 5...

Lol true. And my roommate slept with dirty girls. We'd always joke about getting the couch cleaned after one sat on it.

[jenben41]

Originally Posted by zepfan1234

I used to work in a pharmacy, and whenever I'd ring these out I'd always wonder if the guy poked it.

It happens. Not a lot, but it does. Not a big deal.

Nice pun, btw.

[giantsfan]

Originally Posted by zepfan1234

Lol true. And my roommate slept with dirty girls. We'd always joke about getting the couch cleaned after one sat on it.

I would've also made sure that I used a different box of kleenex

[javofuc]

Originally Posted by PhishSticks40

The pill along with a bit of trust can go miles.

Trust is less reliable than any form of birth control.

[TrippingBrando]

Originally Posted by dotpsd

Yup, best to be safe right? Sex without one feels a lot better tho. The first time I did it w/ my current girl we didn't have any and we did it for a little while and I pulled out. I was drunk so was she, we knew her for 2 weeks and she was hot and ready. It's kinda hard when she's ready to go.

first bolded part - threesome?

second bold part -

[DMBBeav]

Originally Posted by zepfan1234

WTF is your deal? Who said anything about cheating? And it's not too long distance only about 40 min and we both go to school so we only see each other on the weekend, but anyway thanks for your professional opinion.

You are what, 21(you mention school)? Younger(you didn't just mention graduating soon, so I'm going to say you aren't a senior)?

I'm saying people cheat, and most commonly when they go to separate colleges(surely you know personally someone at your own college who is cheating on their gf/bf who goes to another school)?

I'm just mentioning things that happen everyday in this country and pointing out the obvious. You can have sex with someone without a condom - and surely the safest person to do it with would be a girlfriend / boyfriend you believe you are in love with who is stating they are on the pill- but also recognize unplanned pregnancies and people who obtain STDs don't think it is going to happen to them and these people have all justified the act in some way.

I justify having sex with a condom because it is the safest route to go short of abstinence that I can control any unplanned occurrences in this arena.

[DMBBeav]

Originally Posted by jas230314

lol dental dams... I use trojan magnums or lifestyles. (no joke) Theres something about normal trojans where they always broke when I used them, too tight :P

What movie is it where the kid uses magnums because it feels too tight and he gets the girl pregnant? Is it how Juno gets pregnant?

But I hear ya....for whatever reason Durex condoms have broken on me many, many times. Trojans only once.

[mr.MikeD]

Originally Posted by twk13

Query: Since condoms are only 97% (approx.) effective, does that not mean for you quantity people out there who use condoms that as you approach 50 bangs, it is a mathematical probability that one of those occurrences is going to result in a defective condom and possibly consequences?

It means that each and every time you use one, there is a 3 in 100 chance of that it will be ineffective.

Think of flipping a coin. Flipping it once and getting a heads doesn't make a tails more likely on the second flip.

Of course the more times, to more opportunities to encounter that 3 in 100 scenario

[dotpsd]

Originally Posted by TrippingBrando

first bolded part - threesome?

second bold part -

hahahahaha nope but it was though, that's just a typo unfortunately

yes had to add that in there for the hell of quoting a cool song

[Head In Hands]

I've been with the same guy since 2002....after a few months being with him we stopped using condoms. I'm still on birth control. We're getting married this July. We've resorted to using condoms if I accidentally mess up on my pills or if I'm on antibiotics (which reduce their effectiveness) but that's probably one condom a year

I dislike condoms....but if you aren't in a situation that's committed and monogamous you should. Only time I'll be using them is in the 2 situations I said above.

[giantsfan]

Originally Posted by mr.MikeD

It means that each and every time you use one, there is a 3 in 100 chance of that it will be ineffective.

Think of flipping a coin. Flipping it once and getting a heads doesn't make a tails more likely on the second flip.

Of course the more times, to more opportunities to encounter that 3 in 100 scenario

If flipping a coin is truly a 50/50 chance, then mathematically speaking, as you continue flipping the coin, you will approach a 50/50 ratio. If the first 200 times you flipped the coin you got a lopsided result of heads, then you should expect that with the next few hundred flips you will get a lopsided result of tails towards evening the overall results, otherwise you should begin to think that the coin is not weighted 50/50. If you were to bang 100 times, it is very probable (and I mean probable, which is how I stated it in the first post) that close to 3 times you will have a defective condom. Sure, you may go 100 times without a problem, but it is a mathematical certainty that as you increase that number drastically, you will come to a result of around 97% effectiveness.